Monday, December 8, 2008

Are You New To Online Dating

By Jason King

Are you newly single and interested in using online dating sites to meet new people? Before you begin your adventure there are a few tips you could use to make life easier. Being a new single, especially after a long relationship, places you in a unique position.

It doesn't matter how long ago you became single again, you should be aware that you'll have an unavoidable bit of psychological 'baggage' that your online dating could be affected by. Your mental scars might only be small. What's important is to be on the lookout for ways this baggage creeps into your profile.

When you create your profile, keep an out for anything that suggests bitterness, heartbreak or desperation. It might not even be something obvious to you, but to someone else, they might see it instantly. If you have a close friend who knows you're about to try online dating you could run your profile by them first for a second opinion

For instance, let's say you're still feeling a twinge of sadness over being single. A headline similar to "Are You There?" is a good sign you have emotional problems, or are at least showing some. This can look a bit desperate to another single online even if you think it sounds OK.

Another example is listing all the things that ruined your last relationship, and what you didn't like about your previous partner in your profile.. This is also a mistake. While it might seem like a good idea to specify that you want someone who "doesn't lie, cheat or snore", it comes across to others as petty and a little bit bitter!

Being positive is important if you want other singles to contact you when you're online dating. Know in advance that you aren't likely to meet your match right away. Instead, you'll probably meet a few duds and few people who become really great friends before you finally meet that special someone. This is normal at a dating service. Be proud of your single status. It means you have the freedom to choose, and freedom of choice is half the battle!. - 15784

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