The most difficult thing for most men to do is know when to go in for a kiss when a date is winding down. The more experienced you become with women, the easier this is, but if you're getting back into the dating scene or you're new to dating, knowing when to go in for a kiss can be difficult.
Just remember that knowing when (and if) a woman is ready for you to kiss her comes down to one thing - careful observation.
You need to be aware of the woman's body language and behaviors, because these will be the things that give you the clues to proceed.
Here is what to look for:
1. Check your gut feeling on how the date has gone. If she has clearly not enjoyed herself and does not appear into you, a kiss is not in the cards. If the attraction is not already there, she will not be head over heels for you if you suddenly plant one on her.
2. If you're not quite sure on the status of things -- for example if you can't really tell if her reluctance is due to shyness (but she likes you) or disinterest -- then you need more data. Subtly try to initiate some physical contact.
3. Stand a little closer to her and see if she backs up or allows you into her personal zone. Casually initiate touching her by putting your arm around her waist. If she hugs up on you a little, that's a great sign! If she cringes, she's probably not comfortable enough with you to kiss.
4. Make direct eye contact, smile, and look at her reaction. Does she smile back and seem to enjoy looking at you? Does she appear uncomfortable and looks away, refusing to hold eye contact? If she goes along with what you're doing, she's in rapport with you. If she's not, then you haven't built up a strong enough connection yet.
The point I'm trying to hammer home here is this: you CAN figure out her emotional state by putting her into situations where she can't avoid sharing some body language signals about her feelings -- either negative or positive.
When you've figured out the situation is right to go in for the kiss, then don't try anything fancy - simply square up to her and just kiss her. Don't try and sneak it in, or trick her into letting you kiss her. Do everything very deliberately.
Remember - the key here is confidence! Even if you're a bag of nerves about kissing her, you'll want to try and appear as confident as you can. A meek, hesitant kiss is a big turn off. You need to show her your intentions when you go in for the kiss!
Whatever you do, NEVER ASK a woman if you can kiss her! That ruins the magic of the moment. Pay attention to her body language and see if you're getting the green lights to make your move. If you're not getting the right signals, don't push it! Back off, because you have to create more comfort with her before you can proceed.
If you make your move at the appropriate time, and do it assertively yet smoothly, then you'll score some big points. Girls rate that first kiss as an important indicator of your potential as a possible boyfriend. Not only is that kiss indicative of your confidence and manliness, it is also a precursor to a woman knowing if you'll be a good match or not! - 15784
Just remember that knowing when (and if) a woman is ready for you to kiss her comes down to one thing - careful observation.
You need to be aware of the woman's body language and behaviors, because these will be the things that give you the clues to proceed.
Here is what to look for:
1. Check your gut feeling on how the date has gone. If she has clearly not enjoyed herself and does not appear into you, a kiss is not in the cards. If the attraction is not already there, she will not be head over heels for you if you suddenly plant one on her.
2. If you're not quite sure on the status of things -- for example if you can't really tell if her reluctance is due to shyness (but she likes you) or disinterest -- then you need more data. Subtly try to initiate some physical contact.
3. Stand a little closer to her and see if she backs up or allows you into her personal zone. Casually initiate touching her by putting your arm around her waist. If she hugs up on you a little, that's a great sign! If she cringes, she's probably not comfortable enough with you to kiss.
4. Make direct eye contact, smile, and look at her reaction. Does she smile back and seem to enjoy looking at you? Does she appear uncomfortable and looks away, refusing to hold eye contact? If she goes along with what you're doing, she's in rapport with you. If she's not, then you haven't built up a strong enough connection yet.
The point I'm trying to hammer home here is this: you CAN figure out her emotional state by putting her into situations where she can't avoid sharing some body language signals about her feelings -- either negative or positive.
When you've figured out the situation is right to go in for the kiss, then don't try anything fancy - simply square up to her and just kiss her. Don't try and sneak it in, or trick her into letting you kiss her. Do everything very deliberately.
Remember - the key here is confidence! Even if you're a bag of nerves about kissing her, you'll want to try and appear as confident as you can. A meek, hesitant kiss is a big turn off. You need to show her your intentions when you go in for the kiss!
Whatever you do, NEVER ASK a woman if you can kiss her! That ruins the magic of the moment. Pay attention to her body language and see if you're getting the green lights to make your move. If you're not getting the right signals, don't push it! Back off, because you have to create more comfort with her before you can proceed.
If you make your move at the appropriate time, and do it assertively yet smoothly, then you'll score some big points. Girls rate that first kiss as an important indicator of your potential as a possible boyfriend. Not only is that kiss indicative of your confidence and manliness, it is also a precursor to a woman knowing if you'll be a good match or not! - 15784
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