I was perusing one of the internet's social networking sites that I often visit and came upon another members article. She described her recent breakup with a prospective lover. Her feelings of pain and angst were all too familiar and often the topics of conversation I am privy to in my private practice.
Of course we've all felt that sinking feeling. To this day I remember being six years old and being 'dumped' for the cutest little blond. Bobby was a fickle and handsome little first grader and I didn't think I'd ever get over that day. However, we all know that life changes, the days and years go by and some things change others seem to stay the same. Love is not for the faint of heart. To love we must be able to risk our feelings and that means sometimes hanging out there on that limb. We don't get a warranty with our relationships. So if you're going to risk your heart, here are life skills to help you along your search for love.
Who doesn't want to be in love? It is the happiest of places to be, you and me babe against the world! To be loved and desired is one of the most desirest things in the world! Get up off that floor! You must get your stuff together and realize that being in a place with someone that doesn't want you is not healthy. Begin the journey of moving on with the rest of your life. In order to be truly loved, you must love yourself first. By becoming you, you'll meet that match that is right for you.
So instead of reaching out for a phantom love or talking to yourself about what a cold, cold road it is out there, do something about finding that one great person to share your life with. The author I wrote about described her feelings of unrequited love as: "I am sitting here at my computer waiting as usual for him to email me, I have a feeling he won't. This is hard to write and as I do the tears start once more, I have cried over him so many times. I met someone who after talking with for several month's, almost everyday, came to love. Now how silly is that? I know I am being silly, but it's true. I told him many times how I feel, he thought it was nice, but was honest from the start telling me he did not feel the same way. So I made a fool of myself . Can someone tell me how do you get over someone you love, but dosn't love you? It hurts terribly and my heart is broken. "
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Of course we've all felt that sinking feeling. To this day I remember being six years old and being 'dumped' for the cutest little blond. Bobby was a fickle and handsome little first grader and I didn't think I'd ever get over that day. However, we all know that life changes, the days and years go by and some things change others seem to stay the same. Love is not for the faint of heart. To love we must be able to risk our feelings and that means sometimes hanging out there on that limb. We don't get a warranty with our relationships. So if you're going to risk your heart, here are life skills to help you along your search for love.
Who doesn't want to be in love? It is the happiest of places to be, you and me babe against the world! To be loved and desired is one of the most desirest things in the world! Get up off that floor! You must get your stuff together and realize that being in a place with someone that doesn't want you is not healthy. Begin the journey of moving on with the rest of your life. In order to be truly loved, you must love yourself first. By becoming you, you'll meet that match that is right for you.
So instead of reaching out for a phantom love or talking to yourself about what a cold, cold road it is out there, do something about finding that one great person to share your life with. The author I wrote about described her feelings of unrequited love as: "I am sitting here at my computer waiting as usual for him to email me, I have a feeling he won't. This is hard to write and as I do the tears start once more, I have cried over him so many times. I met someone who after talking with for several month's, almost everyday, came to love. Now how silly is that? I know I am being silly, but it's true. I told him many times how I feel, he thought it was nice, but was honest from the start telling me he did not feel the same way. So I made a fool of myself . Can someone tell me how do you get over someone you love, but dosn't love you? It hurts terribly and my heart is broken. "
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