The following are beginner tips on researching dating online and offline:
- In any correspondence (email or paper or discussion boards or chat rooms), obey the following rules: Be polite and conventional to begin with. Do not presume closeness with an absolute stranger. Do not employ steamy words or swear-words or babble about violent or cruel acts. Women hate this sort of thing, and it makes them afraid; "uh-oh, another net creep!" Don't bluster. Spotlight your nicest qualities and your status in the course of the correspondence, but don't boast. Heed what she has to say, and talk about HER and her pursuits. Don't pester. If she doesn't want to talk, or doesn't reply, don't bug her. Silence is an response in itself. She may be occupied, she may have received mail from other guys before you, or she just ain't interested. Again, you don't want to be seen as a weirdo-pest-stalker. For your own sake, you ought to try to get a photo of her as soon as is polite. A photograph speaks a thousand words, and you may save yourself a lot of exertion. Even then, pictures can be old or manipulated or photoshopped, so ask for shots from her recent holiday, or the like.
- You have to give the impression that you are positive, moneyed, powerful, (and tender in private with her). If you don't have these characteristics, fake them. Women need to see potential, and the origin of the word potential is the Latin 'potentia', meaning power.
- Examine your responses to women objectively. You'll find that a favourite type emerges: slender or plump, brunette or blonde, extrovert or introvert. There's a pop or movie star that you can't help but gawk at when she's on the screen. There's a type that causes your head to swivel when you're walking down the street. That's the type you should go for; the one that excites a reflexive, favourable response. You'll find it easier to speak to this type of girl. If you have found your true love she'll feel the same way about you. You have genes that'll help her make a better baby; she does the same for you.
- A posh motorcar is a big plus in your search for l'amour. Second-hand sports or classic automobiles can cost just as much as a new 'sensible' car, and are a deal more fun. Screw the fuel consumption and the insurance! Women say they disapprove of big muscles in men and their big motorcars. What they really mean is they dislike men who are obsessed with or who are nothing more than their big muscles or their big cars. If you have both, and can project sensitivity and dominance, you're three-quarters' way home. Failing this, get a car with character like a Morris Minor or a VW Beetle. What you're aiming for is the sort of automobile a lady would like to be be viewed in. If it's fashion models you want, you need a flashy motorcar. If it's arty-crafty types, get a 'character' car. It depends on your social milieu, and your own persona i.e. a student in a liberal arts faculty would look odd with a BMW, but upon reflection I think he'd be very popular! Even the fact that you have any variety of auto at all will be a bonus; ladies like to be chauffeured, and it opens up many more romantic possibilities. Just keep in mind it's only a prop in your 'act'.
- Don't over-think it. We are drawn to a certain type, with whom we can make a better baby; more vigorous, fitter, smarter, better adjusted to its environs. Other types just don't click with us, 'though we can acknowledge intellectually they are attractive. It's a heart thing, a guts thing, and parts lower down. The head merely gives its assent to a decision already made.
- How will you know if a girl is interested in you? She gives you a second glance. Try smiling. If she smiles back, you're in! It's a myth that men gain women by chasing after them. Women assess men, then give the big gits 'the come on'. You just need the assurance to walk over and say hello. If you can think of a witty remark, make one. If you can't, just smile. Say hello. Ask a pertinent question. Then heed to what she has to say. Which, if she likes you, will be a lot.
- Find a successful Casanova in your social circle, and dissect his approach. Don't ask him questions. He might be embarrassed or he may not be aware of why he's so successful. But try to go on "woman-hunting expeditions" with him; any social occasion where there are eligible women and he's turnin' on the charm. Watch, make mental notes, and learn.
- A effective source of research is the magazine rack in your local supermarket. Men should look at womens' magazines, and the other way around. Men will notice that women fantasize about men who are: Pretty-boys, slim, brawny (like a swimmer, not a weight-lifter), fashionably dressed, patrician, tight-fitting trousers, thoughtful, wealthy, powerful, positive, popular, makes her laugh, takes control, can talk over his feelings once in a while, yet isn't a wet dish-cloth.
I hope these few simple pointers will assist you in finding a nice girl via free or paid online dating. - 15784
- In any correspondence (email or paper or discussion boards or chat rooms), obey the following rules: Be polite and conventional to begin with. Do not presume closeness with an absolute stranger. Do not employ steamy words or swear-words or babble about violent or cruel acts. Women hate this sort of thing, and it makes them afraid; "uh-oh, another net creep!" Don't bluster. Spotlight your nicest qualities and your status in the course of the correspondence, but don't boast. Heed what she has to say, and talk about HER and her pursuits. Don't pester. If she doesn't want to talk, or doesn't reply, don't bug her. Silence is an response in itself. She may be occupied, she may have received mail from other guys before you, or she just ain't interested. Again, you don't want to be seen as a weirdo-pest-stalker. For your own sake, you ought to try to get a photo of her as soon as is polite. A photograph speaks a thousand words, and you may save yourself a lot of exertion. Even then, pictures can be old or manipulated or photoshopped, so ask for shots from her recent holiday, or the like.
- You have to give the impression that you are positive, moneyed, powerful, (and tender in private with her). If you don't have these characteristics, fake them. Women need to see potential, and the origin of the word potential is the Latin 'potentia', meaning power.
- Examine your responses to women objectively. You'll find that a favourite type emerges: slender or plump, brunette or blonde, extrovert or introvert. There's a pop or movie star that you can't help but gawk at when she's on the screen. There's a type that causes your head to swivel when you're walking down the street. That's the type you should go for; the one that excites a reflexive, favourable response. You'll find it easier to speak to this type of girl. If you have found your true love she'll feel the same way about you. You have genes that'll help her make a better baby; she does the same for you.
- A posh motorcar is a big plus in your search for l'amour. Second-hand sports or classic automobiles can cost just as much as a new 'sensible' car, and are a deal more fun. Screw the fuel consumption and the insurance! Women say they disapprove of big muscles in men and their big motorcars. What they really mean is they dislike men who are obsessed with or who are nothing more than their big muscles or their big cars. If you have both, and can project sensitivity and dominance, you're three-quarters' way home. Failing this, get a car with character like a Morris Minor or a VW Beetle. What you're aiming for is the sort of automobile a lady would like to be be viewed in. If it's fashion models you want, you need a flashy motorcar. If it's arty-crafty types, get a 'character' car. It depends on your social milieu, and your own persona i.e. a student in a liberal arts faculty would look odd with a BMW, but upon reflection I think he'd be very popular! Even the fact that you have any variety of auto at all will be a bonus; ladies like to be chauffeured, and it opens up many more romantic possibilities. Just keep in mind it's only a prop in your 'act'.
- Don't over-think it. We are drawn to a certain type, with whom we can make a better baby; more vigorous, fitter, smarter, better adjusted to its environs. Other types just don't click with us, 'though we can acknowledge intellectually they are attractive. It's a heart thing, a guts thing, and parts lower down. The head merely gives its assent to a decision already made.
- How will you know if a girl is interested in you? She gives you a second glance. Try smiling. If she smiles back, you're in! It's a myth that men gain women by chasing after them. Women assess men, then give the big gits 'the come on'. You just need the assurance to walk over and say hello. If you can think of a witty remark, make one. If you can't, just smile. Say hello. Ask a pertinent question. Then heed to what she has to say. Which, if she likes you, will be a lot.
- Find a successful Casanova in your social circle, and dissect his approach. Don't ask him questions. He might be embarrassed or he may not be aware of why he's so successful. But try to go on "woman-hunting expeditions" with him; any social occasion where there are eligible women and he's turnin' on the charm. Watch, make mental notes, and learn.
- A effective source of research is the magazine rack in your local supermarket. Men should look at womens' magazines, and the other way around. Men will notice that women fantasize about men who are: Pretty-boys, slim, brawny (like a swimmer, not a weight-lifter), fashionably dressed, patrician, tight-fitting trousers, thoughtful, wealthy, powerful, positive, popular, makes her laugh, takes control, can talk over his feelings once in a while, yet isn't a wet dish-cloth.
I hope these few simple pointers will assist you in finding a nice girl via free or paid online dating. - 15784
About the Author:
Nick Svengali is an author for free dating service and personal growth websites in London, Great Britain.