Unfortunately, nearly one in four men have an affair on their wives. Although affairs have permanent, damaging effects on a relationship, there is usually a reason for them. While this does not excuse the affair itself, understanding what might lead men to cheat on their wife may women help deal with the affair and, in some cases, avoid finding themselves in the position of finding out that their husband has cheated.
A comprehensive understanding of what makes relationships work would extend beyond the scope of this article. However, there are some clear and simple basics that are valuable to anyone. To start, both spouses are entitled to certain basic levels of attention from their partner. It doesn't matter how talented one might be in the culinary department, how much income one brings into the relationship, or how much style one exerts. When it comes to attention, you cannot ignore your partner and honestly expect them to remain loyal. On the other hand, excessive attention may also have detrimental effects (nobody wants a clingy and needy wife, for example).
Admiration is the next basic commitment motivators. While both spouses share this need, the man usually has a greater need for admiration. When a woman's admiration for her husband dies (or fades considerably), the man will have a heightened sensitivity to the admiration of another woman. Of course, admiration can present itself in a variety of ways and does not suggestion a woman should transform herself into a dedicated slave to her husband's every need. Instead, the absence of nagging or complaining can enhance existing signs of admiration.
What exactly does it mean when a man cheats then? Perhaps he has sensed a lack of admiration, respect and attention; cheating men claim they are unappreciated by their wives. Often, they claim they are victims of their wife's lack of interest and attention. One wonders whether the right amount of admiration, respect and attention would dent the number of cheating men...
Another reason men might cheat is that they understand that their wives are usually extremely loyal (in contrast to the male statistic, only 14% of women cheat on their spouse). In fact, women are extremely unlikely to leave after their husband has an affair because they feel their man needs and wants them. Perhaps it is an inbred motherly instinct, but women are a lot more tolerant after an affair than a man is. Whether it is a statement of their loyalty, women are also more forgiving. With divorce statistics as high as they are, this becomes extremely important.
Now, forgiveness is no synonymous with tolerance. Instead, increasing our awareness about infidelity and some of the factors that lead partners to stray will likely improve the odds of our partners remaining faithful. By increasing how much attention we give our spouses (by spending more time with our spouses and taking an interest in their lives), increasing our respect level (by understanding that our spouses have feelings and deserve respect just as we do) and by showing more signs of admiration (by thanking them for their contributions even if they are imperfect or fall short of our high standards) then we should eliminate, or at least reduce, the need that our men feel to seek attention, respect, and admiration elsewhere. - 15784
A comprehensive understanding of what makes relationships work would extend beyond the scope of this article. However, there are some clear and simple basics that are valuable to anyone. To start, both spouses are entitled to certain basic levels of attention from their partner. It doesn't matter how talented one might be in the culinary department, how much income one brings into the relationship, or how much style one exerts. When it comes to attention, you cannot ignore your partner and honestly expect them to remain loyal. On the other hand, excessive attention may also have detrimental effects (nobody wants a clingy and needy wife, for example).
Admiration is the next basic commitment motivators. While both spouses share this need, the man usually has a greater need for admiration. When a woman's admiration for her husband dies (or fades considerably), the man will have a heightened sensitivity to the admiration of another woman. Of course, admiration can present itself in a variety of ways and does not suggestion a woman should transform herself into a dedicated slave to her husband's every need. Instead, the absence of nagging or complaining can enhance existing signs of admiration.
What exactly does it mean when a man cheats then? Perhaps he has sensed a lack of admiration, respect and attention; cheating men claim they are unappreciated by their wives. Often, they claim they are victims of their wife's lack of interest and attention. One wonders whether the right amount of admiration, respect and attention would dent the number of cheating men...
Another reason men might cheat is that they understand that their wives are usually extremely loyal (in contrast to the male statistic, only 14% of women cheat on their spouse). In fact, women are extremely unlikely to leave after their husband has an affair because they feel their man needs and wants them. Perhaps it is an inbred motherly instinct, but women are a lot more tolerant after an affair than a man is. Whether it is a statement of their loyalty, women are also more forgiving. With divorce statistics as high as they are, this becomes extremely important.
Now, forgiveness is no synonymous with tolerance. Instead, increasing our awareness about infidelity and some of the factors that lead partners to stray will likely improve the odds of our partners remaining faithful. By increasing how much attention we give our spouses (by spending more time with our spouses and taking an interest in their lives), increasing our respect level (by understanding that our spouses have feelings and deserve respect just as we do) and by showing more signs of admiration (by thanking them for their contributions even if they are imperfect or fall short of our high standards) then we should eliminate, or at least reduce, the need that our men feel to seek attention, respect, and admiration elsewhere. - 15784
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For a detailed understanding of how relationships work, get your full package at Help Get My Ex Back. Samantha Fulcher is the Relationship Advisor for The Match Maker Review.