Why do people use Adult Dating sites? There are so many of them that they must be popular. If you browse through one, you'll see they have millions and millions of members. The masses of people attracted to adult dating sites so massively outnumber regular dating sites, they make the regulars look like minority groups in a sexually focused world.
The behaviours encouraged at adult dating sites is not typical of the behavious in society. Its not mainstream. In the "offline world", dating typically starts from a low contact basis and only progresses in intimacy as you learn more about your dating partner. So being out of the ordinary begs the question - why are the so popular?
Clearly the internet removes to some extent, people's fear of rejection at the point of introduction. It is much easier to approach that seemingly impossible "babe" or "hunk" from behind an internet profile. In public on the other hand, (Ie. at a bar, social event or work) such an approach might result in open rejection and public humiliation. Does this reduction of consequence create a forum of greater courage, honesty and directness?
But the question that sits in my mind is whether this new honesty will spill over from these websites and change society itself? Will people start being more honest about their wishes in the "Adult Dating" sense, upon meeting people in society as well as online? Or will that always be too difficult without the cover of an internet profile?
I wonder if this will impact current dating and flirting behaviours. Will we become so desensitised to rejection that flirting and "getting to know" someone first, is replaced by a system of direct questions and answers? Will good manners themselves become redundant?
Or could it change things in the opposte direction? Will the fear of rejection in public become more accute, for its absense on the internet? If so, will the next generation of daters be more averse to socialising and meeting people outside websites?
These are questions I ponder, but have no answer for. Only time will tell. So I'm just going to have fun dating in the meantime, there are so many new people to meet at this site I just joined. - 15784
The behaviours encouraged at adult dating sites is not typical of the behavious in society. Its not mainstream. In the "offline world", dating typically starts from a low contact basis and only progresses in intimacy as you learn more about your dating partner. So being out of the ordinary begs the question - why are the so popular?
Clearly the internet removes to some extent, people's fear of rejection at the point of introduction. It is much easier to approach that seemingly impossible "babe" or "hunk" from behind an internet profile. In public on the other hand, (Ie. at a bar, social event or work) such an approach might result in open rejection and public humiliation. Does this reduction of consequence create a forum of greater courage, honesty and directness?
But the question that sits in my mind is whether this new honesty will spill over from these websites and change society itself? Will people start being more honest about their wishes in the "Adult Dating" sense, upon meeting people in society as well as online? Or will that always be too difficult without the cover of an internet profile?
I wonder if this will impact current dating and flirting behaviours. Will we become so desensitised to rejection that flirting and "getting to know" someone first, is replaced by a system of direct questions and answers? Will good manners themselves become redundant?
Or could it change things in the opposte direction? Will the fear of rejection in public become more accute, for its absense on the internet? If so, will the next generation of daters be more averse to socialising and meeting people outside websites?
These are questions I ponder, but have no answer for. Only time will tell. So I'm just going to have fun dating in the meantime, there are so many new people to meet at this site I just joined. - 15784
About the Author:
Jayde Johanssen, amazed by the popularity of adult dating sites, wonders whether the phenomena will change our way of life