Girls Who Can't Trust their Friends

By Jennifer Bales

For generations, parents have been telling their children to be careful of strangers and it is a valuable piece of advice. But, it only paints part of the picture. The terrible truth that you see on the larger canvas is that you are more likely to be victimized by someone you know than an absolute stranger. In fact, statistics indicate that 8 out of 10 victims know their attacker.

Thousands of young women head off to college campuses every year, completely unprepared for the most common source of danger - acquaintances and dates. Being assaulted by someone you know and think you can trust carries a whole new set of baggage. Feelings of betrayal, a sense of responsibility, and perception of guilt. You may receive less support from friends and peers, as their loyalties are torn between the two sides.

Date and party rape are infrequently reported. Actually, that's a big understatement- about 90% of the time nothing is said about date rape. It's just brushed off as drunken antics at a party or a misunderstanding. This situation occurs thousands of times every year, on every campus across the country.

Heading off to school is supposed to be an exciting and challenging time, but it's also very difficult. Many kids have a hard time adjusting to life away from home. Some withdraw to their rooms and their books and others go a little haywire. It doesn't make them bad- just vulnerable.

These are the six things you need to make sure that your kids understand

The only sure way to prevent a miscarriage of justice is to prevent the crime. When alcohol and young people mix, situations can easily get out of hand. Your judgement goes downhill and so does your perception and then before you see anything coming- you have a mess on your hands.

If a date is making you feel uncomfortable, let them know immediately. Do not let the situation escalate. When your safety is on the line, there is no need to worry about being embarrassed or sparing another persons feelings. Make your feelings clear, and then immediately leave.

It is very easy to be charmed by a perfect guy, especially if you haven't done a lot of dating. But if you start to feel swamped and overwhelmed watch out for the danger signs of a potentially abusive relationship.

It's bound to happen that you'll be out with a one of the girls and she'll have too much to drink. You may not bail out on her when she is vulnerable. Be a true friend. No matter how hard it is for you, leave with her and take her to a safe place.

Never go to parties or drinking alone. Always go with a friend you can trust not to leave you alone if you get too intoxicated.

A college campus isn't filled only with people like the friends you grew up with. Seemingly "good people" can do terrible things. Remember that trust is something to be earned, not given away. Don't be a victim. - 15784

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Learning More About Your True Self

By Carol Ann

A lot of women have so many roles to maintain in their life, if they were to be taken away, it would be hard to imagine what would be left standing. Of course, we are happy to do all the roles required of us, and to feel a sense of accomplishment in them.

But, these roles do not define who we are. The roles change, and this usually thrusts us down a new road.

Waiting until some life changing event forces itself up on you is not the most opportune time to learn about yourself. Making an effort to know yourself along the way will enhance your life as well as the lives you touch.

Naturally, a wife and mother will put everyone else's needs before her own. It seems difficult to even know your self when living day to day like this. This leads to low self value in a person's life. You have to see yourself as others do and value yourself as the ones in your life do.

The most simple concept is that if you value yourself, you will value your marriage. Let your true self out, and relish in your gifts, and you will grow in all areas of your life, including your marriage. - 15784

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How Can I Win My Ex Back? Three Step To Get Them Back!

By John Belair

It can be quite a challenge to salvage a failed relationship. Youre on pins and needles; one wrong move and the guy or gal of your dreams could be out of your life for good.

The techniques were going to cover her may at first seem like exactly the wrong way to go about things. While this may be the case, it is true that a lot of the things which your instincts tell you about how to behave after a breakup are all wrong. It is when you feel like getting in touch with your ex that you should make sure to keep away from them - and when you feel the most like opening your heart to them may help, this is when you need to keep cool.

While these methods might seem all wrong, they have been proven to work and have saved many relationships.

Technique #1

The first step is to accept the situation - you have been broken up with and you need to come to terms with it. You might have to struggle with yourself at first, but acceptance is important.

However, you have to accept the situation. Your ex will need space if they are to start missing you and think about taking you back. Right after the breakup, they are probably upset or angry with you; you need to back off and leave them alone for a while. If you badger them about getting back together, this will probably ruin your chances of a reunion.

Strategy #2

The second technique is to avoid any contact with your ex. OK; you probably think this is crazy and youre about to hit the back button on your browser, but bear with me. This technique can really work ??" not only does this help you to come to terms with the breakup, it shows your ex that you take him or her seriously.

Youre also giving your ex time to start missing you and time to think about the breakup. Having this space is good for both of you and will give you a clearer perspective. This space also prepares you for the third step.

Technique #3

Next, plan an event where you can try to reconnect with your ex. However, this is complex and there are many steps which must be taken care of in between. - 15784

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3 Basic Rules in Attracting Girls

By Ada Denis

One of the most challenging, and somehow pleasing, dilemmas of guys is to learn how to attract girls. If truth be told, women just want the same thing. They need a man that can give them security, they want a man with passion and purpose, they want a man that will treat them as equal and yet as a princess too.

The very basic step to attract girls is to be confident. It may sound redundant but confidence can really make or break your purpose. For a woman, a confident man is a sexy man. You don't have to power-dress to appear confident because if you really have it inside, it will show.

Another tip in attracting girls is to be observant. Observing is different from stalking. The latter can be creepy and the last thing you want to do is to spook your lady love. Just pay attention with her favorite drink, her mannerisms and any small things that revolves around her. This knowledge can help you a lot in making your moves.

The third rule in attracting girls is to take everything seriously in a fun-filled manner. Show your true intentions to her in a way where you can make her smile or laugh. Don't be pushy but subtle insist what you want. Ask her for a dance, if she declines, gauge her feelings. If you think she meant "NO" then don't push it. If you think she meant "no" then try to invite her again. You'll know the difference between the two no's when it's directly said to you.

Guys if you are serious about getting the girl of your dreams then you need to seriously work on solid techniques to achieve your goal. If you know what a girl is thinking it is far easier to approach her.

Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say?

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How to Impress a Girl With a Skateboard

By Ada Denis

When trying to impress a girl that you have a crush on, ride your skateboard and show off your skateboarding skills. Girls can be intrigued by guys who are very talented and have confidence in what they do. Grab your skateboard and perform your tricks in front of the girl. Be sure not to act cocky, but rather just be cool and even ask her if she wants to try.

1. Casually ride your skateboard in front of the girl who you have a crush on. Make sure that you don't try to act so cool and begin to try to impress with tricks that you don't know how to do. You'll end up being embarrassed.

2. Make eye contact and smile at the girl when you are riding on your skateboard. Wave every now and then so that the girl knows that you are interested in her.

3. Bring your radio with you and play some music in the background while you are skateboarding. If you know what kind of music is your girl's favorite, play it just to impress her even more.

4. Perform some tricks that you know how to do and land them. If you have a ramp, use your ramp to show off your skateboarding talent.

5. Ask the girl if she would like to try to ride on your skateboard. This would be a great way to get close to her. Tell her that you could hold her hand or her waist while she tries to ride on your skateboard. - 15784

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How to Have a Romantic Date in New York City

By Ada Denis

Who says romance and chivalry are dead? They're not if you know how to revive them with a romantic rendezvous in New York City. Step back into an era of romance with drinks at a hidden Art Deco bar, dinner at a famous hot spot and round out the night listening to Frank Sinatra tunes in a swanky Midtown cigar bar. Then take time to reflect on it all while catching a million-dollar view of New York in an old-fashioned tram. And don't forget that little black dress or your very best tie. You will need it at least as you begin your night.

1. Start your night off with drinks in a hidden hot spot in Grand Central Terminal called the Campbell Apartment. Tucked discreetly around the backside of the station at 15 Vanderbilt Avenue and away from the pulsing stream of commuters, you will forget that you are actually inside an old train station. Once you ascend the stairs leading into the bar, you will feel as if you've just arrived at a hilltop mansion party during the 1940s. Order your favorite cocktail and sit back and watch the world go by.

2. Waldorf Astoria Waldorf Astoria Head over to the Waldorf Astoria a few blocks away at 49th Street and Park Avenue. Enter into the grand Art-Deco lobby alone and you will feel as if you've entered into the well-kept villa of an old movie star. Infinitely high ceilings lit by dangling chandeliers drip their light and elegance all around you. Have another drink at the famous Sir Harry's Bar or head straight to dinner at the elegant Bull and Bear Steakhouse within the hotel.

3. Frank Sinatra in New York, 1947; photo by William P. Gottlieb Frank Sinatra in New York, 1947; photo by William P. Gottlieb Exit the Waldorf and have one of the doorman escort you and yours into a New York taxicab. Take it up to midtown Manhattan to a little place called the Carnegie Club at 156 West 56th Street. Sink back into a plush seat and light up a cigar if you fancy while you listen to dead-on Frank Sinatra renditions through the haze of smoke. You can enjoy two sets for the price of one if you come to the early set that begins at 8pm.

4. NYC tram spanning from Midtown to Roosevelt Island NYC tram spanning from Midtown to Roosevelt Island Seal the evening with a kiss suspended high up in the air, enjoying panoramic views of New York at night. 59th Street (at 2nd Avenue) has a tramway that will transport you from a pedestrian level to majestic heights as you witness a spectacularly bright panoramic view of the city by night. - 15784

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Who's Living In Your Rain Gutters?

By Sock Woodruff

Just about every house is equipped with rain gutters. They hang there below the roof eaves, just waiting for rain to fall so they can collect the water and direct it away from the walls and foundation of your house. You probably don't think about them very often...unless you don't have a gutter protection system installed. Then you have to clean out the gutters now and then-sometimes two to four times per year.

If your gutters were properly installed, they were sloped so that the water that comes in would run to and down the downspout. After a rain, the water runs out and the moisture remaining on the surface dries out. Often the gutter system includes some form of gutter protection system. What does that mean? It means gutter guards, gutter covers, gutter screens, or gutter filters that prevent leaves, pine needles, twigs, tree flowers, seeds, seed pods, and other debris from getting into the gutters.

However, if you have no gutter protection system, or if some sections of the covers or screens have become dislodged or damaged, some (or maybe a lot) of debris has been getting into your gutters. Once there it may pile up and stay there, until you get up on a ladder, or hire someone else to get up on a ladder, and clean all of that stuff out.

So what? Well, a level of organic debris, whether shallow or the entire depth of the rain gutter, is an invitation for various kinds of things to move in and make it home. If you were aware of the presence of these unintended houseguests, you might decide you don't want them living there with you.

If you have debris in the gutter, it can form a little dam inside the rain gutter. After the rainstorm is over this little dam allows a small pool of water to remain standing in the gutter. A pool of still water, whether small or large, is exactly what mosquitoes are looking for.

Mosquitoes can be a nuisance, or they can be dangerous. Those nasty female mosquitoes that want to suck your blood need the nutrients in blood in order to produce eggs, which they lay on the surface of standing water. Each one will lay several hundred eggs. The eggs hatch in 24 to 48 hours into mosquito "wigglers." They swim around for 7 to 10 days, turn into pupae, which then hatch into new mosquitoes, and there you are, in the yard below the rain gutter, just waiting to be bitten.

That crop of mosquitoes will probably not be very welcome at your evening yard party. In addition, they can be dangerous. Mosquitoes are carriers of many kinds of diseases. Malaria is one of the most infamous, although this problem has been practically eliminated in the U.S. However, West Nile Virus (WNV) has been a recent concern. Birds often carry the virus. Mosquitoes bite birds and get infected. Mosquitoes then bite humans and infect us, and we get sick.

In 2007, the CDC reported 3,630 cases of human WNV in the U.S. Of those who got sick, 123 died. That doesn't sound like a terrible problem-unless you or a loved one was one of the 123. Moreover, no one knows what disease mosquitoes will cause us to share next.

Another group of flying pests who might decide your rain gutter is just the home they have been looking for are the various kinds of bees, wasps, and hornets. If you don't know they are there, it can be a real surprise when you go to clean out the debris in the gutter. They think you are trying to invade their home (which you are) and they don't understand that they have already invaded your home. Their way of telling you to go away is to sting you. Did you ever see someone try to run when they were standing on top of a ladder? Not a pretty sight-nor is it a very safe one if you are the person on the ladder.

In addition to the flying pests, other living things may take up residence. If the rain gutters are full of debris and water, some of the water is going to spill over, possibly wetting down the fascia board behind the gutter, or the wall of your house or foundation. This moist surface could be the perfect place for fungus, mold, mildew, or moss to start growing. The long-term presence of moisture and basic life forms like lichen (a kind of fungus) causes granite rock to gradually break down. Imagine what a permanent layer of moisture and growing stuff can do to your paint, siding, and foundation.

Clean out the rain gutters and install an effective rain gutter protection system on your house. Go to GutterSupply.com, review the options, and decide what kind of system will work best for you, whether gutter guards, gutter covers, gutter screens, or gutter filters. Then get to work, or call a contractor to get this project going. - 15784

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Sock Woodruff is founder and partner of GutterSupply.com, the leading manufacturer and distributor of gutter supplies, gutter machines, gutter covers, and related tools and equipment.

Guarantee Your Own Success in Dating Women

By Ada Denis

There are men who make dating a game, they don't even take it seriously but for some, dating women is such a sacred thing. In particular, there are two groups of men: one looking to end up with their date and one looking to end up on their bed. They may fail on their own goals for some particular reasons but here you will see how to boost your probability in making a successful date with women, letting you know how to get successful when it comes to dating game.

Figure out if you have any problem in succeeding with dating women

If you want to be successful in dating women then you should learn how to become successful by reading and researching from books, seminars and through the internet and make sure to learn more skills and practice them in real life. After trying all the skills that you have learned, make sure to filter them. Leave the things that don't work and enhance the things that work. If you think that you have weakness in some point, make sure to strengthen them.

Determination and disappointment

The first thing that you should do is to be determined in improving your dating game and be more persistent in dating women. When dating, make sure to try all your best to get a good result, if you still fail on your first date, try harder and create more attraction. Ask for one more date.

Skills of your trade

Now if you are determined to improve and develop your dating skills and relationship with women. Try to implement all the skills and techniques that you have learned from your researches and reading tips on how to boost your skills in dating women. Look for a hot woman in the place where you usually go and use the new techniques that you have learned. Never give up in trying the new techniques. It is true that some techniques will work and some will not but make sure that you concentrate on those that work and add some skills of trade to your arsenal. By doing this, you will become successful in dating women because you are getting used to all experiences that you need in dealing with any kind of situations.

Ending your game

If you have finally done all the three things mentioned above, make sure to put an end with this game. It is now all up to you on how your dating should end up. It's up to you if you want to continue the relationship and end up marrying her or simply end there, you are the one who is in control so make a decision that will make you more successful and happier.

In all your decisions, remember to consider your feelings as well as your date's feelings in order to guarantee you a more successful date and relationship. No matter what kind of decision you make, it will all come back to you. Just depend on your feeling and you will end up in a very successful love life. - 15784

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Avoiding Annual Gutter Cleaning

By Sock Woodruff

The fall and spring seasons cause many homeowners a lot of work every year. At these times, nature rains down stuff on our homes other than rain. This could include a lot of detritus from trees, leaves, pine needles, twigs, spring flowers off the trees (birch, oak, maple, cottonwoods, etc.), seeds and seed pods, not to mention things like the ball one of the kids threw up on the roof. All of this can accumulate in your gutters.

One of the seasonal tasks many homeowners have (sometimes more than once a year) is the need to clean out rain gutters on your house. Your rain gutters were put there to protect your house. They collect the rain that falls on your roof and channel it down the downspouts and away from your walls and foundation.

But all of that other stuff that fell on your roof, including bits of dirt and dust, can be blown into and collect in those rain gutters. When the rain runs down the roof, it washes all this into the rain gutter. Of course, the idea was that it would all run down the downspout, onto the splash blocks, and out on the grass.

Have you ever heard the adage, "Murphy is alive and well"? "Murphy's Law" says that whatever can go wrong, will go wrong. Think of that list of things that can be washed down into you rain gutters. On a larger scale, beavers use stuff like that to build dams. On a smaller scale, that's what can also happen in you rain gutters.

Material collects in the gutter instead of coming down the downspout. Once there is a little bit there, it catches and collects more. After a while the gutter may become clogged and the water runs right over the edge of the gutter, falling on the ground next to your foundation, splashing mud on the walls and maybe leaking into your basement-exactly what you installed gutters to avoid.

So, time to get out the ladder, climb up, and dig all the accumulated debris out of the rain gutter, right? Why do this every year, or sometimes two or more times a year? Do you really feel comfortable and safe wobbling around on top of a ladder, leaning way out to get that handful of leaves or bit of debris that is just out of reach?

There is another solution available. You can install some kind of cover that will deflect the big stuff (relatively speaking) and let the water freely flow into the gutter and down the downspout, like it was intended to do.

These devices come in different forms and have different names. They include gutter covers, gutter screens, gutter filters and hybrid gutter hoods that combine the hood and screen designs. They are installed on top of (or in) the gutter just below the eaves.

One simple design is a gutter screen, which uses some form of screen to catch the solids and pass the water. Most of the material caught by the screen may be blown off the screen; however, sometimes some material gets caught in the screen holes and accumulates on top. The stem tips from oak or maple leaves, or pine needles, can pass trough the holes. Sometimes they get caught in the screen and neither wind nor water will blow them off. Screens are simple to install and keep most of the leaves and debris out of your gutters. As one of the least expensive options, screens are a popular choice to combat clogged gutters.

A gutter hood is usually a solid vinyl, PVC, or aluminum cover with narrow slots. It is more successful at not accumulating leaves-the stems or points can't pass through the slots. The hood covers the entire gutter and has just a tiny channel for the water to enter the gutter. The debris dries off and then blows off more easily.

A hybrid gutter cover is much the same as a hood with many of the features of the gutter screen. There are many types of hybrids and the slots where the water enters can be holes, slits or even grids. These are also quite successful in allowing the debris to blow off.

A newer technology is the gutter filter. This system uses a filter membrane installed inside the gutter. The idea is to fill up the gutter with something that will allow it to function and keep the water flowing. The water goes through the sponge like material, the debris rests on top, dries out after the rain stops, and blows away. The filter does not absorb water nor does it allow plants to seed and grow.

In other words, there are options available that can keep your rain gutters open, clean, and unclogged by leaves, twigs, and other debris. For information on many different types and styles of gutter protection products go to GutterSupply.com. They have pictures and more product information.

You can undertake installing them yourself, but that puts you back wobbling around on top of a ladder. On the other hand, you can contact a gutter contractor. He can help you with your selection and do the installation-while you stay safely on the ground and enjoy the view. From then on, you can spend more days out doing whatever you (or your significant other) would prefer to do. - 15784

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Sock Woodruff is founder and partner of GutterSupply.com, the leading manufacturer and distributor of gutter supplies, gutter machines, gutter covers, and related tools and equipment.

Protecting your credit during divorce

By Mike Mastracci

Credit scores are important, more than ever. When you separate or divorce, special care needs to be taken to protect your scores. Duriing these times of chane , it might be wise to shop around.

To avoid any major hits on your credit report, you need to do something pro-active to weather the financial storm on the horizon. Many financial experts say that woman suffer more in the area of finances than do their male counterparts. This is largely because even today more men are the primary credit qualifier for obtaining mortgages and credit in general. Whether male or female, without a solid credit history in your own name, you won't be able to qualify for refinancing the marital home.

High interests loans can really increase not only the amount of your debt, but it will lenghten the time that you take attempting to dig out of the hole.

. Consider tearing up all your cards.

. Do not pledge the credit of the other spouse.

If you're merely a credit card user on your spouse's card, remove your name.

Try to agree on one appraiser rather than shopping for a "buyers" appraiser or a "seller's" appraiser.

Next to housing, generally auto expenses are one of the larger monthly bills that couples have to deal with. When it comes down to prioritizing what gets paid on time and what gets paid late or not at all, the importance of a vehicle is more pronounced than ever. It sure would be a drag to see your car being towed away by Rob the Repo Guy.

When the tough times hit, hope for the best, but plan for the worst. Take precautions to protect your credit and your good name. Regardless of a divorce, if there is joint debt - a mortgage, car loan or credit card --- you are both on the hook to pay it off.

When couple fight, it is often about communication problems, sex or money; and for everything else, well, there is Master Card. Credit card debt is the major reason for bankruptcy filings in the United States. People often see plastic use as something different and unrelated to wealth and prosperity, often though, you can't have one without the other.

Quality legal advice and guidence is a must if bankruptcy is a consideration. - 15784

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