For it is Gods plan !

By LJ James

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There once was a young couple who lived in a beautiful town. They had the best of everything. Their love was strong and real. When their first child was born she was the most beautiful child they had ever seen.The couple believed their life to be perfect.

One day when their Daughter was about seven years old the Couple was in a car crash.Checking his wife right away the husband was relived to see she was ok. They both had received only a few scratches.They turned to check on their young daughter and as soon as they saw her both of them burst into tears.The wife started screaming NO GOD ! PLEASE GOD NO ! Their pain was felt by anyone and everyone who happened to be around them that day. The Beautiful young child had passed on and left this world .

During the funeral the deceased child's mother kept asking why ? Why my child? oh dear Lord why? People paying there respects to this wonderful couples most beautiful child tried to console her. They told her things like "It is the Lords will" and "She is in Heaven now" These things did not help the child's Mother and she cursed God Saying to the People "There is no God" for if there was such a God how could he allow something so terrible to happen? Surely he would have saved my child and she would still be here with us!!

Years passed by as they always do and the pain this Couple felt started to ease. They had more children over the years, all very beautiful None quite as beautiful as their first one.Their life went back to being as close to perfect as can be.But Every time the women heard something bad had happened in the world it reinforced her belief that there was no God and no Heaven up above,For surely no God would allow such terrible things to happen in this world !!!

One day as the Woman was walking to the store she heard these screams "NO LORD PLEASE LORD NO" The tone of the screams took her back to the death of her child and she ran toward the sound of them. She saw the woman who was screaming and behind her she could see a building on fire, My Child is in there Screamed the woman! Pointing to the building engulfed in flames. Knowing the pain this woman would go threw and not wishing it on anyone she raced into the building. Flames shot at her and she could feel them burning her but the pain was some where else and did not hurt her .As the flames got larger and the heat got much hotter the woman thought this is what hell must be like! Then she thought but there is no hell for if there is No God and No Heaven then there can't be a Hell can there? These thoughts passed threw the woman's mind as she felt herself begin to grow tired.

As She felt herself about to pass out the Women saw a child in the distance and with new found strength she started walking towards the child. As she got closer she could see it was the most beautiful young girl she had ever seen . When she reached the child the child spoke hello mother it is I your Daughter the one killed in that car accident those many years ago.

No the Woman said you are gone your Dead. Dead yes I may be Mother but gone no I have never left you .I have always been in your heart and you in mine. But I am with the Father now in the most Wonderful Kingdom imaginable. With who? asked the Woman , The Father God answered the child the one you denounced upon my death. No said the woman there can't be a GOD or a heaven For surely no God would allow the Terrible things to Happen that happen upon this earth. Terrible things are done by terrible people answered the child and they will answer for their sins in the afterlife have no fear of that my Mother, The Lord will see that justice is done.

But what of you asked the Mother you where not taken from me by a terrible person it was an accident why did the Lord take you from me. The Child smiled at her Mother and spoke Mother what you see as the most terrible thing ever is not. For I am in the Kingdom of the Lord and there is no greater reward then that ! My life on Earth was short Mother, I agree with you on that but Mother let me let you in on a little secret "All life on Earth is short" It is just a blink of the eye to the Father. Miss me Mother for I know you always will, But have faith in the Father for if you believe in him and follow his words you will be with me again one day and then you will feel no pain or sorrow ever again. The Mother reached down picked up her child closing her eyes and hugging the child to her bosom, She heard a voice that was not her Daughters say "I will always Love you my Child"

The woman opened her eyes and she saw lights and heard sirens and the voices of many people. Not sure what was going on she looked down at her child only to see that she was not holding her child but a small young boy. The Woman who she had seen screaming was grabbing for this child saying Thank you oh thank you Lord for sending this Woman to rescue my Child ,In my heart Lord I always knew you would save him, for surely you would never allow something so terrible to happen !!!! By L.J. James AmericanBikerX.com - 15784

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LJ writes many stories on many things, Most of them are on the Motorcycle Club Life. LJ works for and is a part of a Collection Agency .

For it is Gods plan !

By LJ James

For it is Gods plan ![I:0:T]

There once was a young couple who lived in a beautiful town. They had the best of everything. Their love was strong and real. When their first child was born she was the most beautiful child they had ever seen.The couple believed their life to be perfect.

One day when their Daughter was about seven years old the Couple was in a car crash.Checking his wife right away the husband was relived to see she was ok. They both had received only a few scratches.They turned to check on their young daughter and as soon as they saw her both of them burst into tears.The wife started screaming NO GOD ! PLEASE GOD NO ! Their pain was felt by anyone and everyone who happened to be around them that day. The Beautiful young child had passed on and left this world .

During the funeral the deceased child's mother kept asking why ? Why my child? oh dear Lord why? People paying there respects to this wonderful couples most beautiful child tried to console her. They told her things like "It is the Lords will" and "She is in Heaven now" These things did not help the child's Mother and she cursed God Saying to the People "There is no God" for if there was such a God how could he allow something so terrible to happen? Surely he would have saved my child and she would still be here with us!!

Years passed by as they always do and the pain this Couple felt started to ease. They had more children over the years, all very beautiful None quite as beautiful as their first one.Their life went back to being as close to perfect as can be.But Every time the women heard something bad had happened in the world it reinforced her belief that there was no God and no Heaven up above,For surely no God would allow such terrible things to happen in this world !!!

One day as the Woman was walking to the store she heard these screams "NO LORD PLEASE LORD NO" The tone of the screams took her back to the death of her child and she ran toward the sound of them. She saw the woman who was screaming and behind her she could see a building on fire, My Child is in there Screamed the woman! Pointing to the building engulfed in flames. Knowing the pain this woman would go threw and not wishing it on anyone she raced into the building. Flames shot at her and she could feel them burning her but the pain was some where else and did not hurt her .As the flames got larger and the heat got much hotter the woman thought this is what hell must be like! Then she thought but there is no hell for if there is No God and No Heaven then there can't be a Hell can there? These thoughts passed threw the woman's mind as she felt herself begin to grow tired.

As She felt herself about to pass out the Women saw a child in the distance and with new found strength she started walking towards the child. As she got closer she could see it was the most beautiful young girl she had ever seen . When she reached the child the child spoke hello mother it is I your Daughter the one killed in that car accident those many years ago.

No the Woman said you are gone your Dead. Dead yes I may be Mother but gone no I have never left you .I have always been in your heart and you in mine. But I am with the Father now in the most Wonderful Kingdom imaginable. With who? asked the Woman , The Father God answered the child the one you denounced upon my death. No said the woman there can't be a GOD or a heaven For surely no God would allow the Terrible things to Happen that happen upon this earth. Terrible things are done by terrible people answered the child and they will answer for their sins in the afterlife have no fear of that my Mother, The Lord will see that justice is done.

But what of you asked the Mother you where not taken from me by a terrible person it was an accident why did the Lord take you from me. The Child smiled at her Mother and spoke Mother what you see as the most terrible thing ever is not. For I am in the Kingdom of the Lord and there is no greater reward then that ! My life on Earth was short Mother, I agree with you on that but Mother let me let you in on a little secret "All life on Earth is short" It is just a blink of the eye to the Father. Miss me Mother for I know you always will, But have faith in the Father for if you believe in him and follow his words you will be with me again one day and then you will feel no pain or sorrow ever again. The Mother reached down picked up her child closing her eyes and hugging the child to her bosom, She heard a voice that was not her Daughters say "I will always Love you my Child"

The woman opened her eyes and she saw lights and heard sirens and the voices of many people. Not sure what was going on she looked down at her child only to see that she was not holding her child but a small young boy. The Woman who she had seen screaming was grabbing for this child saying Thank you oh thank you Lord for sending this Woman to rescue my Child ,In my heart Lord I always knew you would save him, for surely you would never allow something so terrible to happen !!!! By L.J. James AmericanBikerX.com - 15784

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LJ James writes lots of stories on lots of things, Most of them are on the Motorcycle Club world. LJ James works for and is a part of a Collection Agency .

How to Find Great Deals When Buying Online

By Amy Nutt

Shopping for a good deal used to mean buying the paper to look for advertisements and flyers for sales, then traveling the world over to look for the item that you wanted on some special unadvertised special, only to be disappointed when you found it somewhere else for less a week after you bought it.

Online shopping has eliminated a lot of these headaches and there are plenty of ways to be able to ensure that youll find a good deal when procuring the items that you want online.

Online Marketplaces

An online marketplace, like Amazon, is a bit similar to going to the Mall, only online. Youll find a multitude of different types of items for sale from different sources, letting you comparison shop between vendors while you only visit one website.

The great thing about this is that you can sort your selection by the total price, eliminating the need for comparison shopping because the lowest price automatically comes up first for you.

Another great feature of an online marketplace, like Amazon, is that they often rate their vendors, so youll be able to ensure that you are buying your item from a vendor that has a high satisfaction rate among the customers that it has served.

Online Coupon Sites

Gone are the days of clipping and saving coupons out of the paper, in hopes that you can keep them organized enough to find once you reach the cash register at the store. There are online retailers now that deliver coupon codes directly to your e-mail inbox.

When you do your shopping at the merchants online store, you simply type in the coupon code that they provided into the appropriate field and youll automatically receive your discount at checkout.

There are also sites on the web that do nothing but give out those coupon codes. So if you are in the market for a particular item, but arent on the merchants mailing list, you can pay one of the coupon code sites a visit to see if there are any discounts available on the items that you are looking to purchase.

Auction Sites

Not all online auctions are full of used and worn out merchandise, many have brand new and still in the package items up for auction. Since merchants and vendors are competing for your business, many are likely to try and undersell their competition. You may not be able to find every item that you are looking for in the condition that you would like it in, but if you do happen to come across it, youll very likely be able to get a great deal on it.

Online Classifieds

Online classifieds are similar to auction sites, in the fact that there is no 'stock' items, you may or may not be able to track down what youre looking for at any given time and much of what you find in online classifieds will be used. If you are shopping for yourself and dont mind a bit of a treasure hunt, or the fact that youll be buying something secondhand, you may be able to find a treasure thats the steal of the century.

Many online classifieds, including the Granddaddy of them all, Craigslist, let people advertise for free, so some people are more willing to put their items up their than have to pay the fee of an online auction site. This usually means that there are hundreds of thousand of new items listed daily including Dell computers, some good and some bad, and maybe just what youre looking for at an incredible price - right in your neighborhood.

The days of struggling to find a good deal are over, and with new advancements in technology every single day, the ability to find what you want for less online will only get easier. - 15784

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5 Secret Reasons Why Women Reject Men

By katie George

So you did it! You worked up the courage to approach an attractive woman and start a conversation. But as soon as you open your mouth she finds a reason to get away from you.

The question is did you do something wrong or is she simply a rude person?

Well she might be mean, but she might also have a reason for her behavior. In fact, there might be a specific reason why she rejected you. In the next few minutes, I'll cover 5 of the most common reasons why women reject men and what it means to you.

1. This woman is taken

One of the simplest reasons why a woman will reject you is because she has a boyfriend or husband. Now if she's taken don't be too disappointed. Simply move on to a woman who is available.

2. She is not in a good mood

It's a simple truth that we all have bad days. Perhaps you approached this woman one hour after her dog died. So any attempt to draw her into conversation will meet with disaster.

You want to see how she's acting before you approach. If she looks particularly angry or sullen, then you might want to talk to a different woman.

3. She is evil

Now one principle I try to internalize is the fact that ANY rejection I get is the result of something I did wrong on the approach. By adopting this attitude, I'm able to examine what I did and learn from it.

But there is a simple truth about some women. Sometimes you'll encounter some women who are pure evil. Frankly they enjoy manipulating guys and hurting them. If you see scores of guys approaching a woman and walking away with a dejected look, then you she might be an evil girl.

4. She was recently hurt

There are some periods in a woman's life where she is not interested in dating men. A lot of this is because some another guy deeply hurt her. So unfortunately your attempts could meet with a swift rebuke. To her, you represent ALL men who have hurt her during her lifetime.

5. She didn't like your approach

The way you approached a woman was wrong. Perhaps you used a cheesy pick up line or you didn't display the right kind of body language.

What's promising is this the ONLY reason for rejection in which you have control. If you know the right way to approach a woman and initiate a conversation, then you'll quickly reduce your chances of rejection.

There are many reasons why a woman will reject men. While you can't control most of these factors, there is one major way to eliminate any chance of her turning you down. If you learn the right way to initiate a conversation, you'll see a dramatic increase in your success with women. - 15784

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Important elements in a separation agreement

By James Rankin

It is vital to keep in mind that even though a separation agreement can be a very potent document it cannot finish a marriage; a divorce is the only thing that can end a marriage. However they can work together, while a divorce will end the marriage the agreement can take care of the particulars.

Or, it can be used on its own so that a divorce can come later, or not at all. Some separated couples get back together or remain apart but never actually terminate their marriage with a divorce.

Sometimes an agreement is filed with the court when a divorce is processed. Other than that, it is only filed or registered with the court if one party breaks the agreement and the other needs to ask the court to enforce it. Filing it with the court does not make it legal, signing it does. But it has to be signed correctly.

In some provinces certain terms of the agreement are not enforceable unless each spouse receives independent legal advice (from a lawyer) prior to signing it or at least signs a waiver of independent legal advice which is witnessed by a lawyer. It is always a wise move to spend a little extra to have a lawyer go over your agreement with you before you sign it.

Be sure to have your spouse get independent legal advice as well. If they do not get it, they can ask the court to overturn it because they did not understand what they were signing.

The care and financial support of children, spousal support, and division of property and debt. These are the main issues that need to be taken care of in a separation agreement. If you do not have one or any of these issues to deal with then the agreement will be easier to make.

So the essential things to keep in mind are: 1. to understand what a separation agreement can and cannot do; 2. to make sure that it is signed correctly after receiving independent legal advice; and 3. to make sure it deals with the important issues of children, income and property. - 15784

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The author suggests DivorceOnline.ca/separationagreement for additional tips about separation agreements.

Dating Advice for Women in Mid-Life

By katie George

When a death or divorce leaves a woman alone it can be difficult to get back into the swing of things. A female in later life, especial the type that been with the same man for many years, has trouble adjusting to the dating scene once again.

An individual may still have hurt feelings and pain from the tragedy. They may think that they are too old to try and date and find another love. Maybe the individual is not looking for a long term relationship again. Casual dating could give a person a massive case of anxiety and the feelings of despair. With simple suggestions and tips a person could feel at ease going out to clubs or different styles of parties to meet new and exciting individuals.

When an older lady desires to get back into the dating scene they may feel overwhelmed. They could think that they are too old to try to causal date at this time. This is just untrue. An individual in the prime of her life is vital and could find fun and excitement from other individuals.

These types of people need to go hang out with their friends and start a conversation with strangers. Buy them a drink or ask them for a dance. Men love an assertive woman for dating. There is no reason whatsoever that a lady cannot find a date for Saturday night. The drive is what makes a person feel like they can accomplish this goal. There are various methods that an individual could find a date. Through friends, dating services or going out.

A female is inclined to let the man make the first move. In this day and age some men are as timid and shy as women are. If someone catches the eye, go for it. There is nothing to lose by asking a gentleman for a drink or a dance. Say hi and make small talk. There is no commitment by having a small conversation.

A woman could find a class or a hobby they enjoy doing. This is a wonderful way to meet new friends and begin dating again. If the same old bar and club scene is becoming old and tired, there are other ways to find people to hang out with. After a breakup, a person does not need to be alone for the rest of their lives. An individual could come up with new and creative methods of enjoying a man's time.

After a massive heart-break an individual may not feel like going out and meeting new members of the opposite sex. However, the longer a person waits, the harder it is to begin dating again. Just because a breakup ended badly does not mean that a lady needs to give up hope for love.

Everyone has a soul mate waiting for them; only the extreme lucky ones will find them at their front door. If a relationship did not work, learn from the experience and move on. Every single female could have a fun time dating and getting to know different individuals. - 15784

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How To Date Your Friend's Ex

By katie George

It has become crucial to find some one for yourself, to love, to take care of and to be with. When you reach your late 20's and early 30's, you figure out that you are the one single and that the others are not. Your friends have got married and having kids, overall having a happy life. While you see holidays like Valentines Day pass by like a normal day waiting long for some one.

What if you found that you connected with someone really special, but he happened to be your friends ex? Is it normal to go forward with that relationship? Now it all depends on the circumstances. After all, you get tired of single bars, and having coffee alone.

Dating your friends ex completely depends on the way he/she has ended the relationship. If the past couple are having a normal lifestyle that of good friends, then maybe you can knock on the loved one's door.

Take it easy

Start smoothly with exchanging phone numbers and having long phone conversations that might go on for hours.

What to Talk

Better talk about your lives, aims, families and almost anything you can think of.

How to Handle

It becomes tricky at first because you might start dating in absolute secrecy, always afraid you'd run into the wrong person who would rat you out. The only stumbling block you would have will be telling your friend.

Judgment Day

It becomes a really nervous situation and feels uncomfortable as soon as the friend comes over. Things might fall in place or you might even lose a good friend. But you have to break the news to your friend, no matter what. Before someone else tells him/her, you better be the first one. - 15784

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Poems I wrote sometime after 1995

By LJ James

POEMS I WROTE SOMETIME AFTER 1995 [I:0:T]

I have been asked recently if I have ever written any Poetry . I had said No at first. Then I remembered that some time back after 1995 after a break up with a Girl that I had lived with for a while. (Probably the only real relationship of my life, So Far) I wrote what I would call "two poems"!

The first I wrote right after the break up. I guess I was at the point I was just trying show I was a hardcore man and the break up did not effect me. So I was trying to be funny about the whole thing.

The second I wrote years later after my Dog "Mutely Junior" was killed. Juniors Mother had been the Girl I had lived withs Dog named "Riff Raff", and his Father was named "Mutely" He had been my Fathers dog . When me and the girl broke up, Junior was still only a puppy about six months old and he was by my side the whole time. He was like my Son. The girl I had dated had kids that I helped take care of while I lived there and I do not think it could have been much harder leaving the kids had they been my own flesh and blood.

I do not fall in love easy and my life has always been about being a Biker and I have often said the last thing I want to do is anything like getting married and having kids. I have always said I want something more from life. So I found it very odd and disconcerting that I found myself so happy living with this Girl playing the roll of Father to her kids ! I guess what we tell ourselves we want and what you really want can be two totally different things! I was young then and as I look back now I can remember I did not keep it much of a secret that I wanted more from life and I can only assume that was a big part of why we broke up.

After the Break up I lived in a Cabin in the woods in upstate NY in a small town for about 4 years. Junior was almost always by my side and he and I enjoyed many adventures during that time. As much as I loved my life in the Cabin. I once again found myself wanting more from life. So I moved to Long Island NY. I was getting myself set up in yet another new life. During this time while I got my new life in order, I had left Junior with my Father to be take care of . One night my Father let him out and Junior ran off . A few days later Junior was found by the Train tracks. He had been hit by a Train and was dead. It was no ones fault. Junior had always loved fast to run threw the woods. It was part of who he was. When I heard about Juniors death I wrote the Second poem. Junior was the last part of what I often think of as a different life I once lived. With Junior gone it was at that point that I truly felt the break up.

These Poems are not of me now but of a Me I once was or maybe a Me I could have been. I believe I have now found my place in the world and I am almost positive I am happy. So I will post these poems for you all to read! Some may say these poems will make me look weak. To them I say always remember looks can be deceiving !!!

I hope you enjoy the poems. LJ James

Love?

I told you Id walk a Million Miles for you. You said Please do.

I told you I would clime the highest Mountain for you. You said I hope you fall off.

I told you I would swim the oceans for your Love . You said I hope you Drown.

I told you my heart was yours You said let me see it.

I told you I would die for you. You said prove it!!!

Sweet Heart I'm starting to get the feeling you don't Love Me !!!! By L.J. James

----------------------------------------------------------- Home or Lost

I stand here alone thinking of a place gone Past. Never thinking that I have been away so long.

Its a strange feeling to know your home is no longer yours but now some others.

I can't go back, but I still wonder if I would.

I was always cold on that hill but my heart was warm.

My Dog was born there but now he too is gone Killed in the Night by a train going some where I have never been.

My heart got broke but I did not cry.

I though I was happy before I really was. Now I wonder can I be again.

My heart calls out for me to follow the sun. But I don't remember where it is that I was going before I stopped here

Am I happy here, I think so but I've been wrong before! By L.J. James AmericanBikerX.com - 15784

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LJ writes stories about the Motorcycle Club Life. He works for and is a partner at this Collection Agencey

An Inventive Romantic Lives in You

By Mary Bush

Why is it that so many people believe that they don't have time or the initiative to be romantic? Perhaps most men and women don't accept that they are inventive enough to be romantic. Everyone is inventive! The definition of being inventive is having the ability or capacity to produce. The word invent offers a much broader definition than most people accept when it comes to the technique of being able to come up with something original or just sufficiently thought out.

Gifts that are considered to be traditionally romantic like candy and flowers are fantastic, but occasionally you want that something special that pushes to the extremes. If your partner enjoys flowers, you don't have to settle for roses because they can become unexciting after a while! Present him or her with something totally original such as a daisy or another blossom where petals can be counted. Ask him or her to play the childhood pastime of 'they love me, they love me not' and watch them pull the petals as they go. Warning, don't allow for the chance of him or her arriving at the 'they love me not' . Count the petals before you present the bloom to your partner and trim it so that there is an odd number of petals for the desired result!

Arts and crafts used to be a fun break from the drudgery of the public school day, but believe it or not, it will come in handy when it comes to original romantic gestures. Instead of promising that you will love him or her forever, show them. Get a piece of paper, ribbon or other fabric you choose and write "I love you" on both sides from end to end. Twist the paper 180 degrees and connect both ends of the paper until you have made what looks like the number eight. Tape or glue to ends together. You can present your love with a figure that shows them your love for them is an infinite love.

Creativity comes in many different forms! Being original can mean creating an atmosphere. If you want to plan the ultimate romantic evening but funds are low or you just don't want to have to leave the house, close down the electricity and mimic a power outage (it's up to you whether or not you tell him or her!). You won't have any distractions or warmth, so it is up to both of you to keep the other heated and amuse each other.

Maybe romance is on your mind, but he or she is going on a trip out of town. Did you know that people on airplanes are typically incurable romantics? Any flight attendant would be more than delighted to make sure that your partner receives a special gift after the plane has left the area. Simply approach a crewmember after your partner boards the plane and they are, on the whole, more than happy to accommodate a hopeless romantic like you! (You might want to make sure that the present is unwrapped or keep it to a single rose due to heightened security.)

Creativity doesn't have to come in the shape of gifts every single time. Gestures like getting up and dancing with your partner when a specific tune comes on the radio is quite inventive and amazingly romantic! Whenever the inclination strikes you, allow your creative juices to run wild! - 15784

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How To Find Someone's Birthday Without Any Embarrassment

By katie George

You often can't find someone's birthday by asking them

There's only one thing that people hate more than growing old and that's letting other people know that they're getting older. People often lie about their age so that they can give the impression of being younger than they really are.

Of course if you are very young it's more common for you to try and give the impression that you're older and more mature than you really are. This is another reason why you might lie about your age. There's probably an optimum age when you don't mind telling your real age but I think most people race through this period very quickly.

So if you want to send someone a birthday gift or you need to know their true age for some reason how do you find out what it is without causing embarrassment?

Be very discreet when trying to find out someone's date of birth

Often people don't want you to know how old they are because they take pride in their youthful looks and outlook. They might even lie about their age to add to the illusion. In fact lying about your age must be one of the most common 'white lies' there is. It might even be the most common lie that anyone makes. You can't just walk up to someone and ask, "How old are you?" because you can potentially cause a lot of embarrassment and you can't rely on getting a truthful answer in any case.

You have to be discrete if you want to find someone's birthday. You need to find a way to look up their birth record without letting them know that you're doing it. You can't ask them directly and you can't ask their friends either. Friends might feel that they're betraying a trust or they might not know the true age of the person anyway. Luckily there is a way to do this using the Internet. See below.

Is there anyone you could ask about this persons date of birth?

You might be able to ask close friends or relatives of the person but I think that you need to know them very well before you do. You could look up their birth records if you knew where to go to find it but that seems like a lot of hard work to me.

If you are close to friends or relatives of the person then they might be prepared to give you the information that you are looking for but they might not even know the answers. They might think that they know their age but they are way off without knowing it.

How to find someone's date of birth quick, easy and discrete

Vast amounts of information about us all including your date of birth are now stored in databases much of which are available to you to access if you only knew which database you needed and where to go to find it. The problem is knowing how to do the searches and having the time to do it.

Don't worry because help is at hand. It's now possible to access hundreds or thousands of databases consisting of literally billions of records about you and almost anyone you can think of. You can do all of this by using a single website which makes the whole process much more attractive. - 15784

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Avoid a Breakup and Save Your Relationship

By Mary Bush

Most people realize that their partner isn't really with them emotionally when they discover that their significant other is usually not around at home. Do you actually recall when you first met each other? Most people recall how they first fell in love with their partner because it is a uniquely special moment with most couples.

Remember also that in course of life, things do happen. Family members are born or die, jobs are lost or gained, there's money to be made and spent, and health situations can change either for the better or can get worse. Many situations can affect the relationship between two people who are committed to each other.

Remember what first drew you to your partner in the first place. so engage yourself in conversations about what's going on in your families and in your lives that you share. Showing a little love goes a long way in a relationship. Be clear and intent on communicating love by showing some nurturing and caring touch.

Don't keep track of the real or imagined slights and things your partner did to offend and hurt you. Instead, find some common ground to solve the problem or issue so you both agree. Show that you are committed to saving the relationship and be firm about it with your partner.

By remembering your love with your significant other that you had in the past, you need to try to revive it together. If you don't set up some time to spend together, think of the consequences if you don't. Do you both really want to work on this partnership?

Be proactive together as a committed couple. If you can't agree on what the problems are or how to solve those problems, do some research and get learn some techniques on how to get started. It will be rewarding and can only help you both if you both determine to follow through on a step by step plan together.

Keep asking your spouse if they want to still spend time on salvaging your relationship. And keep saying that you are willing to do the work together with them. The choice you want to make is to stay united as a couple, and stay with your decision.

Consider that to learn how to stop a breakup also means that you have to be patient with no expectation of fast results. Don't forget that when you both are working on your relationship learn to have some pleasure, laughter, and fun again. Love is also an expression of joy you have in knowing each other. - 15784

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Five Essential Tips Hot To Be Confident On The First Date

By Mary Bush

A first date is important because it dictates the next crop of dates. For some people, the first date is the date. It can give an initial idea on what type of person your date is and gives a basic compatibility test for both of you. You may have just recently met the person or he/she may already be a long-time friend but the first date should not be taken lightly. Some people have so much riding on their first date that they become nervous wrecks even before the date. The sad thing is, there is no hard-and-fast rule on how to be on tip-top shape on your first date but there are ways for you to look and feel confident on the big day.

1. Chill

This is not an admissions exam to the Harvard University or a job interview for a CEO position, this is just a date. Try to keep your expectations at mid-level. You might go home feeling like you have won the jackpot or you might go home feeling like you have wasted your time. Try to keep both scenarios in mind. Approach a first date as you would a day at the beach. Chill and have fun.

2. Dress to impress

A lot of people judge other people by how they dress. It is a fact of life. So although you are very comfortable in jeans and a loose shirt, you might need to put more effort if you want to feel confident talking to your date. Make sure you know where you are going through your first date though. If you decide on dinner, the little black dress or a dressy top and pants is a perfect outfit for the females. A jacket and slacks would be great for the men. Knowing that you are dressed in something that shows your best assets will assure a high level of confidence.

3. Be in your best mood

Being confident means a clear mind and a ready attitude to listen to your date. This, after all, is the getting-to-know-you stage. Expect a lot of conversations about your date. If you had a bad day at the office and in no mood for talking, go to the salon to have your nails done for a little pick-me-up. If you have lots of time before the date, take a hot relaxing bath or sweat it out first in the gym for that much-needed endorphins.

4. Be yourself

So okay, you have heard this advice a million times before. But there is a big reason why it is repeated over and over again. It is pretty hard to pretend someone you are not. You just might end compromising yourself with ridiculous inconsistent story about yourself. It can be good PR to give a few white lies about yourself but in the end, you are date will see through your disguise.

5. Pretend to be confident

Because even if you are not, nobody can tell the difference. Be willing to take the plunge and put yourself out there. So what if the first try at dating bombs, you can always try again. Confidence is not always inborn, it needs to be learned and honed too. - 15784

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Nurturing Online Dating Relationships

By Mary Bush

In order for online dating to be successful, a member should take caution and follow some safety measures. When you are trying to hook up with someone, it is not just yourself you should take care of and protect, but also the tools you use in the Internet realm such as the computer and the systems.

This equipment needs to be protected when you search websites and interact online, so set it up with a firewall and anti-virus protection.

Protecting yourself in selecting dating sites can be through asking friends and coworkers who may have tried online dating and checking out what they recommend best. Take note of the website links, rules and regulations and contact information and compare which of them is the safest.

Having said those, you are now armed with the correct tools and knowledge and now lets talk about the growing e-relationships. Actually, this type is no different than what we do in the real world of dating. E-relationships also need nurturing for it to grow and end up happy with it.

hat e-relationship needs

Find time, take time and make time to get in touch with the person on a regular basis. If you try to neglect virtual meetings, your e-relationship will end weakly. It can appear to be ill-treatment. So give time and treat each other with respect. If it does not work for you anymore, then move on.

Communication is the key to a perfect if not better relationship. Give yourselves time to know each other more and do not rush. Build the rapport and develop the trust. If either of you is too pushy, then the relationship suffers.

Do not share personal email addresses or digital photos online. Respect each others privacy. This is one rule that you have to abide with, especially when you have already exchange IMs or email addresses. Everything you talk about outside of the dating site should be treated with confidence.

Show emotions like thoughtfulness. You can send greeting cards, links to music and videos or download music that your online date likes. Caring is like watering plants and exposing them to the right sunlight. Overtime, they flower and bear fruits. The same thing in any relationship, we tend to it to make it alive and grow.

Dating has always been essential for men and women to meet. In the olden days, parents wanted that before the relationship gets deeper, the couple should get to know each other very well first. Even though times have changed a lot, people still meet with each other. Regular dating is still very much in vogue, though, till today.

However, another form has been introduced, online dating, in cyberspace, a date taking place in the virtual world. It has become a good place to start before engaging on a regular date, quite some distance between two people; but the bottom line, whether simply having fun and feeling the excitement, however it turns out to be, a relationship works when it is cared for and nurtured. - 15784

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Russian Mail Order Brides

By Jason King

Thousands of men from all over the world have found happiness after using a mail order bride service. The arrival of the internet has made these services much more popular,and everything gets done a lot faster now.A nd this has increased their success rate in matching single men with their new brides.

Years ago everything was done through letters and photos which takes a long time for the mail to go back and forth. With the internet as your form of communication, everything is done in minutes now.

Once you have seen a selection of your potential brides you then go abroad to meet some of them. You go on a tour and meet lots of women so you get a chance to connect with someone.

On a romance tour you will first meet the ladies in their home country. You will be invited to large "Socials" where you will have the chance to meet hundreds of attractive eligible women. These women are seriously looking for a husband from a foreign country so they can move abroad.

The Socials are invitation only, and are very private affairs for those who have been invited. You receive a list of all the women attending before you arrive. Socials are professionally hosted events, and you will be made to feel as comfortable as possible. Your chances of meeting someone are very high because the way everything is done.

The Socials are fully catered events. You have good food, music and refreshments. You can attend more than one event so you can expose yourself to as many potential brides as possible. These women are their to meet a potential husband, and they are not shy about doing what they came for. This makes it so much easier for you, and makes the whole process as relaxed as possible. The women are looking for the right man to give them the life they've always wanted and haven't got in their home country.

You have the opportunity to interact with hundreds of eligible single women. The organizers will encourage to to met as many women as possible so your chances of success are maximized. Once you have found a potential bride you can arrange another meeting with her. This is all done through the event organizers so everything is safe and secure.

Children are a major factor when speaking with a potential bride. This will need to be discussed early so no disappointments occur later. All you need to do is prioritize your criteria, and you will narrow your list of possible brides. You shouldn't be disappointed with the choices you have left.

Most of the women their will speak fluent English, and for the women that don't the organizers will have interpreters there for you. Once you have found someone you like you will get help from the organizers as what to do next. They can help with tickets for a night out or a city tour. Or you can let your date take you out if she knows the city well enough. This all helps create an early bind between you, and creates more interaction. Whatever you do, keep in touch with the organizers so you have complete assistance throughout your courtship with your mail order bride. - 15784

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2 Fantastic & Creative Ways to Ask a Girl Out

By Mary Bush

So there is this lady you really fancy and you'll like to ask her out on a date. But wait a minute! Do you know that the way you ask a lady out can either ruin things for you or seal the deal?

If a lady senses that you would be an exciting person to hang out with, the chances are that she would definitely say 'yes' to a date with you. So your challenge is to show her how intriguing you are, starting from the way you ask her out. Here are two great suggestions to help you:

1. Send her a personalized invite - Just imagine her opening up what she thinks is a party invitation, just to discover it's an invitation to a candle light dinner for two. You could also put in a poem or add a rose to increase the thrill. Then just seat back and get ready for 'the' phone call.

2. Use the Media - The first time I saw this tip in action, it was used by my friend Mark. Mark liked Joan, and wanted to ask her out. One night he got one of their friends to call her up and ask her to listen to something interesting on radio. Joan turned on her radio, and a few minutes later, Mark called in to the radio program to say how much he liked her, and also to ask her out on their first date. The whole school was buzzing the next day, and as you've probably already guessed Joan said 'yes'!

Apply either of my suggestions, throw in a twist or two, and you are sure to get a big 'YES!' to your question. Now the ball is in your hands, go ahead and plan out a date she'll never forget. - 15784

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Why Not Learn About Love

By Mary Bush

Socrates one of history's greatest teachers said, "One could not find a better helper for human nature than love". So why aren't we teaching about love?

Why learn about love? Don't people know what they need to know naturally? Isn't understanding love, a kind of sixth sense that humans are born with?

It is possible that some of us learn what we need to know about love very early on in our lives. There is also a good bit of current research that implies human biochemistry opens us naturally to experiencing many of the emotions associated with love.

But, for most of us our early experiences with love are traumatic rollercoaster rides of confusing feelings and emotions. Unfortunately, for a variety of reasons the lessons of love can be very difficult. We often can get caught in the same cycle of misunderstanding, pain and confusion for years. We can make the same mistakes in our romantic relationships over and over again, never quite learning the lesson being taught. Eventually, with a little luck, wisdom and age win out and we begin to understand what love and a healthy romantic relationship can be.

Humans learn everything including what they come to understand about love by trial and error. Try and fail, apply what is learned and try again eventually this sequence leads to understanding. It doesn't matter whether it is phonics, math, shooting baskets or love the sequence is the same. The only real variable is the length of the sequence. How many times does it take to learn the lesson?

This is where the value of education and teaching play into the equation. A good teacher and properly applied educational strategies can make the time and effort required to learn shorter and dramatically easier. Love is at the core of our most important and desired emotional experiences. But, there are no schools or formal classes one can enroll in to learn about love. We leave learning about the most important human experience love, to chance and put up with the confusion, frustration, pain and difficulties that result.

Imagine the benefit of even an introductory course about love. Education is about providing appropriately organized information and setting up the circumstances for students to effectively move through a sequence of trial and error to arrive at new understanding.

Just a basic course providing an understanding of the history and physiology of love could help clarify the notion of love and perhaps save years of mistake and heartache. What could be learned from an introductory course on love could be important in every decision and relationship people will make during the rest of their life.

Why not learn about love the personal, social, and cultural benefit accrued by every student contributes immeasurably to everyone's future. - 15784

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Get The Most From Your Indian Online Dating Service

By Jennifer King

Gaining the maximum enjoyment out of your Indian online matchmaking web site will be the difference between staying on your own or meeting someone special. The first matter that needs to be sorted out is choosing the right Indian online matchmaking web site that will offer you what you're after. This is where your free memberships will be utilized to give you an edge over your competition.

Your Indian internet dating free trials

With so many Indian matchmaking services to decide over you can set up a free trial on more than one of them. Just becoming a member to one matchmaking service will limit you to what you will discover about your technique of internet matchmaking.

Experiment with your Indian personal ad

signing up for more than one matchmaking site will allow you to study the results of different parts of your personal ad. You might get results at the service that you least expect to. Even the most preferred Indian matchmaking service won't be the most valuable for every Indian single.

Use different photos

With your free memberships created at two or three dating services you can post a different photo at each web site. This allows you to see which photo gets a better response rate from other Indian singles. The photo that you think you look the best probably wont be the photo that attracts other singles. Just make sure they're able to easily see what you look like in each of the photos. And also make sure you're in the photos on your own.

See how many Indian singles use the web site local to you

Another advantage of joining two or three online matchmaking services allows you to see which one is more populated with the most Indian singles local to you. This will give you a larger choice of suitable singles. You'll also get more messages sent to you while you're on your guest membership.

Being a little bit unbiased with your search criteria will give you a lot more singles in your search results. If you're after that perfect single you won't have much of a choice on any matchmaking web site.

Don't pay for your membership too early

Your guest membership will last as long as you need it too. Don't pay for your membership until you need to start writing emails to other members at the matchmaking web site that you feel will give you a more suitable choice of results.

Paying for your membership too early can cause you to choose the wrong service, and that will just make you want to give up internet matchmaking altogether.

Have fun

The most critical part of being part of an Indian internet matchmaking service is to enjoy yourself. When you're enjoying yourself the other Indian singles that you contact and chat to will enjoy themselves. This will make you more accepted which will lead to you making more new friends, and meeting possible partners. - 15784

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What Every Guy Should Know About Seducing Women

By Chaszey Sandhriel

How does a man learn about seducing women? Effective seduction can be extremely stressful if a guy tries too hard or he doesn't try at all. A guy gets rejected when he tries too hard, and he won't get any dates if he doesn't try at all. So what's a regular guy do to start seducing women?

Start with affection. Don't be shy to show affection for a girl when you feel affection for her. It's okay to be emotionally available to her without holding back. One of the most natural forms of seduction is the mere task of thinking about romancing a girl, and it will show in your actions.

Let your touch linger. Once she feels comfortable around you, it's all right for you to share a hug and hold hands with her. Try to let your touch linger a few more seconds before you let go. Your subtle touches will keep her wondering and before you know it, she will follow your lead. Physical closeness will encourage good sexual tension.

Avoid sending mixed signals. Be consistent with your approach. Smile every time you see her. Women in general abhor getting rejected and so, if your girl isn't sure about your feelings for her, she won't risk it.

Stay alert for signs of seduction from her. A woman may also be trying to seduce you but you are too focused trying to learn about seducing women that she's getting frustrated! Seduction is always a two-way street, so perk up, take a look around and notice how girls are trying to woo you as well.

Rely on music to finish the job for you. Buy a good CD and put it on the next time she's in your apartment. Ask her for a "sound tripping" date and prepare a romantic dinner for her. Dress up and do some sexy dancing in your living room. Music will set the mood, will make her feel special and will lower her inhibitions.

Seducing women means seducing her senses, and this includes her sense of smell. Never approach a woman while you're sweaty and stinky. Smell activates certain states of mind that get her in the mood for love making. Put on a fragrant aftershave or light some scented candles. Lavender scents, in particular, relax women.

Have her feed you finger foods. Many women shift their gazes from your eyes to your lips; this is a good sign because it's absolutely seductive. Women's active imaginations and lip play on your part will get her fantasizing about being more intimate, such as kissing. Another great food to help with this are dips and chips so you can lick the dripping sauce off each other's fingers.

Seducing women also requires a lot of privacy, safety and scented oils. Ask if you can give her a massage, then start with her hands. Always be tuned into her mood and comfort level, and stop when you sense a slight discomfort. If you play your cards right and take your time, she won't be able to resist a relaxing massage from someone who cares. - 15784

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Knowledge and Wisdom: Two Distinct Phenomena

By Sohail Shakeri

After getting admitted to Harvard University, I thought I would be receiving the best possible education that this world has to offer. I was under the impression that the insights, teachings and wisdom that was shared there would provide me with inspiration and guidance for living and creating a well- rounded and balanced life. However, I soon realized that this was far from being true.

Harvard University is just like any other university. Sure, the Harvard admissions standards make sure the students who attend there have stronger mental focus and determination to succeed academically, but this by no means indicates that students who attend Harvard or any of the other prestigious Ivy League schools are somehow better off than students who do not attend such schools.

In fact, in taking a look back at past presidents of Harvard University going back from Henry Dunster all the way to Larry Summers, we will see that none of them had concentrated on cultivating and nurturing the human spirit; rather, they aimed to provide mental tools to create citizens with mental expertise, not heart-felt or spiritual insight. This is true for the topics of Theology and Philosophy, in addition to the Harvard University PhD programs.

While there may be specialized philosophical and theological topics such as "Philosophy of Man", "Types of Religion in the United States" and "Jesus and Absolute Truth" being taught and lectured on in the philosophy and religion departments, the depth of insight is clearly missing the foundation of what it means to teach philosophy and religion. To teach a course on "Jesus and Absolute Truth", for example, one would need to embody at least a certain degree of the 'Absolute Truth' which Jesus embodied in order for the class to be meaningful. The knowledge should emanate from the heart as it does with the Native American Apache Goddess of Wisdom.

University education in today's world has nothing to do with cultivating what it is that maximizes our human potential. Instead of creating new inspiring quotations, the current university education system merely works to analyze and break up surviving inspirational quotes. Human potential is not cultivated through brainwork, as is the focal point of universities throughout the world; rather, human potential is cultivated by heart work. In other words, human beings need to tap into their energetic potential that emanates from the heart and penetrates their entire being by creating a sense of vibrancy and presence which even the best university education cannot possibly cultivate.

Is there any particular reason that a university is not capable of cultivating this human potential that emanates from the heart? Yes, the reason is that university faculty and professors are hired based on their mental or intellectual capabilities... the number of courses they have taught, the number of articles they have published and the amount of lectures they have given at universities across the world, just to name a few of the mental criteria. However, cultivating the human heart and the human spirit can only be performed by people who themselves have had this practice and are ready to perform it on others.

In order to be qualified to bring out the best of the human spirit or the human heart, one does not need an Ivy League education or a vast array of certifications; in fact, one does not need any type of formal education whatsoever. Rather, a person simply needs to have had the human vibrancy brought out within their own souls, which can be accomplished very informally. Some of the most prominent spiritual teachers around the world have had no formal education. Rather, all that some of them have had is energetic training from their teacher(s) which does not result in any formal degree or certificate.

If we recognize that human potentiality is not tapped into by our current educational system, of which we view universities like Harvard, Princeton and Yale to be the 'cream of the crop', so to speak, then we can start to work towards shifting our societal focus to the realm that is important in cultivating great human beings... that is, the realm of the human heart. These are not just inspirational stories for work, but rather a means of transforming our world outlook. Only when Harvard and other top universities focus on this area of human energy can they live up to their reputation of cultivating the best in human potential. - 15784

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About the author: Sohail Shakeri, M.T.S. is a graduate of Harvard University who can help you discover Spirituality and Philosophy en route to Enlightenment.

Getting Good Dating Relationship Advice

By katie George

Seeking good dating relationship advice should be of paramount importance if you are one of those people that feels absolutely clueless on the dating scene. Many of us feel that we don't need the advice of our peers, but the truth is that input of any kind is generally helpful. Good dating relationship advice can get us on our feet and make us, possibly, more attractive to those we want to a future partner.

The area of relationship advice is often an overlooked area because many people feel that their relationships are so complicated that any advice given to them cannot possibly be suitable. The reality is, however, that many of the conflicts in dating relationships are similar to those in other relationships.

People tend to argue or fight about similar things and tend to create patterns. For example, many people argue about financial matters. A good case for relationship advice would counter those difficulties with conflict resolution involving fights with money.

As people enter into marriage relationships with a good background of dating relationship advice, the odds of success during inevitable marriage trials improve drastically. This is because, through their dating history, they were able to find better ways to resolve conflicts.

The possibility of using a marriage counselor, therefore, tends to diminish with the greater self-sufficiency of the couple. A marriage counselor, while helpful to people that need it, can be a costly option for people in a marriage.

Getting marriage help, for many, is the ultimate standard of helplessness. Many people equate marriage help to a last ditch effort and feel that it says that the marriage is in some sort of trouble. Getting dating relationship advice can be comparable, especially among the land of the proud.

The reality is, however, that seeking the advice of people that have "been there before" can be enlightening and can awaken fresh perspectives within relationships. Getting a new point of view out of marriage help or dating advice in any form can be a positive step to improving your relationships.

Although dating relationship advice can be helpful on many levels, it is important to remember that it is not for everyone. In our society, there are many people that tend to prefer to "go it alone" and try to solve their own problems without discussing them with family or friends.

This approach does not necessarily doom a couple to failure, but it does remove the possible elements of support that can help a relationship grow. Regardless, dating relationship advice is not for everyone but it certainly is helpful. - 15784

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