Sunday, December 21, 2008

What to Do If He Wants to Leave You

By Mary Bush

It is hard to believe that perfect love can be over, right? It is hard to believe that some month ago you talked about marriage, looked for perfect rings and now what. Now you have the feeling that the sun is covered by a huge, black cloud. You feel that he goes away from you for no reason without even having the courage to tell he wants to leave you, to start a new life without you. You feel that everything around you is falling apart, you feel helpless, because you say there's nothing that can be done.

Just think again: there's always something to be done. You are a fighter and do not give up easily. It does not matter he is going away - many times men do not know what to do, they have their strange moments when they feel the need to act quickly. Too quickly sometimes"they do not even analyze the situation and go away out of a relationship, for the silliest of reasons. It is the moment for you to be strong, to face him and talk to him seriously.

Tell him that, even he didn't say anything, you feel him drifting away and having this wish to give up your relationship. Ask him to be mature enough, that he needs in such situation, to tell you the truth"to tell you what the problem is"or problems maybe. You are not teenagers anymore and hiding behind a brick wall is not the solution.

Also, tell him you deserve to know the truth and it would be unfair to leave you without an explanation He shouldn't mistreat you, shout to you for whatever reason, hide from you or reject you.

Talk about the problem, do it in a responsible way and draw a conclusion. Do you still have a future together? If yes, what are the compromises?

If he deserves the effort, only you can decide about it. Think if it is worth suffering beside a man that is with you for habit only (or for some benefits) or if it is you, who needs to start fresh, look for a new beginning. Do not forget - you are strong and your life doesn't revolve around one man. - 15784