The holidays are supposed to be a fun and happy time of the year. But if your partner just broke up with you, the last thing you feel like doing is celebrating... especially if all you want is to be back together again.
If you are trying to deal with a breakup right now, keep your chin up. Here are three steps to help you get through the upcoming holidays. Pay close attention, because making the right moves now can go a long way towards getting back together again.
This first step may be hard for you to do, but it's probably the smartest thing you can do right now. You need to tell your ex that they were right... that your relationship had some problems, and that breaking up was probably the best thing to do.
I know, I know. That's the last thing you want to do, but trust me... you want to be strategic right now. Doing this takes all the power away from your ex. It's the last they expect you to do, and they will start to feel that they aren't "in charge" anymore.
Next, you need to take advantage of this time apart. Don't spend hours and hours brooding about the breakup and what you should have done differently. Go out and have some fun. Get together with old friends. Meet new people.
Take time for yourself right now, and after a few weeks you'll have a better idea of what you really want. You could find that you really do want to try to make the relationship work... or you might discover that you're ready to move on.
If you find that you really do want to reunite with your ex, pay close attention to this next step. It's very important.
You're going to need to find out how your ex feels. Chances are, they are missing you as much as you're missing them. Even so, you don't want to run over and beg them to take you back. You need to take things slowly, and stay in control.
Here's what I mean...
When you start seeing your ex again, you want to play it cool. Act a little hard-to-get right now. If you ex really is missing you and sees how well you are doing on your own, this will make them start to rethink their decision. This puts you in a much better position. Instead of trying to convince them to take you back, they are the one making the move to reconcile.
Just three steps: agreeing that the breakup is a good idea, going out and having fun on your own, and then playing it cool when you see your ex, will help you get through the holiday season ahead. You might get back together again, but even if you don't, you'll end up having some fun and making some new friends in the process. And the best thing is, you get to walk away with your dignity intact. - 15784
If you are trying to deal with a breakup right now, keep your chin up. Here are three steps to help you get through the upcoming holidays. Pay close attention, because making the right moves now can go a long way towards getting back together again.
This first step may be hard for you to do, but it's probably the smartest thing you can do right now. You need to tell your ex that they were right... that your relationship had some problems, and that breaking up was probably the best thing to do.
I know, I know. That's the last thing you want to do, but trust me... you want to be strategic right now. Doing this takes all the power away from your ex. It's the last they expect you to do, and they will start to feel that they aren't "in charge" anymore.
Next, you need to take advantage of this time apart. Don't spend hours and hours brooding about the breakup and what you should have done differently. Go out and have some fun. Get together with old friends. Meet new people.
Take time for yourself right now, and after a few weeks you'll have a better idea of what you really want. You could find that you really do want to try to make the relationship work... or you might discover that you're ready to move on.
If you find that you really do want to reunite with your ex, pay close attention to this next step. It's very important.
You're going to need to find out how your ex feels. Chances are, they are missing you as much as you're missing them. Even so, you don't want to run over and beg them to take you back. You need to take things slowly, and stay in control.
Here's what I mean...
When you start seeing your ex again, you want to play it cool. Act a little hard-to-get right now. If you ex really is missing you and sees how well you are doing on your own, this will make them start to rethink their decision. This puts you in a much better position. Instead of trying to convince them to take you back, they are the one making the move to reconcile.
Just three steps: agreeing that the breakup is a good idea, going out and having fun on your own, and then playing it cool when you see your ex, will help you get through the holiday season ahead. You might get back together again, but even if you don't, you'll end up having some fun and making some new friends in the process. And the best thing is, you get to walk away with your dignity intact. - 15784
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