'Tagging' is the buzz word today where a 'tag' is attached to everything and everyone. Whether it be a price to pay,an indicator of social importance,a nickname,or one who is caught out,being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
The tag of 'fat ridicule' can take the target down from a great distance. From the schooltime 'touch game' where you are always first to be 'got',to adulthood when a playful comment or just plain confrontational bullying becomes extremely hurtful. If you are 'fat tagged',you are a target figure and ridicule,in it's major or minor forms,hurts big time.
There can be nothing worse than to have an overweight dinner guest who feels it their duty to bore the pants off fellow diners, by intimately detailing how they lost 18 pounds (around 8 kilograms in metric fat) over two years. Though politely nodding and reassuringly admiring by return, that person is immediately mentally 'tagged' as the dinner guest not to invite next time. It's not just informal gatherings where the 'fat tag' comes into play but also in the general run of day socialising.
Everyone understands weight gain and the ease by which it happens. We instinctively admire those that lose weight sensibly. Without hesitation we approve and engage,as the proof of the pudding (so to speak) is standing in front of us. If you have lessened your weight,it shows! It shows in your talk,your walk,your confidence and self-esteem. The effect is very much that of a 'desert flower' blossoming again as rain falls after a long hot drought. What is needed now is avoid the 'dessert' as much as possible with just an occasional visit.
Many circumstances arise when we are forced to view ourselves as others see us. Stripped bare of our clothed facade prior to daily bathing,lovemaking,beach lounging or just dressing,we see our 'bodily' self and our reaction might be to:- (1) Shudder and shake our heads in disbelief at what we have become (2) Kid our-self that what we see is not that bad (3) Admire our-self and what we have physically achieved
This 'self' is our deep rooted personal identity and how we see our 'self' holds the keys to our mental balance. It is that important. Seeing our 'self' as an individual that has hidden depths and strength of character makes us that person. Psychologists can dig deep on this one but if we see our 'self' as a weak and submissive individual as that's the easy way,then we will also become that weak person and living with your 'self' gets harder for it.
We mentally record a deep hurt if ridiculed,no matter if spoken or intimated in the banter of love. The pointed arrow hits an 'outwardly hidden' target. In our quiet reflective time the 'fat-tag' hurts deeply. Nightly despair quickly bleeds into the day's routine unless corrective action is taken. Each layer of fat added is measured in degrees of sadness whereas each layer lost causes disproportional elation..
If we see our-self as overweight, then in our own mind we have lost some of our personal identity and a lot of self-esteem. So we have to strip the fat and remove some of the lardy layers that weigh even more heavily on our minds. The trick is not to see our-self as impossibly overweight but possibly overweight. We can deal with 'possibly overweight' as that self-impression leaves the door open for improvement. - 15784
The tag of 'fat ridicule' can take the target down from a great distance. From the schooltime 'touch game' where you are always first to be 'got',to adulthood when a playful comment or just plain confrontational bullying becomes extremely hurtful. If you are 'fat tagged',you are a target figure and ridicule,in it's major or minor forms,hurts big time.
There can be nothing worse than to have an overweight dinner guest who feels it their duty to bore the pants off fellow diners, by intimately detailing how they lost 18 pounds (around 8 kilograms in metric fat) over two years. Though politely nodding and reassuringly admiring by return, that person is immediately mentally 'tagged' as the dinner guest not to invite next time. It's not just informal gatherings where the 'fat tag' comes into play but also in the general run of day socialising.
Everyone understands weight gain and the ease by which it happens. We instinctively admire those that lose weight sensibly. Without hesitation we approve and engage,as the proof of the pudding (so to speak) is standing in front of us. If you have lessened your weight,it shows! It shows in your talk,your walk,your confidence and self-esteem. The effect is very much that of a 'desert flower' blossoming again as rain falls after a long hot drought. What is needed now is avoid the 'dessert' as much as possible with just an occasional visit.
Many circumstances arise when we are forced to view ourselves as others see us. Stripped bare of our clothed facade prior to daily bathing,lovemaking,beach lounging or just dressing,we see our 'bodily' self and our reaction might be to:- (1) Shudder and shake our heads in disbelief at what we have become (2) Kid our-self that what we see is not that bad (3) Admire our-self and what we have physically achieved
This 'self' is our deep rooted personal identity and how we see our 'self' holds the keys to our mental balance. It is that important. Seeing our 'self' as an individual that has hidden depths and strength of character makes us that person. Psychologists can dig deep on this one but if we see our 'self' as a weak and submissive individual as that's the easy way,then we will also become that weak person and living with your 'self' gets harder for it.
We mentally record a deep hurt if ridiculed,no matter if spoken or intimated in the banter of love. The pointed arrow hits an 'outwardly hidden' target. In our quiet reflective time the 'fat-tag' hurts deeply. Nightly despair quickly bleeds into the day's routine unless corrective action is taken. Each layer of fat added is measured in degrees of sadness whereas each layer lost causes disproportional elation..
If we see our-self as overweight, then in our own mind we have lost some of our personal identity and a lot of self-esteem. So we have to strip the fat and remove some of the lardy layers that weigh even more heavily on our minds. The trick is not to see our-self as impossibly overweight but possibly overweight. We can deal with 'possibly overweight' as that self-impression leaves the door open for improvement. - 15784
About the Author:
Edwin Strong is an accomplished eater. His bodily profile reflected this passion. Ed saw his body go to pot over the years and determined to change the situation. Diets' did work and then didn't because they don't, not long term. Ed's search for an eating regime that made sense lead him to strip that fat plus when hunger pangs strike or food is not available hoodia gordonii