One of the hardest things to do is to present yourself in a positive light. It's easy to make the mistake of trying way too hard - and turning ourselves into fabulous, flawless and divine indivuduals. Or even worse - we don't value ourselves enough or lack a bit of confidence in presenting our selves in the best way. I other words we sell ourselves short.
Life is hectic and complicated enough - so we don't often have all the time in the world to catch someone's interest.
A little effort before hand can reap big rewards.
So get started and write a great description of yourself. Try and be honest in terms of your positive points and your not so positive ones.
1. Get a Great Photo - and Look Happy!
It makes you wonder what folks were thinking when they put their photos up on the dating sites.
Do not - and I repeat do not - take your picture on waking up first thing in the morning, when you're in a bad mood, having a horrifically bad hair day, or after a late night boozer.
The best photos include a head and shoulders shot, good lighting (ideally natural), and you with a big smile on your face. Don't be afraid of colour either. Wearing something bright and colourful will make your profile stand out and give you a bit of 'pizzazz'.
2. Avoid 'Ad-Speak' Like the Plague
Have you ever read these lovelies : "great personality", "wonderful woman", "loves eating out"
Are you asleep yet?
Be specific - the dazzle is always in the detail.
Revealing details about yourself, allows your viewers to form a multi-dimentional image of you. Therefore you appear far more memorable to them.
3. Rub Your Aladin's Lamp and State Your Wishes
Be clear what you want in a person and state it. Don't assume that people will work it out because they won't. The more clear you are with regard to your beloved the better and more targeted your responses will be.
If you are religious and that is important to you - then state it. If you are looking simply to date or if you want something more serious and substantial - state it.
By being vague and general you risk a deluge of responses that you will eventually have to wade through, and this is ultimately a waste of your time and theirs.
4. Tell Me No Lies or Porkies
As tempting as it sounds, do not exaggerate yourself to epic proportions. You are not a movie script.
Physical appearance is an aspect where you can not get away with 'hype'. Describing your self as "hot", "stunning" may not endear you too your audiance as physical attraction is always a personal and subjective thing. It's far more cool to put your photo up and draw your admirers to you.
Your mother may be singing your praises, but a "great person", one who "you will not regret meeting" with a "fantastic personality" is so 80's darling.
Reality check required.
5. The Groundwork is Essential
When getting to know someone, a few key fundamental information points are useful. These include your marital status, age, level of education, job, and general geographic location.
Do not give any specifc information about yourself. This is for your safety.
6. Paint Your Colorful World
We all like heroes, strong characters, people who believe in something important to their hearts.
We love them because we can identify with some value or goal of theirs. We feel motivated and inspired by them.
Now it's your turn to look at your own life - and find the theme or flavour that's flowing through your stream.
Write down the many things that inspire you, make you happy, and make you laugh. Include your best skills and traits, and what makes you unique.
E.G. Soulful and Sensitive Writer in Seattle, Traveller and 'Mean Piano Player'
7. Let Yourself Go
Like with most things in life - often it's the simplest things that make us happy.
So be playful and light, be smart, have fun, and enjoy the journey as it will be a great learning and growing experience for you. - 15784
Life is hectic and complicated enough - so we don't often have all the time in the world to catch someone's interest.
A little effort before hand can reap big rewards.
So get started and write a great description of yourself. Try and be honest in terms of your positive points and your not so positive ones.
1. Get a Great Photo - and Look Happy!
It makes you wonder what folks were thinking when they put their photos up on the dating sites.
Do not - and I repeat do not - take your picture on waking up first thing in the morning, when you're in a bad mood, having a horrifically bad hair day, or after a late night boozer.
The best photos include a head and shoulders shot, good lighting (ideally natural), and you with a big smile on your face. Don't be afraid of colour either. Wearing something bright and colourful will make your profile stand out and give you a bit of 'pizzazz'.
2. Avoid 'Ad-Speak' Like the Plague
Have you ever read these lovelies : "great personality", "wonderful woman", "loves eating out"
Are you asleep yet?
Be specific - the dazzle is always in the detail.
Revealing details about yourself, allows your viewers to form a multi-dimentional image of you. Therefore you appear far more memorable to them.
3. Rub Your Aladin's Lamp and State Your Wishes
Be clear what you want in a person and state it. Don't assume that people will work it out because they won't. The more clear you are with regard to your beloved the better and more targeted your responses will be.
If you are religious and that is important to you - then state it. If you are looking simply to date or if you want something more serious and substantial - state it.
By being vague and general you risk a deluge of responses that you will eventually have to wade through, and this is ultimately a waste of your time and theirs.
4. Tell Me No Lies or Porkies
As tempting as it sounds, do not exaggerate yourself to epic proportions. You are not a movie script.
Physical appearance is an aspect where you can not get away with 'hype'. Describing your self as "hot", "stunning" may not endear you too your audiance as physical attraction is always a personal and subjective thing. It's far more cool to put your photo up and draw your admirers to you.
Your mother may be singing your praises, but a "great person", one who "you will not regret meeting" with a "fantastic personality" is so 80's darling.
Reality check required.
5. The Groundwork is Essential
When getting to know someone, a few key fundamental information points are useful. These include your marital status, age, level of education, job, and general geographic location.
Do not give any specifc information about yourself. This is for your safety.
6. Paint Your Colorful World
We all like heroes, strong characters, people who believe in something important to their hearts.
We love them because we can identify with some value or goal of theirs. We feel motivated and inspired by them.
Now it's your turn to look at your own life - and find the theme or flavour that's flowing through your stream.
Write down the many things that inspire you, make you happy, and make you laugh. Include your best skills and traits, and what makes you unique.
E.G. Soulful and Sensitive Writer in Seattle, Traveller and 'Mean Piano Player'
7. Let Yourself Go
Like with most things in life - often it's the simplest things that make us happy.
So be playful and light, be smart, have fun, and enjoy the journey as it will be a great learning and growing experience for you. - 15784
About the Author:
Hi I'm Rebecca Adams - and i've been giving relationship tips to singles and couples for 12 years. Whether your just starting a relationship, walking the dating minefield, or happily or unhappily married - there's something for you! Visit us and pick up your free Gift today : The 8 Keys to Having a Great Relationship Experience -- And Why it All Starts With YOU!