Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Why Join an HIV-Positive Dating Site

By John Bear

HIV-positive men and women face trials that involve finding ways to continue to have a rewarding social, romantic and sexual life. Unfortunately there continues to be fear and stigma about HIV and AIDS, but nobody living with HIV or AIDS should be forced to live in isolation. A number of dating websites have emerged to help HIV-positive individuals meet other people in similar situations.

Hints and Cautions

The advantages of an HIV-positive dating site is that it gets rid of one of the toughest impediments to dating: telling someone that you are HIV positive. Stay available for change. If you are dating for the first time since you learned you are HIV positive, it is likely that you have changed and grown significantly since your last relationship. You could find yourself dating people unlike anyone you have ever dated previously.

Protect your personal privacy. Be honest and responsible about your HIV/AIDS status and other issues, but remember that on the Internet, even on an HIV positive dating site, the spread of information can be quick.

Prepare to Join an HIV-Positive Dating Site

Only you can make a decision that it is time to begin meeting other people to find someone you would like to date. Decide whether there are specific parameters or requirements for people that you want to meet, including such things as age, gender, HIV status, and profession or relationship status. Look for an HIV-positive dating website that is likely to draw the kinds of people you are looking for.

Take a few good, current photographs of yourself and maintain them in your computer's "My Pictures" folder. A good, casual and well-lit photo is usually essential to getting noticed on any dating site.

Stay away from dating sites that seem to exist primarily to draw traffic for ulterior advertising purposes, pop-up ads and spam. You can quickly tell in your first few seconds of looking at a site whether or not it is legitimate. Bad websites can do damage to your computer and waste your time without ever putting you in contact with any real people. Ensure that you trust any website before you join the site, or provide private personal information such as email address or credit card information.

You Can Meet Potential Dates on an HIV-Positive Dating Site

Craft a fun, lighthearted personal ad about yourself and consider running it by a friend or two for reactions and input. Your personal ad and photograph will be your first impression, and will make a tremendous difference in the kind of people you draw to your ad.

Read other people's personal ads on a site that appeals to you. Join and post your own ad and photograph there or on another legitimate site. Connect with people who interest you, based on their ads or their responses to your ad. - 15784