Thursday, December 18, 2008

Turning the Tide on a Job Loss

By Estee Taschereau

What we do in life gives us value and shows the world who we are. Many of us focus that outward expression into their work. What then do you do if your job disappears? Where is your value?

Our work, like many other aspects of our lives, is based on an exchange of energies. We give service, time, or knowledge. In exchange we receive a paycheck, sometimes even a bonus. We may benefit in many other ways that are less tangible, such as team work, a handshake, or an accomplishment that will promote us in the future.

There is truth in the statement that our energy flows where our attention goes. Much of our energy does go into our work. For many of us we use our workplace for a portion of our self expression and social interaction since so much of our time is spent in the work environment. This is why leaving a job can be so devastating when it has become the nucleus of our lives.

Leaving a job is a big change in our live. It's not so bad when you hop from one job right into another, but when the economy is challenged and finding a new job is not so instant we can fall prey to worry, and question our value.

Losing a job will always impact our lives. The primary focus is on the loss of income, and this level is important and real. We must care for our day to day needs. Many of us feel other levels of loss as well, for our jobs often give us a sense of value and worth as well as routine and interaction with others.

It cannot be denied that the most effective solution is to gain new employment or return to our old job. In the meantime we can turn around this unfortunate situation by looking inward and using this incident as a tool for self improvement.

Focus for a moment on the other areas in your life that give you're an outlet of expression. You might be in the church choir, or assist in your child's team events. There can be other areas of value on this list, like your exercise program, interactions with friends, or something as simple as walking the dog. Those routines can give you a sense of comfort while you reconnect the work aspect of your life.

Change can give us an opportunity to release and realign ourselves, letting go of those things that have built up over many years. We don't always recognize how big a load we carry! In part two of this series we will explore some easy to use techniques for self awareness and release. - 15784

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How Teens Can Be More Successful At Dating

By katie George

If you are a teenager and have trouble dating, this guide is for you. These tips will surely help you survive in the dating world. Based on personal experiences of my own, and after talking to a large variety of teenagers on a daily basis, I have compiled this guide to help others who might have at one time, found themselves in many of the same positions I did. Don't expect this guide to make you a master at finding many dates with ease; it will still take work on your part. We will be touching on some very important issues that many teens face in the dating world. Let's get started!

One of the most popular questions I often get is what do I do if I like someone, but they don't like me back? There is no magical button you can press that will make someone love you, it has to happen all by itself. If you are in a position like this it can be difficult to deal with. We've all been there, you have a big crush on someone and they don't even know you are there. But thinking about something you can't change will only drain your energy even more and will make finding that special someone that much harder.

The first step is to acknowledge that all of that pain that you are feeling right now will always go away eventually, especially after you find someone you truly loves you for who you really are. You might even look back and laugh at that pain you felt when you realize that the person who loves you was just waiting to find you! There's no use getting worked up over things you can't change, because when things progress naturally at their own pace, the magic truly unfolds.

We all go through the teenager phase, where emotions run high and lead to jealousy towards others. But this isn't essentially something bad. If you are in a relationship, and your significant other is checking out other people, don't jump to conclusions and think you have to end the relationship. You do have a right to be annoyed, however first you must make your concerns clear. Communication is one of the most important things.

If you are hit by the jealousy bug, that's fine. We've all been there; but it's irrational jealousy that hurts us which is very different. This can lead to paranoia and constant worrying over whether not your partner is cheating. Although we all worry about these kinds of things in relationships, letting it rule your life is very unhealthy and can wreck the entire relationship itself. Ask yourself whether the jealousy you feel is justified or not.

At first, we may not know if we are in love or not. Another popular question I get from teens is when they ask, "How can I tell if I am in love or not?" I always respond by saying, you will know when it happens. You can feel it. It is the most straightforward answer of all because it is a feeling like no other. Obsession isn't love. If someone is on your mind all the time, you don't necessary have to be in love with them.

Lust is also compared to love but is not nearly as meaningful. Many of us have felt very strongly towards someone. You see them as being beautiful and attractive. Combining this lust with obsession can trap many people and will usually lead to an unfulfilling relationship.

This next issue is something many teens ask me how to deal with and I always give them this tip. A big problem regarding the love lives of teens is parents. Old fashioned parents often believe their younger teens shouldn't date and will disapprove of current boyfriends or girlfriends. An important step to dealing with this problem is to be on good terms with parents. Otherwise it will be that much harder to deal with the issue.

When the day is over, parents have your back. Although it may not seem like it, they've faced all the same problems you've dealt with. They've been in your shoes and have a lot more experience to draw knowledge from. Just like how relationships with your boyfriend or girlfriend thrive on communication, so does your relationship with your parents. It is important to never forget that. If you hide your actions from them and keep quiet, it will only lead to more heart-ache in the long run.

Now for the one thing on everyone's mind, flirting tips. The biggest and easiest way to flirt is conversation. It is important to read the other person's body language and to pick up on clues they may give off. This is all done while maintaining strong eye contact while you are talking. Try to smile a lot, laugh, and relax, while at the same time keeping your cool and not looking afraid. And of course, have fun! - 15784

Top Mistakes Made When Shopping Online

By Amy Nutt

Shopping online is something that has grown in popularity throughout the years, especially since websites have become more secure and the shopping as a whole has become a much easier experience. As a matter of fact, many people are finding that it is simply easier to just sit at their computer and plug in a credit card for the items they want. This is opposed to hopping in their car, driving to the shopping mall, and standing in lines all evening long. In other words, the online method of checking out is much more efficient than standing in a cashier?s line.

However, there are mistakes that people make when shopping online. It is very important to know what these mistakes are so that you don?t make them the next time you buy something online.

The mistakes

Now, you might be wondering what these mistakes could possibly be because the Internet is safe, right? Well, it is true that there has been technology put in place that allows the Internet to be safer when carrying out transactions. People have worried about identity theft and stolen credit card numbers for years when it comes to the Internet. But these new and improved ways of shopping online have changed.

But some things have not changed, which is what contributes to these mistakes:

? Shopping from a site that doesn?t have https:// in the address bar. You are used to seeing http://, but the https:// means that the connection is secure. This is very important when entering personal information such as a credit card number.

? Shopping from an unfamiliar site. Although someone may have said, ?You have to shop from this site.? You need to ask them if they have actually received the item. You also need to ask them if the charge was carried out correctly on their credit card. Again, make sure that the site is secure.

? Entering too much personal information is another issue. If you have a merchant asking you for your social security number, you need to hit your browser?s back button because there is no need for that. If they say it is for ?verification? purposes, that is not so. They shouldn?t be able to compare your social security number in the first place because they don?t really have access to any part of it.

? Make sure you keep an eye on the shopping cart. There are some instances in which it does not distinguish between adding something to the cart and checking out. You need to be careful because you might find yourself checking out instead of adding more items to your cart. This could result in you having to go back and do another transaction, which means additional shipping charges if you choose to use the same merchant.

These are some of the basic mistakes that can be made. In a nutshell, always be mindful of what it is you?re doing on the Internet.

Consequences

If you are wondering about the consequences that could be suffered from these mistakes, you?re looking at possible identity theft, theft of credit card numbers, money taken for an item that you never receive, and the possibility of having to pay more than what you really have to pay.

Fortunately, these consequences can be avoided by ensuring that you?re doing business with a reputable site and one that is secure. This means that you can have confidence in the company that you are doing business with. You shouldn?t have to be afraid to carry out a transaction on the Internet. By taking the right precautions you can do just that. You can have the confidence that you are going to get exactly what it is you ask for. - 15784

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Top Mistakes Made When Shopping Online

By Amy Nutt

Shopping online is something that has grown in popularity throughout the years, especially since websites have become more secure and the shopping as a whole has become a much easier experience. As a matter of fact, many people are finding that it is simply easier to just sit at their computer and plug in a credit card for the items they want. This is opposed to hopping in their car, driving to the shopping mall, and standing in lines all evening long. In other words, the online method of checking out is much more efficient than standing in a cashier?s line.

However, there are mistakes that people make when shopping online. It is very important to know what these mistakes are so that you don?t make them the next time you buy something online.

The mistakes

Now, you might be wondering what these mistakes could possibly be because the Internet is safe, right? Well, it is true that there has been technology put in place that allows the Internet to be safer when carrying out transactions. People have worried about identity theft and stolen credit card numbers for years when it comes to the Internet. But these new and improved ways of shopping online have changed.

But some things have not changed, which is what contributes to these mistakes:

? Shopping from a site that doesn?t have https:// in the address bar. You are used to seeing http://, but the https:// means that the connection is secure. This is very important when entering personal information such as a credit card number.

? Shopping from an unfamiliar site. Although someone may have said, ?You have to shop from this site.? You need to ask them if they have actually received the item. You also need to ask them if the charge was carried out correctly on their credit card. Again, make sure that the site is secure.

? Entering too much personal information is another issue. If you have a merchant asking you for your social security number, you need to hit your browser?s back button because there is no need for that. If they say it is for ?verification? purposes, that is not so. They shouldn?t be able to compare your social security number in the first place because they don?t really have access to any part of it.

? Make sure you keep an eye on the shopping cart. There are some instances in which it does not distinguish between adding something to the cart and checking out. You need to be careful because you might find yourself checking out instead of adding more items to your cart. This could result in you having to go back and do another transaction, which means additional shipping charges if you choose to use the same merchant.

These are some of the basic mistakes that can be made. In a nutshell, always be mindful of what it is you?re doing on the Internet.

Consequences

If you are wondering about the consequences that could be suffered from these mistakes, you?re looking at possible identity theft, theft of credit card numbers, money taken for an item that you never receive, and the possibility of having to pay more than what you really have to pay.

Fortunately, these consequences can be avoided by ensuring that you?re doing business with a reputable site and one that is secure. This means that you can have confidence in the company that you are doing business with. You shouldn?t have to be afraid to carry out a transaction on the Internet. By taking the right precautions you can do just that. You can have the confidence that you are going to get exactly what it is you ask for. - 15784

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Looking For The Best Alcohol Addiction Treatment?

By Don Pedro

According to professionals, alcoholism refers to any condition that result in the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages without making an allowance for the negative personal and social consequences. Therefore, an alcohol addict is someone that indulges in alcoholic beverages in spite of the negative consequences that comes with it.

Many forms of alcohol addiction treatment exist out there. But the best out of the lot can be found within the walls of a treatment centre. This is something many people liek you don't want to hear. But the truth must be told that the best way to help yourself or a loved one is to check into a treatment center. There are many reason for this and these will be discussed as we go on.

Whether the person (the addict) is just a beginner or has gone deep into alcoholism, the alcoholism addiction treatment centre is the excellent place to go for assistance. I have come across lots of people that have endeavoured to quit alcoholism on their own but could not help going back into it after being succesful for few days or weeks. They tried all forms of treatment suggested to them, the problem persist and in frustration, thye give up the battle against the bottle. When you or a loved one wants to overcome alcohol addiction, it is highly necesary fro you to attend any of the many centers out there. Now, which of the centre should you attend?

This is where many people get it incorrect. I generally recommend to people like you or your loved one to attend only a Christian alcoholism addiction treatment centre. Frankly speaking, this is the top place to attend. These types of centres generally combine the spiritual and traditional course in order to help addicts quit alcohol.

This is what many people out there are ignorant of. They thought everything about the Christian alcoholism addiction treatment centre is bible. No, that is far from the truth. The centre will in addition to the bible use other traditional means to aid patients. The patients will be introduced to a higher power that can aid him or her quit if prior attempt have not yielded any good result. Also, one on one counselling will be given to the addict. They would be counselled on the effects of alcoholism and what they can do to quit. Medically, they will be given some drugs that can aid their body so that they don't rely on alcohol again.

The internet is one of the sources of christain treatment center. You should be able to get a center that is very close to you. You don't have spend all your hard earned money on the treatment. Many of the christian centers out there are very affordable. However, never compromise on quality. Ensure that the center has all the facilities you need to get off alcohol. Good Luck. - 15784

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How Can You Make Money with Cash Gifting

By Merudh Patel

The magnetic gifting system is a unique cash gifting program that will allow you to give as well as receive. Many people have found that when they give to others in need that gift will come back to them and bring them great wealth.

The magnetic gifting program is a cash gifting system that is helping people everywhere give money and then receive that gift over and over again. Cash gifting is a way to share wealth within a community. When you join the magnetic gifting community you will meet the most successful and the most generous entrepreneurs on the internet.

The magnetic gifting system is different than other gifting programs online today. Other gifting programs cannot hold up through time so participants are left constantly searching for the next best gifting program. The magnetic gifting program has taken the best parts of these old systems and created a way to keep growing and maintaining income for the people involved with a team based community.

The concept of this gifting program is the same as most of the others. When you join you will give a gift to the person who helps you sign up. You then ask others to join the group and they will in turn gift you the same sum of money. This way if you recruit more than one person you will instantly make money.

The concept behind the magnetic gifting system is the same as most of the others. When you join you will give a specific cash gift to the person who helps you sign up. You then ask others to join the group and they will gift you the same sum of money. This way if you recruit more than one person you will make a profit.

The teams in the magnetic gifting program can really help you on your way to wealth. Team maverick offers innumerable tools to help you succeed. Tools like, weekly workshop conference calls, use of an on demand webmaster to help you with any technical need, auto responders and marketing letters that are already tested and proven.

It is hard to succeed at cash gifting without experienced help. You need a team of supportive people around you that will teach you how the system works and how best to give and to receive. You can build wealth with very little effort if you get involved in the magnetic gifting system. You can find out all the details of this team and this system by going to www.mycashrevolution.com. - 15784

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Practical Hints On Alcohol Treatment Centres In Washington

By Don Pedro

Washington is big and eye-catching but alcohol addiction is a serious aggravation in the city. The police are having a heck of time curbing people driving under the influence of alcohol. This is why we have many Washington alcohol treatment centres. These centres are available for you if you want to stay off alcohol for good.

Though some of these Washington alcohol treatment centres may be quite pricey, it's no pretext for patronizing quack and counterfeit centres. You can still stumble on discounted and affordable ones among them. Just be enduring while searching. Many of these centres give their services at an affordable rate in order to get more consumers like you. Since there are many of them in the city of Washington, there are countless competition. This has led many of them to do all sorts of things to get consumers. Hey, you don't need to worry about this. They are all trying to get your attention and your fund!

But you must not only certify that the centre is fully licensed, you must certify that the therapist also has a license to practice. This is a must if you want to obtain the paramount treatment for alcohol addiction. Many of the alcohol treatment centres in Washington are either not registered or have unlicensed therapist working for them.

Attending a Washington alcohol treatment centre is enormously advisable for you if you stay in Washington or counties around. It is better than spending a fortune going to other states for alcohol addiction treatment.

I know getting into an alcohol treatment centre is not thrilling but you need all the assistance you can get to stay off alcohol. Alcohol addiction has never done well to anyone. It only makes you unfortunate at the end of the day. The addict thinks in his or her world. He is under a delirium; believing that every other person is fallacious and he or she alone is right.

It's advisable to attend any of the Washington alcohol treatment centre near you instead of trying to do it on your own. It's no use trying since your body has been conditioned to alcohol. So, if your body does not get these alcohols, it begins to malfunction. This is why you must attend an alcohol treatment centre. - 15784

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Advice For Lesbian Dating Singles

By Jason King

To be successful at lesbian online dating you need to get the most out of your efforts. The first matter that needs to be sorted out is choosing the right lesbian online dating service that will offer you what you're looking for. This is where your free trials will be utilized to your advantage over your competition.

Your free trials

It's easy to set up a free trial so you can create a profile at a few different services. Just becoming a member to one service will restrict you to what you will find out about your technique of online dating.

Study the results of your profiles

Joining more than one dating service will allow you to study the results of different sections of your personal ad. You may get contacted more often on a web site that you never thought of even joining. Just because one site appears more popular doesn't mean it will give you the most results.

Try out different photos

With your free trials created at two or three dating services you can post a unique photo at each service. This allows you to see which photo gets a better response rate from other lesbian singles. The one where you think you look your best might not be the one that gets you the most contact. Make sure all the photos are clear so everyone can see what you look like. And also make sure you're in the photos on your own.

Find out how in demand the service in your area

You can see which dating service has the most singles in your area when you join more than one web site. You'll have a much larger selection of singles to choose from as well. This leads to you getting contacted more often.

Being too picky with your criteria in your searches will make your results list a lot smaller. No dating service is going to have a lot of your perfect partners, so it's good to be a bit open minded.

Don't pay for your membership too early

Your free trials will have no time limit. You only need to upgrade when you want to start sending emails to potential dates. And you should only do this at the web site that you feel you're going to get the most responses at.

Upgrading too early can cause you to choose the wrong online dating service, then you'll just give up on your online dating dream.

Enjoy yourself

The most critical part of being part of a lesbian online dating service is to enjoy yourself. When you're having fun the other lesbian singles that you contact and chat to will enjoy themselves. This will make you more accepted which will lead to you creating more new friends, and meeting possible partners. - 15784

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3 Things to Do to Get Your Girlfriend Back

By katie George

Relationships are about companionship, connection and comfort. Your significant other can feel like they are a part of you through the closeness you have. Suddenly the relationship vanishes. You don't have their closeness anymore. It feels like a part of you has died. The real possibility you may never be together again sets in.

Time is your enemy in getting her back. Time can weaken that connection you once shared. Despite what she said, right now, she still cares about you and has an emotional connection to you. These things just don't go away in a day or two. There's a lot of ways to get your girl back, but there are some basic things that you should follow.

1. Analyze the breakup

Give yourself some time to think about what went wrong. Think about the last significant event that happened. Replace the errors you see with what you should have done in those situations. Run it through to see how it might have played out if that had happened instead. Doing this will help you identify problems and you'll perhaps even see behavior patterns emerging so you can the right changes.

2. Stopping Making Mistakes That Will Sabotage Getting Back Together

It's really tempting to immediately call them up telling them you'll miss them, love them, and try to convince them to take you back. Chasing your ex after a breakup is only more likely to turn them away. So make sure you avoid mistakes like this to increase your chances of getting them back.

3. End The Relationship Dynamic as it Stands

Unfortunately you can't go back to the way things were. In order to get your girl back YOU need to change. You need to try to change the environment of the relationship into an as loving atmosphere as possible and continue to lead it in that direction to get back with your girl.

Finally, getting back your love with take time and not everyone succeeds at getting them back. It can be done though, but you've got to be willing to do the necessary changes and things to make it happen. - 15784

Where To Find An Alpha Male?

By Bruce Min

We've all known people at some point in our lives who we personally don't think to be attractive, yet they're still able to pick up women? Furthermore, we've all seen attractive women be approached by men who don't dress or look nearly as good as ourselves, yet are still able to strike a conversation with that person.

This person is a great example of what the alpha male is, and how he works. If you cannot live up to his name, and his reputation, then he has no competition. Instead, try modeling after him. The alpha male is fully secure with himself, which subsequently allows him to meet whoever he wants to.

The alpha male is not the usual cocky and arrogant person who thinks that the world revolves around them. The alpha male is a person with passion, no matter if it's from their business or any other talent that they may have. Women are instantly drawn to him, thinking that he just may be worth getting to know, and not just some guy looking for 'one-nighters'.

The alpha male is a fun guy, quick to spot moments where a refreshing punch line can be delivered. The alpha male's punch line is not straight out of a movie but rather a spontaneous and humorous response to the conversation. More than, finding what's funny about other people, the alpha male is willing to laugh at himself because he feels secure enough about his own self. Using humor is one of the best ways to attract women.

The alpha male is also very elegant in his social status. This could be something as simple as remaining calm when a serious issue arises. This could also be when to hear, and when to be heard. The alpha male knows how to talk to a woman to attract or further attract her attention. All of these qualities, in turn, are those that will create an attraction on the female's part. An attraction that causes the female to want to get to know the alpha male, to settle down with him, and to create a powerful relationship with him.

The alpha male also has a special quality in them that attracts women. He has a certain air of dominance that does not come from bossing anybody around or giving a big tip to the bartender. This is a quality that says that he knows what he wants and he knows he can get it without forcing it. This in itself is a major turn-on for women. The alpha male is not the overexcited guy who desperately wants the girl to find him attractive enough to go out with. The alpha male shows his attraction to the women in a calm, collected way and is sure to get her interested that she will be so hooked on him.

The alpha male really does sound too good to be true. A fictious person that no one could ever really accumulate to. That is incorrect, as the alpha male can live in you, if you're able to play your cards right, and create a positive atmosphere around you, and project confidence in your conversation. - 15784

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Mistakes Interracial Singles Make While Online Dating

By Jennifer King

Interracial internet dating web sites supply millions of interracial dating singles all over the world an excellent chance to meet someone they're completely compatible with. Why is it that these singles are not using this hugely successful method of meeting another single to it's best potential?

Mistake 1

The first faux pas interracial singles make is just signing up to one internet dating web site. Only joining one internet dating web site restricts your opportunities of dating someone, and doesn't allow you any room for any mistakes. When you join more than one service ( they're all free to join ) you can experiment with your profile to see which approach gets you the most results. You can easily find out what works best for you.

Signing up to more than one interracial online dating site gives you a much better opportunity of being emailed. You will also see which agency has the most singles living in your city.

Mistake 2

Not uploading a photo on your personal ad will sorely effect your internet dating. singles that put their photo on their profile can obtain up to 20 times more emails than those without a photo.

Most interracial singles will choose to have only the profiles with photos appear in their search results. For you, this means that if you haven't got a photo on your internet dating profile you're not even going to get seen. Even if they don't choose to see profiles with photos only no one is going to click on a profile that doesn't have a photo on it.

Mistake 3

Expecting your free trial to be a lifetime membership will not give you the option to begin sending emails to other interracial singles. Many singles begin their free trial, and that's it, and then they can't comprehend why no one replies to their free, one line messages. Other online daters, notably the women, want to be sent emails that have a message in them. They want to receive something that has meaning, and lets them know that you have looked at their profile.

Before you pay for your membership make sure you have given all the interracial online sites a good test first. Upgrading too soon can lead to you joining the wrong dating agency.

Mistake 4

Interracial singles that don't login very often are missing out on being emailed. Most online dating sites will show the number of days it has been since you last logged in to your account. This lets other singles know how serious you are on wanting to find a partner online. If you only login every 3 weeks to have a look at your messages you probably won't have any.

Logging in every couple of days lets the dating agency know that you're serious about finding someone else to date online. They will reward you when they show your personal ad nearer the top of the search results, and occasionally on the homepage of the dating service.

Steering clear of these mistakes will help you have a much more rewarding interracial internet dating experience. 90% of singles get nothing from their internet matchmaking because they make the faux pas' above.

You will definitely be dating someone offline, and beginning a new relationship when you do internet dating how it should be done. - 15784

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Looking For Asthma Treatments?

By Don Pedro

Asthma is a respiratory disorder where the bronchial tree is blocked by the formation of phlegm. Several factors cause phlegm formation. Some food like papaya, watermelon, and banana may affect people with an asthmatic tendency. Those who are vulnerable to this respiratory distress are recommended to avoid those foods.

When the respiratory tract gets inflamed, the muscles of the bronchus tend to shrink. Thus, the passage of air to the lungs is occluded. As a result, the patients suffer severely due to lack of air supply to the lungs. This situation is known to be asthma. If asthma isn't treated with care and immediate consultation with the physicians isn't made, it can become life threatening in no time.

People have tried different remedies for asthma throughout the centuries. Some natural aids like honey and Indian goose berries have significant potentiality to succor asthma. If it's prescribed by your physician you can try Indian goose berries, only 5-6 a day and experience some improvement. Honey and goose berry, when mixed together work like prophylactic.

Asthma can be life threatening. But it doesn't mean that your life has come to a dead end. But like many other diseases asthma has cure. There are many scientifically proved drugs and therapies that may grid you f this inherited respiratory distress. What's more, you can live just like the other successful people around you.

A patient suffering from asthma shows some noticeable symptoms that makes diagnosing asthma simple. The continuous efforts for making a deep breath make the chest cavity like a barrel. So a barrel shaped rib case along with other signs of breathlessness is major facts to determine asthma.

Lots of fresh air also gives comfort to asthma patients. Therefore, a asthma patient should keep him residence free from trapped air as well as other asthma stimulants like chlorinated products or tartrazines. To ensure proper ventilation, one needs to have enough doors and windows in his house.

The best and the most available aid for asthma treatment is honey. If you are suffering from asthma, honey can be your daily dose. Honey mixed with cinnamon or diluted in lukewarm water can field excellent remedy to this respiratory tract distress. So don't forget to have a tea spoon of honey before you go to bed every night.

The next thing that stimulates asthmatic situation is cold. If cold is treated with adequate warm clothing, which is most of the times quite affordable, the sufferings from asthma can be reduced to great extent. - 15784

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Why Men Dump Women, 3 Bad Reasons To Look Out For

By Hilda Laine

It doesn't seem like it takes too much these days for a man to drop a woman suddenly and then start on what he feels is a better life without her. Sometimes, he does this just because she has given him the chance to do so. Other times it happens because love is blind and in the beginning she just was unable to see the real him through her everything-is-perfect colored glasses.

In this article, we will talk about the top 3 bad reasons men decide to call it quits with a woman. These three reasons are common reasons but they say more about the man than the woman or the relationship. Still, they also say something about the vetting process used to pick men these days.

The guys who do these sorts of things are, generally speaking, real jerks and you should really look out for these types. They're actually out there. So, beware and don't give them the opportunity to dump you for their self-serving reasons!

She's Not the Choice of The People He Hangs With

Many times a man becomes taken by a woman who seems to be attractive to others he associates himself with. While reasoning like this is probably reserved for guys with inferiority complexes, many men are more concerned by having some one who is approved by their peers than they are finding somebody they truly love.

If at some point, it crosses this guy's warped mind, she is not up to his friends' and associates' standards, he might just have no more use for her. In this case, he'll find some excuse to call it quits.

She's Lost the "Wow! Look at Her!"

Unfortunately, it never comes to many people's minds that they will ever age. At first the two lovers could never look at anyone else because they are so taken with the physical attributes of each other. They are, in each others minds.... Perfect!

This is all great, but at some point, maybe like five kids down the road, she loses her 21-year-old-girl figure. Unfortunately, it's not until this point that either one of them realizes all along the relationship had been all about sex.

Having a Family is Too Tough!

The thing that's changed drastically over the years is that now a lot of folks seem to be in a hurry to settle down without really settling down. What I mean by this is, they start living together without ever starting a married type of relationship.

In the not too distant future, he figures out the family life is just too tough for him, and without having a commitment, he just walks out the door. Unfortunately, this happens all the time. Living together without marriage has become the thing to do to, and broken hearts are often the result.

Don't let this kind of thing happen. Live together for fun if you must, but a family? Don't you think the kids deserve better than that? - 15784

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The Importance of the Pastor's Wife in Church Planting

By Joel Comiskey

Church planters are like those who start their own business. The buck stops with them. There's always more work to do. And unless the wife is supportive AND INVOLVED it's very hard to make happen. My wife, for example, usually organizes the food in our church. She normally sets up the table clothes before our celebration service (we have a potluck after the celebration service). Often she and my kids have come back from a service exhausted, wondering when others would take the load. Unless my wife was called to serve in this capacity, she would have thrown in the towel along time ago.

Many church plants fail because the spouse is not in agreement. It's essential that both husband and wife are in agreement regarding each partner's respective role and involvement in ministry.

I recently talked with one church planter who admitted that the reason he closed his church plant was because his wife wasn't on board.

This particular pastor wrote a series of email, outlining his new church plant. The went like this: A friend of mine decided to launch a church by starting the Sunday celebration service immediately. I followed his email prayer requests over several months. They went like this:

Pray for people who attend the Weekend service to want to come back because they enjoyed the service and encountered God. Pray for 50,000 pieces of mail to get people to come to an event. "We have been putting out door hangers in nearby neighborhoods and have sent out a 50,000 piece mail out to let folks know about services. Pray that these invitations would get into the right hands and would draw in a mighty harvest." All systems in place: Please pray for the installation of the sound and lighting systems for the church. We need to have basic systems in place this week. There is also a team building the stage for the auditorium that we will use, pray that they will get this competed in time. Praise God we had 12 families visit from the mailout and doorhangers we sent out. Several of these were exactly the type of person we hoped to reach and have continued to attend. Pray for clarity on how to get the word out in the area about the church. We are working to increase our exposure through signs and are looking for other methods just to let our neighbors know we are in the community I heard God saying that the church was not "viable" and that He had somewhere else for me to serve. Obviously this was shocking and difficult to hear, but I felt I should evaluate this with the organization that has primarily been funding this new work.

When I inquired later why this church planter quit so early, I discovered that his spouse wasn't in agreement. His spouse was not in agreement and the church planter discovered when the pressure was on, when he wasn't spending sufficient time with his wife, he chose to save his marriage rather than his church plant.

In our church plant in Moreno Valley, most of the activity flowed through our home. having explicit rules regarding the use of home as an office.

Are both in agreement with regard to the place of children? Remember that the children will be nurtured in the church plant. They will participate in the activities of the new church plant. Are all in agreement with this?

Will you allow new people to come into your home? How are you going to model the life of Christ before the church and community.

It's essential to model this lifestyle before people. Having said this, it's essential to deliberately plan a day off. The children are before ministry, not an afterthought.

The issue is one of support and agreement. We know that with the exceptional challenges of "front line," new-church ministry, it is essential that the planter's spouse is solidly with him/her in his/her call. They must share the vision and dream as a team. The spouse must be committed to new-church development. The church planting couple must also have agreement on whatever role/position/relationship the spouse chooses to have regarding the new ministry. It is vitally important that there be a healthy process of communication of ideas, differences and a way to come to consensus in the relationship. The issue is more about attitude than it is about position. Nevertheless, it is important to consider the characteristics and commitments of both the planter and the spouse.

Joel Comiskey (Ph.D. Fuller Seminary) is an internationally recognized church consultant and speaker. He has served as a missionary with the C&MA in Quito, Ecuador and is now founding pastor of a cell-based church in Southern California. Joel's books have sold 132,000 copies in English and 332,000 copies worldwide. His titles include: Home Cell Group Explosion (Touch Publications, 1998), How to Lead a Great Cell Group Meeting (Touch Publications, 2001), and An Appointment with the King(Chosen Books, 2002) and Planting Churches that Reproduce (2008). Joel teaches as an adjunct professor at several theological seminaries. Joel and his wife, Celyce, have three daughters and live in Moreno Valley, California. - 15784

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Looking For Information On Alcohol And Drug Treatment?

By Don Pedro

Alcohol and drug treatment has been in existence for so many years. The only difference between then and now was the way the treatment is carried out. During the dark ages, there was not much knowledge about treating alcohol and drug addiction. Back then, the problem of addiction was perceived as demonic. In other words, the individual is seen as demonized or possessed by demons. The only treatment they believed is the best back then was to burn the addcit at stake. What a terrible way to deal with a simple matter! We are right to call it the dark age!

Some form of progress was made later as man begin to understand the problem of addiction. So, many years later, the individual was no longer seen as being possessed by demons, but he or she was perceived as someone grappling with madness. It's moderately unbelievable. The Alcohol and drug treatment back then include straight jackets, padded rooms, and electric shocks.

Our modern perception of addiction and appropriate alcohol and drug treatment plainly dates back to the 12 step program. This is a program started by the Alcoholics Anonymous. It is not until then that we start to see that addiction is neither demonic nor insanity. Yes, it is a setback but it is never solved by those terrible means in the past. There are now better approaches to dealing with the problem of addiction.

In order to help people with addiction, several alcohol and drug treatment centers were established. But most of these centers only have the 12 step model as treatment option. The patient is handed a book and told to rummage around for the nearest Alcoholics Anonymous centers. While there he will be told to attend 90 meetings in 90 days. Proponents of this method claim that it is moderately effective in helping the addict get off the trouble. We won't like to delve into the pros and cons at this phase. But it suffices us to know that it is the starting point of what we now as modern alcohol and drug treatment.

One thing that is appealing about the 12 step program is that it is free. In other words, you don't have to pay any high fee before getting treatment. It is not hard to find AA center nearby that you can attend. You can hop online and get it or check your phone book or yellow pages. Contact them and see what they can do to aid you get off addiction.

The 12 step program however is not the only way to get off drug and alcohol addiction. There are many methods out there that you can use. So, I advise you to ask if the center you desire to check into has other services apart from the 12 step program. It is satisfactory to check into one that has more than the 12 step program.

Finally, it is befitting that you try out as many alcohol and drug treatment options as likely. This is the only way you can know the right and perfect one for you. - 15784

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Dating on a Low Budget

By Ada Denis

With some creativity and preparation, dating needn't be an expensive experience. Dating on a budget doesn't mean a date will be less romantic, or that your date will think you are being tight-fisted; it will show that you are using your imagination and trying to be innovative. Whether you prefer to eat at a restaurant or go to the theatre, remember there are always cheaper date options. Your date doesn't need to know how much money you spend on a date; the most important thing is that you spend some quality time together and have fun getting to know one another. There are numerous ways for you to have a wonderful date without overspending which range from being completely free, to being relatively low-cost.

Eating is included in many date options, whether it is in a restaurant, bar or coffee shop. Eating out can take up a large portion of your date budget, but there are many alternative options to avoid this. Cooking at home is very popular with couples as it gives you the opportunity to relax in home surroundings while enjoying a delicious home cooked meal. It also gives you the chance to show off your cookery talent, or be impressed by your date's cookery skills. Alternatively you could enjoy a takeaway together and share your favourite dishes. Depending on the amount of food you order, takeaway prices are relatively cheap compared to a fancy restaurant. A picnic is another great date idea. A romantic setting in the countryside to enjoy a tasty picnic allows you to relax and make the most of the piece and quiet. A picnic can be as extravagant as you wish, or keep it simple for a lower cost. If you like the idea of a picnic and staying at home, another great idea is a candle-lit picnic on the living room floor. This is good if it is raining outside, plus it enables you to put on romantic music in the background. If you prefer going to a restaurant, then a lower-cost option is to go to a restaurant at lunchtime when many restaurants have special lunchtime offers and discounted meals. Alternatively you could have a mouth-watering pub lunch, which are often cheaper than restaurant prices.

If you like to go to the cinema or theatre on a date, there are cheaper options. Many cinemas offer discounted ticket prices on particular days and times, usually when visiting the cinema is unpopular. This does vary from cinema to cinema, but it is definitely worth looking in to. Another great idea is to watch a movie in the comfort of your own home. Not only is it cheaper and cosier, it also enables you to watch whichever movie you feel like, unlike the cinema where you are restricted to a handful of films. Why not substitute a visit to the theatre with a comedy club? Laughing is a great way to bring two people closer together, so a comedy club is a perfect option, plus it is guaranteed that you will end the date with a smile on your face. If you're not a great fan of comedy, you could always attend a book reading or poetry reading at a local bookshop. If both you and your date enjoy books and poetry, then this is an ideal option for you and it has the bonus of being free of charge.

If you are a fan of the outdoors and fresh air then there are several date ideas for you. A gentle stroll or even a hike in the countryside, the park or a wood is a good way to spend some quality time together. Without any interruptions you will have all the time you need to get to know one another without spending a penny. You then have the choice of taking some sandwiches with you and eating them in a quiet location, but don't forget to take some extra bread to feed the ducks if you are near a river or lake. Other outdoor date ideas include watching the sunset or sunrise, bird watching and stargazing, all of which can be very romantic, especially watching the stars in the fresh night air. Even if you aren't interested in birds or the stars, it can be enjoyable to learn something new with someone you care about.

There are several active date ideas that are low-cost which are great if you enjoy being energetic. You don't need to have special equipment or belong to a specialised club to take part in sport; your local park and a ball are sufficient. Being active is a great way to have fun and make you feel relaxed at the same time. Cycling is a great date idea if you enjoy the outdoors and enjoy being active. This won't cost you anything if you already own a bike. Alternatively many nature reserves or wooded locations allow you to hire bikes and cycle around the area. Less energetic activities such as miniature golf is another low-cost way to have fun. You could even take up kite flying and perhaps even make your own kite out of newspaper and bits you have about the house. You will have lots of fun together trying to get your homemade kite lift off the ground.

Other low-cost date ideas include window shopping, playing a board game, a visit to an art gallery or museum and a trip to the beach. Depending on parking prices and location, these ideas can be cost-free. Many museums and galleries are free to visit and a day at the beach needn't cost much if you take your own food and rug to sit on.

If you are interested in learning something new with your partner, why not take up a hobby together? It will cost to learn a new hobby, such as dancing or painting, but in the long run it will be cheaper than multiple visits to a restaurant, cinema or theatre. As well as having fun together, a hobby will lead to further date ideas to carry out, for example, visiting a castle or lake to paint your view.

Many of these date ideas can be as expensive or inexpensive as you like, but don't forget about hidden costs. Remember that admission fees, parking charges and eating and drinking out costs all add up and can make a date more expensive. If you plan your date and take into account possible added costs, then you can achieve a successful romantic date on a budget suitable for you. - 15784

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I just have to tell you I love you!

By Ada Denis

Remember the words from an old song...

"Be sure it's true when you say I love you, it's a sin to tell a lie".

The concept of "sin" has lost its meaning for many in our modern era, and even "love" has lost a significant portion of its importance.

If you still believe in "falling in love" then you will realize how difficult it is to say, "I love you" in a meaningful way. Three little words that can change your life forever. The words, themselves, have lost their meaning because of overuse, especially when it's not really true. Everybody says them, for many different reasons, even if they don't mean them.

However, when you really want tell your partner of your love it's such a hard decision to make for many reasons. Will your partner return your love? Will your partner simply accept your declaration with indifference? Will he or she feel threatened? It is such a common problem that even "The Seinfeld Show" had an episode on it.

So make it easy on yourself and plan the declaration so that as much as possible you eliminate the problems. The first step, of course, is to be certain you really are in love. If you so enjoy being with your partner that you want to be with him or her to the exclusion of all others, if you think of him or her every day when you are apart, you are probably in love. If you have even a small doubt you should wait a little longer.

If you are certain then plan a special occasion for it. Make it a significant moment in your life - one to remember with fondness for your whole life. Arrange an intimate dinner at your favorite restaurant and make it as romantic as you can. Give him or her a small gift because you love being with them, or you are so glad that you met them.

After dinner while holding your partner intimately gaze intently into their eyes and say, "I love you so much it hurts when we are apart. I hope that we can stay together forever".

Do not be disappointed if your partner does not return your declaration. They may not yet be ready and might need more time to state their feelings. Continue to share with your partner the highs and lows of your partner's life. Care for your partner's happiness and be on guard to protect his happiness.

Under no circumstances should you ever ask your partner, "Do you love me"? - 15784

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