Monday, January 5, 2009

The Perfect Routine for Meeting Women

By Stylelife Academy

Filling your mind with interesting things like this script will fill awkward silences with girls. Also, it amazes the spectators and puts you in the charismatic spotlight. Have fun...

The Greek Rings of Personality

The second you notice she is wearing rings say, "I have to ask before I run, why did you choose to wear that ring on that particular finger?"

[She responds].

Proceed with, "Check this out. My friend is big into history and she told me this interesting thing about how rings on our fingers reflect our personal characteristics. The ancient Greeks were the first to ever wear rings and they wore them according to what gods they worshiped."

Hold her hand and describe every ring. Begin by telling her about the rings she isn't wearing and close with the ones you see. Check out this example, or put it in your own words:

THUMB

"The thumb represents Poseidon. He was very independent. He wasn't up on Mount Olympus. He preferred to be in the sea doing his own thing. Notice that the thumb kind of sticks out, in a way, it kind of does its own thing as well. People who wear thumb rings are therefore very individual and independent."

INDEX

"The index finger is represented by Zeus. Zeus was the king of all gods and the god of thunder. That's a very dominant finger. It represents power and immense energy. Having a ring there means you tend to be a more dominant person." Feel free to end by waving of your index finger at her as if to say "no no no" or "don't do that."

MIDDLE

"The middle finger personifies Dionysus. He was the god of wine and celebration. Wearing a ring here means you tend to be an irreverent person and don't care about what other people think about you."

RING

"The ring finger stands for Aphrodite who was the goddess of love. People who put it on this finger put love in a special place in their life. Actually, it is the only finger that has a vein that goes directly to your heart."

PINKY

"The pinky is represented by Ares, the god of war. You'll often see mobsters with pinky rings. On one hand, your pinky ring is a sign that you have a darker side. However, it also indicates that you're a great protector of things. If somebody messes with someone you love, you won't flee from the conflict, you'll quickly step up to defend them. I bet you can be trusted to keep and protect secrets as well. Maybe that's where the pinky swear comes from." At the end, you should smile and momentarily lock your pinky with hers. - 15784

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Special Things to Do for Your Boyfriend

By katie George

The busy working weeks hardly give you time to take a break and appreciate the loved ones in your life. Once in a while everyone likes to be pampered and celebrated, without any special occasion. If you love your boyfriend and want to take the time and effort to let him know what he means to you, here are a few special things to do for your boyfriend. Use these ideas and add your own elements to make sure you plan the perfect treat for your guy!

Beautiful Morning Surprise

Plan this on a weekend when both of you have ample time to spend together. You might need to make a few preparations beforehand as well. Nothing says I love you like breakfast served in bed! Plan a beautiful breakfast for your boyfriend - if you hate cooking, remember that it doesn't have to be any thing too complicated. Get chocolate chip waffles, toast them, add some whipped cream top it with slices of fresh strawberries and cherries. Make a cup of hot chocolate and add a few of your boyfriend's favorite cookies. Take the breakfast by the bedside and add on a few other mushy things like a bunch of fresh flowers! Now wake him up with the sweetest Good morning kiss! After the breakfast you can curl up on the couch with the morning crossword puzzle! Spend the morning talking and doing any other things that you both love until you guys feel hungry enough for lunch!

Candlelight Dinner with a Twist

Well, food makes every surprise special doesn't it? Grab a bottle of finest wine and roll up your sleeves to cook a sumptuous meal at home! Make sure you cook all the things he absolutely goes gaga over! Once the food and all the other arrangements for the candlelight dinner are in place, half the battle is won. For adding a twist to the old-fashioned candlelight dinner, you need to create a surprise gift for your boyfriend.

Gather all your favorite photographs (digital) and all the video snippets to make a video of all your cherished memories. Make sure you add your boyfriend's favorite romantic songs as a background to the videos. Play the video and enjoy it with your dinner!

Spa at Home

Well if you thought only women appreciate a good back massage and some pampering skin treatments then wake up and smell the coffee. In case you want the massage to be really good, you can quickly look up for some quick tips on how to give a good massage. Create a relaxing atmosphere with some soothing aromatherapy candles and create a massage table with padded yoga mat and some disposable sheets. Also add in the background some relaxing music, but make sure you play it at a low volume - you don't want the music to take over the entire ambiance. Warm up some massage oil and give a soothing massage. Now surprise him with a homemade rejuvenating body pack or even a facemask. While the pack is drying, draw him a relaxing bath with rose petals and aromatherapy oils in the bathtub. Now just allow him to enjoy the refreshing bath. If things go really well you might end up enjoying it with him! - 15784

How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - Killer Tips

By katie George

Are you in this situation: your girlfriend of some time breaks up with you leaving you all alone? The only thing you can think of is getting her back. Your buddies tell you to get back into the dating pool, go out, and have a good time. Should you go out and date while you're trying to get your ex girlfriend back? Is it right or are you being a jerk?

Dating can be a great way to get your ex girlfriend back. Let me explain. Casual dating is going to help you keep your mind off your misery. I don't say this lightly, but you're more attractive when you're having fun and relaxed. Moping around about a break up doesn't paint you in the best picture. Try not to directly contact your ex for about a month. During this time if she sees you having fun and being confident around others, she is going to start to wonder if she screwed up by leaving.

If you'd been with your ex for a while, it may be tough to step back into the dating pool. You'll be nervous and fretting about your looks, what you should talk about, how you should act, etc. Guess what; that's normal and healthy. In fact as you redevelop the skills of making yourself attractive to potential partners, you're making yourself more attractive to your ex as well.

Be confident in your dating. Relax and be yourself. You'll remember what it takes to keep a girl's attention and while you're doing those things, you'll be getting attention from your ex girlfriend, as well.

Who would've thought that dating and having fun would be how to win back your girlfriend? Check this out if you want sure fire ways to get your ex girlfriend back These resources are priceless!

When it comes to winning an ex back, I'm an expert. I've had a lot of practice! I've scoured the internet and found the best resource on how to get your ex girlfriend back here. Stop moping around! Check it out then go out and practice being a better boyfriend. - 15784

Do You Have an Unhealthy Relationship? Look Out For the 10 Signs

By Rebecca Adams

Don't get me wrong. It's vitally important to work towards a great and fulfilling relationship - which of course does not happen over night. It takes time to really understand each other, to appreciate the differences, and to find that bliss that some couples are blessed with.

Good solid honest advice is one of the best things you could have when making a relationship decision. The right advice from the right people could make all the difference when evaluating a mate or situation.

Relationships are often depicted in soudbites. The man and women meet unexpectedly, they have a fantastic time, and if things don't work they leave each other with a smile on their face and a spring in their step. The art of good relating, the tools and strategies are never mentioned.

As if.

What is one to do - if people refer to you as either a doormat or a quitter depending on whether you stay in a miserable situation or leave.

My advice to you - is to be smart right from the beginning. Look out for the signs of an healthy relationship or lover from day one. Be aware, don't make excuses for their behaviour, but also there is no need to be unreasonable or unrealistic in your expectations. As over 60% of marriages now end in divorce - devour this sound advice when making your decisions.

Be Awake Be Aware.

Look Out For These Unhealthy Relationship Types

1. The Abusive

If you are experiencing any form of physical abuse - get out now. Especially if children are involved. Physical abuse cannot be tolerated.

If you want to salvage and work on the 'relationship' only do so from a safe distance and only then with the highest regard for your personal safety.

Remember you are only responsible for your own emotions and feelings, you are not responsible for their issues, childhood, and sulks. Do not be a therapist or parent to them or they will never grow, and you will be drained of any energy. Seek professional advice and help immediately.

2. The Bitter One

They just love to highlight your mistakes and mishaps, and seem oblivious to your success and gifts. They are never happy for you.

Putting other people down, makes their feeble egos feel better. They are energy and emotional leeches.

Using a neutral third party may be useful in getting them to see their behaviour in the light of day. Assuming you still want to work on the relationship. If not - get out fast while you still have your self respect intact.

3. The Love Rat

They are very suspcious when it comes to your cell phone and emails, but are very secretive about their business. You feel something is not right, but can't quite figure out why.

They love to project their guilty selves on to you - making you responsible for their suspicions, moods, stress and taxes.

Get proof and get out soon.

4. Power Plays

Does the thought of you spending time with friends and family - bring on a case of the severe sulk?

Look out for subltle control scennarios such as unexpected illnesses or catastrophes just before you are about to have a night out with your friends.

They are insecure and feel threatened by you and those in your life, despite your numerous reassurances.

If you are still willing to work on this - do so with the help of a neutral third party. But do ask yourself how long you are willing to put up with this?

5. The Libido Has Left The Room

If one of you has had a severe nose dive in the libido department, then this could pose some problems in the future. This also applies if you have hugely different drives.

Discuss things openly and honestly with your lover. Sometimes just a few tweeks of time or help in the home could make all the difference.

The bedroom is and will aways be a bit of a battleground. Unless we can discuss things in a mature and honest manner, low drive could actually be a sign of boredom, fatigue, lack of intimacy, resentment and pure dislike of the other party.

6. The Eternal Child

They were and still are a 60's child. Young-ish, free-ish, and not now not so single.

They may actually be in more need of a parent then a partner. Often needy, posessive, and irresponsible they love to be taken care of.

Be prepared to end up tired and resentful as your needs may not be met.

7. In Need of Repair

A long list of hurts is what these desperate 'victims' cling to.

Their hurts would go on for miles if had the courage to write them down and think them over.

Their fragile selves never really accept the fact that you may like or love them, and are committed to them.

Warning - you may get bored of re-assuring them. The intervention of a neutral third party will help point out their negative and gloomy outlook.

8. I'm So Great - Because Mom Says So

They are wonderful and wholesome just like apple pie. At least that's what they were told at home. They can do no wrong, therefore it is all your fault.

Attachment to the adoring parent runs deep. Therefore they are always the cute and innocent party.

A reality check is in order here. If they do not listen to you, get a neutral third party involved.

Kick em to the curb if they still cling on to the 'i'm so wonderful' myth.

9. Cleanliness is Next to Godliness

If you don't mind funny smells, fungi or bacteria you may be in for a great time. However if cleanliness is your thing, you may want to make a speedy departure.

We all value hygiene and self care. Ask yourself why you would want to spend time with someone who hasn't bothered to look and smell good for you.

10. Hellooo - I do Exist

These people care more about themselves than you. That's the cold, hard truth of it. They want you to fuss over them, be there for them, but do think of expecting anything in return.

Clarify your needs and boundaries immediately. State the minimum standards you expect in terms of good manners and consideration. If you still have to tell them after the second warning, they are 'out'.

You are not a door mat or slave. Get out.

Always bear in mind that you may be contributing to the unhealthy relationship via your own issues, beliefs and personality. If you have honestly tried to discuss the situation with your beloved, tried to make great efforts, and have gone out of your way to understand them - they it may be time to make important decisions. A neutral third party is always a great way to view the situation and the people involved in fair and honest way. However if all else fails - put your thinking cap on.

Just keep in mind that you deserve to be treated with respect, consideration, and appreciation at all times.

May you always be happy! - 15784

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Life-Awakening Quotes in ONE Book: Solving the Mystery of Life

By Masami Sato

Part 1 of 3

This collection of beautiful quotes that will inspire you to awaken your curiosity about the mystery of life is excerpted from "ONE", a book by Masami Sato, the founder of Buy1GIVE which is a global giving organisation sharing the joy of giving. The quotes in this first edition include topics that are profoundly related to our everyday lives, such as mystery, judgment and connection. This article is the firt part of the 3 "ONE Book Life-Changing Quotes Series".

On transforming judgment

"Actions and words don't always accurately reflect who we are. Every single one of us has had the experience of wanting to undo what we did or said."

"Actions and words don't always accurately reflect who we are. Every single one of us has had the experience of wanting to undo what we did or said."

On the mastery of life

"It's very, very clear that we don't need to know all of the 'hows' and 'whys' of life to keep living on this planet."

"There are so many things we don't understand in life. In spite of that lack of understanding though, we often enjoy experiencing those things."

"There are so many things we don't understand in life. In spite of that lack of understanding though, we often enjoy experiencing those things."

"It's very, very clear that we don't need to know all of the 'hows' and 'whys' of life to keep living on this planet."

On connection

"'solutions' coming from fear and doubt may not be the most effective ways. We end up feeling more and more disconnected from each other."

"Every single thing we do is to satisfy the need for connection."

"We cannot feel unhappy when we are feeling totally connected. It's impossible!"

"We are designed to constantly seek ways to connect to each other and to a greater purpose."

"Connection is the core of everything. That's what life is. Connection."

"We can only truly celebrate the victory with others when we win together. Then we feel connected."

"This is the game called ONE. The aim of the game is to 'connect'! We keep connecting until we all become ONE. - 15784

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How to Achieve Dating Success With Women

By katie George

It is very stressful to set a date for the girl you really like. You have to prepare yourself, your dress and find a good place to go. And even if you have prepared everything, you still do not know if you will achieve dating success with women and leave a lasting impression.

It is nerve-wracking to think that she might not enjoy the date with you or might not agree to see you again. It is important for any man to achieve dating success with women and get the kind of girl you always wanted. Here are some tips to help you:

Good grooming

You do not have to be exceptionally good looking and the sexiest guy around but you should know how to carry yourself. Practice good hygiene, shave, nice haircut and dress well. You have to know how to look at your best, be presentable, appear fresh and irresistible to achieve dating success with women.

Calm Down

Try to relax and calm down. It is natural to get nervous and it is appealing for your date to see you get a little bit nervous but try to control your feelings and calm down. Too much nervousness will make you appear clumsy and may turn her off.

Do not expect too much

Another way to achieve dating success with women is not to expect too much. Do not put too much pressure on yourself or to your date. Just enjoy the moment, have fun and make things lighter.

Find out what she likes and compromise

You do not want to end up in a restaurant where she cannot eat the food or enjoy the place, so it is important to know her likes and compromise with your preferences so that you will both enjoy the date. Achieving dating success with women includes finding the things that you both enjoy and connect with each other.

Be a good listener

Do not just concentrate on impressing her and talking about yourself. Remember that you like this girl and you want to know more about her. So listen, and listen well to get to know her better. Show interest and genuine concerns.

Treat her well to achieve dating success with women. If you can cook then cook for her and prepare a special menu for her. She will feel special knowing you prepared something special for her and this is also your chance to show her that you have useful skills. Always be a gentleman, they say that chivalry is dead, show her that it is not true. If you have to open doors for her then do it. Treat her like a princess because even in this modern dating world, most women still want to be treated like princesses. - 15784

Will My Ex Ever Want To Come Back

By Jackie Howe

Honesty with your self is very important, to find the power to decide what you really want, you need to do some soul searching. Face the Facts, will you be truly happy if you and your ex get back together. Will you just end up going down the same road again.

When you first break up it is usually easier to think of the good times. It is very important to think of both the good times and the bad times, be completely objective and REMEMBER both. There are very few relationships that are not worth saving. Did you and your ex have more good times than bad times. BE HONEST! Did you spend more time having fun, doing positive things. If most of the time was not happy and you both were fighting, then you should consider moving on.

If there was any verbal or physical abuse, do not go back, this is not a healthy relationship. Was your ex mentally unstable, if so, you are worthy of so much more. Try to get confidence and believe that you will be much better off with out them.

IF there was no Abuse and your ex was mental competent, and you feel it was overall a healthy relationship. The tips listed should help you get your ex back.

Constantly ringing and pestering your ex will back fire on you. Signs of desperation and behavior that will drive them away include, stalking, pushing, sending text messages, bumping into them "accidentally". Harassing them will drive them far far away.

Are you living in the past. Being alone you might manifest thoughts of wrongs you might have done in the past. Are you beating your self up over mistakes you might have made? The past is exactly that, THE PAST, HISTORY. Leave all these in the past, start living in the present.

Time travel is not possible, so stop living in the past. I do know sometime we wish we could go back and change things we have said or done, but we can't. Do not make promises that you cannot keep, or that you will change. This does not help you and your ex get back together.

Give your self a break from worrying what your ex is doing. By letting you both have time apart, you will actually be giving your self a big favor. By letting your ex miss you, you will become more attractive and desirable to them. - 15784

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5 Rules For Parents Dating After Divorce

By katie George

No matter what happened during your divorce or when, chances are there will come a time when you want to start dating again. However, it's important for parents to remember that the dating choices they make greatly affect not only themselves but their children. Making healthy, careful dating choices will help greatly contribute to the healing process for your entire family. Here are the five tips experts wish divorced parents knew about dating:

1. Give Yourself And Your Children Plenty Of Time To Heal And Adapt Before You Start Dating

No matter how friendly and cordial your divorce, you and your children will need time to adjust and heal before you allow another person into your lives. It's important that you take the time to process, analyze and heal any issues that contributed to or were the result of your divorce. Not doing so sets the new relationship up for failure for all involved. Statistically, second marriages are less successful than first ones (over 60 percent of second marriages fail) so take all of the time you need to process why the first marriage failed. Most experts recommend waiting a year after martial separation to date, but this is an individual choice. If the thought of dating doesn't yet feel right, wait.

2. When You Begin Dating, Be Upfront And Reassuring With Your Children

Fill your children in on your intentions, but keep it casual. Inform them that you'd like to start making friends and spending time with adults your own age. Acknowledge and address any feelings your children may express and reassure them that you will always keep all of your best interests in mind and would never let dating interfere with your time together.

3. Make Initial Introductions And Outings Casual

Never try to force a new person on your children for long periods of time. Make sure initial introductions are fun, casual outings where the children can have an out if they're uncomfortable. Let your children get to know this new person slowly over time at their own pace. You're going to have a much healthier relationship if your children genuinely get a long with the new person, so do everything in your power to let the children initiate and pace their own relationship. It's also vitally important you do not allow your children to develop deep feelings for someone until you're absolutely sure that person is here to stay. Your children have already been through a lot of emotional drama with the divorce. You do not want the child to have to go through this again with another breakup.

4. Maintain Family Time And Traditions Separate From Your Dating Relationship

No matter how great the person you are dating is, your children deserve time with only you doing things you enjoyed and could look forward to before the dating relationship. If you don't honor your children's special time and traditions, they will eventually resent the person you are dating for taking this (and you) away.

5. Always See The Situation From Your Children's Point Of View

There are bound to be times when you're unsure how of how to best proceed for all involved. In situations when you aren't sure what to do, simply put yourself in your children's position. Really put yourself in their shoes and imagine how they must feel, even if their feelings seem irrational to you at the time. Looking at things from your children's perspective will almost always point you in the right direction - on the path to their best interest. - 15784

The Most Intimate Feeling That Cause Love?

By Mary Bush

Jealousy is a fear of losing power. Actually all the people have always been striving for some power. However, finally you have to pay for everything you get in life. In the same fashion fear of losing power is the price you have to pay for your domination. This is why jealousy is familiar to most of the people who somehow or other are seeking domination over others.

Jealousy can be compared to cowardness: it is not an elevated feeling being a proof of love, but rather a permanent diffidence and fear of being unable to maintain domination over the object of love. Some people try to protect themselves from jealousy by choosing an originally intimidated, humble and useless person as a match. They prefer him or her to possess all of the above properties, only to be sure that it would prevent them from the fear of loss. Anyway, even this precaution doesn't prevent them from experiencing a feeling of jealousy, as this feeling is an unconscious reflection of their own weakness. The more the perception of his or her own inferiority, the stronger is the potential jealousy.

Psychologists have noted that very often men tormenting their wives with jealousy are not faithful themselves. However, their own unfaithfulness is of no importance to them, and they regard love affairs with other women as potential parallel relationships along with their marriage bonds.

A husband or a wife displaying jealousy often raises rows, trying to restrict all possible contacts of a spouse with other people. Such environment makes all family members suffer, therefore, it is in each other's interests to help to create a climate of good will in the family and get rid of jealousy. Jealousy mostly prevails in those families where neither words nor matters are straightforward. Very often it is a result of such recommendations as Full openness does only harm to a family. Don't tell your husband.

Jealousy beyond measure is abnormal. For a person suffering of this disease any suspicious look would be enough to accuse the spouse of unfaithfulness. He (she) will be looking for any signs of unfaithfulness everywhere: in unwillingness for intimacy, in a gaze at an unknown man (woman), in a persistent wish for intimacy (to conceal unfaithfulness). Such jealousy may turn into madman's ravings based on no real ground. A jealous spouse makes up various situations, develops them and lives by them. In medical terms it is called a "syndrome of a third person". It's useless to influence such a person by means of common sense. In such a case one should seek psychologist's assistance.

On the other hand, a reasonable jealousy may add variety into the family life. However if it gets excessive, it becomes a sheer nightmare. Abnormal jealousy destroys heart bond between husband and wife and even affects work. - 15784

The Best Single Parent Dating Tips

By katie George

Dating can be stressful under the best of circumstances. Nothing can increase that stress like children. While they may be life's greatest joy, they can make getting onto the dating scene difficult for a number of reasons. This can be because fewer people are on the market looking for single parents to hook up with, and it can be because scheduling dates can be a challenge when there are kids to consider. Beyond that, there are the psychological issues involved in bringing new men or women into your children's lives. Many single parents simply decide it isn't worth it, and put off finding true love until the kids are grown. Unfortunately, by then it may be too late and the market will have shrunk considerably.

Thankfully, there are ways to be a single parent and date successfully. Below are a few single parent dating tips that should allow you to escape some of the confusion of single parent dating and let you get back out on to the dating scene with a minimum of problems.

One of the major things a single parent has to worry about is explaining their dates to their children. Of course, to what degree you explain will have a lot to do with the age of your kids, their maturity level, and the circumstances of your split from their mother or father. It's usually best to be honest, but not overly so. Simply tell your children that you're heading out with someone who is a friend. This is not a lie, and it helps to keep your kids somewhat aware of what is going on. The less information a child has, the more likely it is they will fill in the missing details with their imaginations. This is usually not a good thing.

Avoid the mistake of introducing your kids to everyone you go out on a date with. This causes confusion, and it can lead to your kids hating the fact of your dating. If you've gone out with one person several times and see definite possibilities for the future, it then becomes okay to let them fully into your life. Make sure they understand their responsibility in the matter as well. This is something that comes along with dating a single parent. They have to love you, and they have to love your kids. It's a package deal. Don't hesitate to make them understand this.

Once you've decided that it's time to introduce your significant other to your children, do so in a deliberate and slow manner. Don't try to force your partner down your kids throats, or vice versa. This will only lead to disaster. Let the meetings start short and let the kids (and your partner) get used to the idea of hanging out together. - 15784

Date for Making Friends

By Mary Bush

Usually dating is concerned for having fun and spends some time with your love. But it is one of the best friend finders. You can make new friends. When we are very young we collect friends like sweets. As we get older we lose some along the way kind of like natural wastage. We fall out and we fall in, we change and adapt and we end up with a core group of our best friends, usually quite small but reliable and close.

It is simplest form of being introduced with new people. Dating often misses out on this aspect, the fact that to become lovers we should become friends too. It's not just an attraction but it's about how we get on, what we have in common, if we share the same belief systems, skills, laughs, humor, outlook, background and passions. If we do then this may well be the very basis for a great relationship.

Having a lot of friend around you is not friendship but remember nice people are hard to find so let us not just discount people because they fell at the first hurdle. Amongst all the people you do date, there will be one of two people who may not be your ideal match, but who could be your ideal friend. So try and keep an open mind. Maybe you can suggest that although you don't feel you would make it as a couple you would like to stay in touch and then actually do get in touch to do something. Make sure you have defined this as a fact and are clear though and don't string someone along and have them thinking there is some romance in the air.

Friendship is the initial stage of all relations. People often say that they would like to marry their best friend. In other words, your partner should also be your best friend. What we mean but that is that the concept of "best friend" means the person we can rely on, trust in full measure, turn to when in need and talk to about everything in the world. It is a beautiful notion and one that should be kept in mind.

Really, dating is all about making friends and then loving them even more than that. It is about forming close bonds in a fairly short space of time and then building upon them. This is why a purely sex or physical relationship doesn't often hold much long terms hope. It is surprising how many good friends also become lovers too. - 15784

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