If you are hoping to win back your ex, you will have to handle it very delicately. It's important to know that her feelings and yours are hurting and that they still are, even if you're feeling OK right now. Great care must be taken so that you can avoid triggering the arguments that caused you to break apart.
Here are some suggestions:
You should reflect on what the cause of the break up was and whether changes for the better are possible. What can you do to ensure that break ups don't happen in the future? Compromises may be necessary. Will you be able to live with them? Will she? Understanding the "why" of the break up will also enable you to avoid any accidental triggering of old conflicts when you make your first attempts to get her back.
Two requirements will be essential that tend to be contradictory. On the one hand, it's very important that you maintain contact with her. On the other, you cannot get too aggressive since this may drive her further away. In fact, contact should be allowed to cool off some but not terminated.
You will have to let her know in a subtle and casual way that you still want to be a part of her life. Communication should be relaxed, casual, and not too frequent. Drop her the occasional "Hey, what's up" email but don't load up her inbox because you will come across as pushy, desperate, or needy.
Find innocent and safe ways that demonstrate that she is still in your thoughts. Show her that she matters to you by remembering the important dates in her life such as anniversaries. Send a card on her birthday and on holidays.
Don't allow yourself to become isolated. Visit your friends and keep your social life going. This allows you to remain upbeat. She must never think that the breakup has turned you into a complete wreck.
She should think that you're doing fine but that her welfare matters to you. This enables her to rethink the times that the two of you shared without feeling pressured.
Finally you must make the effort to be friends with her. This should recapture the good things that the both of you had and will create trust. This trust should strengthen and bring you both closer together.
When it comes to winning back your ex, there's no exact method but these suggestions will get you started. Staying in touch with her is vital but remember to keep it subtle. Get too aggressive and you'll scare her away. - 15784
Here are some suggestions:
You should reflect on what the cause of the break up was and whether changes for the better are possible. What can you do to ensure that break ups don't happen in the future? Compromises may be necessary. Will you be able to live with them? Will she? Understanding the "why" of the break up will also enable you to avoid any accidental triggering of old conflicts when you make your first attempts to get her back.
Two requirements will be essential that tend to be contradictory. On the one hand, it's very important that you maintain contact with her. On the other, you cannot get too aggressive since this may drive her further away. In fact, contact should be allowed to cool off some but not terminated.
You will have to let her know in a subtle and casual way that you still want to be a part of her life. Communication should be relaxed, casual, and not too frequent. Drop her the occasional "Hey, what's up" email but don't load up her inbox because you will come across as pushy, desperate, or needy.
Find innocent and safe ways that demonstrate that she is still in your thoughts. Show her that she matters to you by remembering the important dates in her life such as anniversaries. Send a card on her birthday and on holidays.
Don't allow yourself to become isolated. Visit your friends and keep your social life going. This allows you to remain upbeat. She must never think that the breakup has turned you into a complete wreck.
She should think that you're doing fine but that her welfare matters to you. This enables her to rethink the times that the two of you shared without feeling pressured.
Finally you must make the effort to be friends with her. This should recapture the good things that the both of you had and will create trust. This trust should strengthen and bring you both closer together.
When it comes to winning back your ex, there's no exact method but these suggestions will get you started. Staying in touch with her is vital but remember to keep it subtle. Get too aggressive and you'll scare her away. - 15784
About the Author:
Broke up recently? Get free advice on how to get over a breakup and learn about this new product - The Magic of Making Up.