Many girls wonder after a breakup: Is it smart to write my ex boyfriend a letter, to explain my feelings to him?
Regarding "getting a guy back" tactics, I can share a bit of my experience with you. I went through 2 breakups in the past (one after 5 years, and one after 1 and a half) and I usually find it very helpful to write my feelings on paper. The sad part is, if you write your ex boyfriend a letter expressing your inner most thoughts, or how broken you are about the situation, it does not improve the situation.
Guys and girls are fundamentally different. After a breakup, guys usually don't respond too well to emotional letters from their ex girlfriends. Of course there can be exceptions, but in general they just don't have the effect that we hope for.
What a lot of women want, is "closure" after a relationship ends. That's why they often have an urge to send a letter to their ex boyfriend to explain their feelings. I don't recommend this!
The best thing to do would be to just write what you feel, for yourself, on a piece of paper. Don't send it, just use it for yourself to get a good overview of your situation.
If you have the urge to share your feelings, then instead of snail-mailing them to your ex boyfriend, why don't you post them anonymously on a forum or blog? That way, you will get some feedback that can help you to gain some perspective on things, instead of unloading it on your ex boyfriend.
Some honest truth: If you are thinking to send your ex boyfriend a letter to try and get him back.. I think you are making a mistake. There are way better methods of getting a guy back than sending letters.
Well I hope you found some value in my article, and if I can just give you one thing to keep in mind it would be this: Value your friends, and the time you spend with them. Dont take their love for granted. - 15784
Regarding "getting a guy back" tactics, I can share a bit of my experience with you. I went through 2 breakups in the past (one after 5 years, and one after 1 and a half) and I usually find it very helpful to write my feelings on paper. The sad part is, if you write your ex boyfriend a letter expressing your inner most thoughts, or how broken you are about the situation, it does not improve the situation.
Guys and girls are fundamentally different. After a breakup, guys usually don't respond too well to emotional letters from their ex girlfriends. Of course there can be exceptions, but in general they just don't have the effect that we hope for.
What a lot of women want, is "closure" after a relationship ends. That's why they often have an urge to send a letter to their ex boyfriend to explain their feelings. I don't recommend this!
The best thing to do would be to just write what you feel, for yourself, on a piece of paper. Don't send it, just use it for yourself to get a good overview of your situation.
If you have the urge to share your feelings, then instead of snail-mailing them to your ex boyfriend, why don't you post them anonymously on a forum or blog? That way, you will get some feedback that can help you to gain some perspective on things, instead of unloading it on your ex boyfriend.
Some honest truth: If you are thinking to send your ex boyfriend a letter to try and get him back.. I think you are making a mistake. There are way better methods of getting a guy back than sending letters.
Well I hope you found some value in my article, and if I can just give you one thing to keep in mind it would be this: Value your friends, and the time you spend with them. Dont take their love for granted. - 15784
About the Author:
Mariah Tames is a psychology master, who specialized in relationship issues. You can You can read more of her ideas on getting a guy back on her site, and feel free to share your opinion!