Tuesday, November 25, 2008

The Skill Of Chatting To Women

By Jennifer King

When it comes to chatting up a woman, open ended questions are great conversation starters. You can attempt to start a conversation and make yourself look unexciting with your boring interrogation that has a yes or no answer, or you can get the woman excited about talking to you. Creating interesting conversation is a lot harder than it looks if you're not used to it. And it's even more of a challenge if you're not used to chatting to women.

It's a clich to ask a woman, "Do you come here often?" If on the other hand, you're attempting to get this woman intrigued in you right from the first time you open your mouth these are the types of questions you need to avoid. Any question that needs a yes or no answer is going to create a silence. That silence will grow into something that be doomed to be broken with another uncommunicative question.

With a question as bad as that one you'll also be lucky if she even bothers answering. You might even get a dirty look as she turns her back on you.

The supreme start to any communication is an open ended question, it's a question that creates more questions from its answer. Instead of starting your question with a do, begin your question with how, what or where. This forces her to reply to the question with a proper answer as an alternative to yes or no. This can then lead to another question if the answer offers you that opportunity.

Rather than the do you come here often line, you can have much better success with something else.

If you can tell she isn't having as much fun as she could be, you can ask, "how often do you come to this dump?" If she really is bored, not only have you asked an open ended question but you've shown you're paying attention, and know exactly how she's feeling. This type of question also throws a piece of humor into the conversation straight away.

If you're beginning to get on with her you can propose a better place for your first date.

Once you start speaking with women on a regular basis you will learn naturally what type of open ended questions get you a better response, and what questions need to be avoided. If you have your questions in your head before you start chatting you can have the next questions ready for the variety answers you get.

Speaking to a woman could take some practice if don't do it every day. It can be difficult occasionally especially if you have the outcome on your mind before you begin speaking.

The more experience you get the better you will become, and the questions will sound a lot more natural. This stops them looking like you're struggling for questions just to create a conversation.

Most women will get chatted up by men every time they go out, especially if they look beautiful. Learn to read what the woman needs in her conversation. Have a different approach to what 90% of men do when they just try to impress her. Show an interest in her, and chat about the topics she likes to speak about. This is something you'll understand more as you go along, but the more you go out of your way to practice these things the more success you'll have. - 15784

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