Catch her eye. Your profile must be outstanding. How you will do that, is your choice. Everybody can write: Male, Scorpio, looking for an attractive, etc., however, you better express your own personality, invent something, which will bring attention to your profile.
Everything is in the detail Perhaps, this is true, but sometimes it is better if some details are set aside. Your profile must be precise and reasonably short: if she will find it interesting, you will update her on all your characteristic details later. So, your personal description will be better if it is concrete and brief. Again, it is better to emphasize not the size of your shoes and color of your eyes, but the key features of your character, habits and desires. Perhaps, she will find interesting to know what kind of cigarettes you use, when you prefer to smoke and how much coffee you consume while at work, but, better to limit your description to the key features of your personality (clearly, the listed ones are not those features).
Address her directly. You have to avoid any writing in third person, because such writing carries a serious psychological drawback. Here is an example. Assume that someone writes in his profile: "I hope to find a single woman, who likes to keep things in order and has great sense of humor, which helps her take things easy. Like, she can enjoy getting completely wet under warm summer rain," etc. She might be just that type of a girl described in this passage, but because of the third person she can miss the message, feeling that this is all about someone else. How not to miss such opportunity? One has to write in a first: "Hey, I am looking for YOU, please, wink to me if this is written about you: I love when everything in my life is in order, but if I am getting caught in a warm summer rain I just laugh and enjoy it. It is life and I am thankful for an opportunity to get a little wet once in a while!" You see, the content of the examples is the same, but the way of expression is different. And I guarantee you that the second version will attract much more attention!
Dont be too serious. Your profile, of course, should not be an entire joke. However, making it as a formal memo is a bad idea either. This is not your curriculum vita or statement of purpose! So give her a wink with your words, trick her (just a little), but be balanced. Try to be serious and funny at the same time. Good sense of humor is always a plus.
Mystify! It is hard to predict a woman, but there is a way to stir her interest: women love mysteries. So give it to them! Leave untold parts in your story, leave blanks, stir her curiosity and interest and be assured, she will wink to you or may be even will write you first! If she would fill the gaps in your story with her imagination, she would love to know how good are her guesses, so you will have her attention and this is what your profile is for!
Careful with your exclusion list. The list of those who shall not attempt to contact you must be made with a certain caution. Offering your friendship to all females from 20 to 35 might be too silly, but it will not be much smarter to limit your list to blonde supermodels with Ph.D. in astrophysics. First, if requirements are too high, one can miss his perfect match just because she may think that the author of such profile suffers from some inferiority complex. Second, while nobody is looking for dating ugly ladies. Ladies, in their turn, even most beautiful ones, quite often tend to be displeased with themselves. So by posting too demanding profile one is risking to repel (and he will) someone who might be just his perfect match. You certainly dont want such thing to happen.
Watch your language. I am not talking about the choice of your words, I am talking about observing the grammar. You can write that you are very successful in your business, that you are dreaming to fill your mansion in Palm Beach Gardens with kids and pets, but you cannot do this alone, etc. Make just two grammar mistakes and your chances to find someone will dwindle substantially. She will not buy it, no matter how "sensear is your writting".
Restrain from any physical boast. It is always better to keep your male stamina restrained in your profile. Unless you are looking into a short, 1-2 night relationship, it is not a good idea to emphasize that you are "passionate lover, who can make it 10 times in a row". Do not make yourself looking silly.
Truth and truth only! You dont want to lie, because lie will be revealed sooner or later. It is just not smart to risk a potentially great relationship with some lie. Be honest in your profile and with your photos, and you will be rewarded.
Brevity as virtue. True, so my tips are close to conclusion. A few final comments, though. Avoid any abbreviations and omissions in your profile. This is not a classified ad (even if you may feel this way), so you will be given enough space for expressing yourself. For the same time your reader, a woman, your potential date will not be interested in even chatting with you, if she will see untidy, half-baked profile. If she will notice some deficiency of attention in your own personal profile, be assured, she will conclude that this would be as well the degree of your attention to her. This is not good. Make your profile neat and concise, and you will get a plenty of winks. Good luck. - 15784
Everything is in the detail Perhaps, this is true, but sometimes it is better if some details are set aside. Your profile must be precise and reasonably short: if she will find it interesting, you will update her on all your characteristic details later. So, your personal description will be better if it is concrete and brief. Again, it is better to emphasize not the size of your shoes and color of your eyes, but the key features of your character, habits and desires. Perhaps, she will find interesting to know what kind of cigarettes you use, when you prefer to smoke and how much coffee you consume while at work, but, better to limit your description to the key features of your personality (clearly, the listed ones are not those features).
Address her directly. You have to avoid any writing in third person, because such writing carries a serious psychological drawback. Here is an example. Assume that someone writes in his profile: "I hope to find a single woman, who likes to keep things in order and has great sense of humor, which helps her take things easy. Like, she can enjoy getting completely wet under warm summer rain," etc. She might be just that type of a girl described in this passage, but because of the third person she can miss the message, feeling that this is all about someone else. How not to miss such opportunity? One has to write in a first: "Hey, I am looking for YOU, please, wink to me if this is written about you: I love when everything in my life is in order, but if I am getting caught in a warm summer rain I just laugh and enjoy it. It is life and I am thankful for an opportunity to get a little wet once in a while!" You see, the content of the examples is the same, but the way of expression is different. And I guarantee you that the second version will attract much more attention!
Dont be too serious. Your profile, of course, should not be an entire joke. However, making it as a formal memo is a bad idea either. This is not your curriculum vita or statement of purpose! So give her a wink with your words, trick her (just a little), but be balanced. Try to be serious and funny at the same time. Good sense of humor is always a plus.
Mystify! It is hard to predict a woman, but there is a way to stir her interest: women love mysteries. So give it to them! Leave untold parts in your story, leave blanks, stir her curiosity and interest and be assured, she will wink to you or may be even will write you first! If she would fill the gaps in your story with her imagination, she would love to know how good are her guesses, so you will have her attention and this is what your profile is for!
Careful with your exclusion list. The list of those who shall not attempt to contact you must be made with a certain caution. Offering your friendship to all females from 20 to 35 might be too silly, but it will not be much smarter to limit your list to blonde supermodels with Ph.D. in astrophysics. First, if requirements are too high, one can miss his perfect match just because she may think that the author of such profile suffers from some inferiority complex. Second, while nobody is looking for dating ugly ladies. Ladies, in their turn, even most beautiful ones, quite often tend to be displeased with themselves. So by posting too demanding profile one is risking to repel (and he will) someone who might be just his perfect match. You certainly dont want such thing to happen.
Watch your language. I am not talking about the choice of your words, I am talking about observing the grammar. You can write that you are very successful in your business, that you are dreaming to fill your mansion in Palm Beach Gardens with kids and pets, but you cannot do this alone, etc. Make just two grammar mistakes and your chances to find someone will dwindle substantially. She will not buy it, no matter how "sensear is your writting".
Restrain from any physical boast. It is always better to keep your male stamina restrained in your profile. Unless you are looking into a short, 1-2 night relationship, it is not a good idea to emphasize that you are "passionate lover, who can make it 10 times in a row". Do not make yourself looking silly.
Truth and truth only! You dont want to lie, because lie will be revealed sooner or later. It is just not smart to risk a potentially great relationship with some lie. Be honest in your profile and with your photos, and you will be rewarded.
Brevity as virtue. True, so my tips are close to conclusion. A few final comments, though. Avoid any abbreviations and omissions in your profile. This is not a classified ad (even if you may feel this way), so you will be given enough space for expressing yourself. For the same time your reader, a woman, your potential date will not be interested in even chatting with you, if she will see untidy, half-baked profile. If she will notice some deficiency of attention in your own personal profile, be assured, she will conclude that this would be as well the degree of your attention to her. This is not good. Make your profile neat and concise, and you will get a plenty of winks. Good luck. - 15784
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