If you are thinking of joining a dating website, you may be a bit overwhelmed by the number of sites which are out there. Where do you start? Its a good question, many websites attract scammers, people who are more interested in fleecing you of your hard earned cash rather than meeting you and starting a relationship. This issue is especially prevalent at adult dating sites. So how do you protect yourself?
The biggest issue men face on dating sites, adult dating sites in particular, is many women don't join the with the intention of meeting you, they join them with the intention of fleecing you. These women will always be hot, so you'll always be tempted.
So the scenario runs like this. You join up to an adult dating site and have alook around. When you see some girls you'd like to meet you pay the dating site fee so you can contact them. You come back a day or 2 later and some of these hot girls have gotten back to you. GREAT! You reply back, and your reply is followed up by a request to meet them at an alternative site, for which they'll give you their personalised link.
If you are interested in this woman you will probably follow her instructions andfollow her to the site, which is another membership website. You'll need to join up to this one to find the woman you were speaking to. This one will have all manner of great feature, interactive webchat etc, all of which you can use once you hand over your credit card.
They need your credit card to charge you either for the new membership fee, or in a pay per view fee structure where you have to pay every time you talk to the girls on the website. You may find the girl who originally invited you to the site and have a chat to her, this will cost you MONEY, money which will leave your pocket and go directly into hers.
Soon enough the original website you joined will bill you for you next month's membership. And then it will hit you. Not only have you not met any girls yet, but you haven't even been using the website. What the hell happened to the month? That's right, you spent it webcamming.
But you have made some great online girl friends, sure its costing you a fortune to communicate with them on their webcam, but they even take their clothes off for you sometime. At this point, I want you to ask yourself if you think you'll ever meet these girls in real life? Do you really want to be paying this money to watch someone on the screen? Is this really the reason you joined a dating site to start with?
This type of scam is a danger to men at most dating sites. The owners of many sites though take responsibility for this type of thing and try hard to verify many of their members in an attempt to protect their paying members. This is why site selection is important if you are going to join one. If you want to meet people in real life and not just online, do your research before you hand over your credit card. Only join the reputable dating sites.
Also, remember the purpose your dating site is supposed to serve. Its supposed to give you the opportunity to meet people you otherwise would not have been able to. Thats all, nothing else. A dating site is not supposed to have a life of its own.
Once you have met someone on a dating website, what possible purpose can meeting the same person at another website serve. You have already met them. To move this forward you are supposed to build some trust and then go and meet them in real life. Going to another website instead is a sidewards move. It serves no purpose, so don't do it.
Our final tip is to only join 1 of these websites at a time. Give it a try, and if you are not meeting your share of real women within 1 - 2 months, women who want to develop something beyond the internet, leave this website and join another. Give the new one a similar trial. Same thing goes, if you are not getting a response from real women here, try the third.
One point about this method though, if you have joined your third reputable dating site and still not getting a level of response that is acceptable, have a look at your profile or internet manner. This is probably the issue. Dating online is a skill which can be learned, its a skill men need to learn to be successful at dating sites. So don't throw out the baby with the bath water if this is you, research, learn, improve and find success. - 15784
The biggest issue men face on dating sites, adult dating sites in particular, is many women don't join the with the intention of meeting you, they join them with the intention of fleecing you. These women will always be hot, so you'll always be tempted.
So the scenario runs like this. You join up to an adult dating site and have alook around. When you see some girls you'd like to meet you pay the dating site fee so you can contact them. You come back a day or 2 later and some of these hot girls have gotten back to you. GREAT! You reply back, and your reply is followed up by a request to meet them at an alternative site, for which they'll give you their personalised link.
If you are interested in this woman you will probably follow her instructions andfollow her to the site, which is another membership website. You'll need to join up to this one to find the woman you were speaking to. This one will have all manner of great feature, interactive webchat etc, all of which you can use once you hand over your credit card.
They need your credit card to charge you either for the new membership fee, or in a pay per view fee structure where you have to pay every time you talk to the girls on the website. You may find the girl who originally invited you to the site and have a chat to her, this will cost you MONEY, money which will leave your pocket and go directly into hers.
Soon enough the original website you joined will bill you for you next month's membership. And then it will hit you. Not only have you not met any girls yet, but you haven't even been using the website. What the hell happened to the month? That's right, you spent it webcamming.
But you have made some great online girl friends, sure its costing you a fortune to communicate with them on their webcam, but they even take their clothes off for you sometime. At this point, I want you to ask yourself if you think you'll ever meet these girls in real life? Do you really want to be paying this money to watch someone on the screen? Is this really the reason you joined a dating site to start with?
This type of scam is a danger to men at most dating sites. The owners of many sites though take responsibility for this type of thing and try hard to verify many of their members in an attempt to protect their paying members. This is why site selection is important if you are going to join one. If you want to meet people in real life and not just online, do your research before you hand over your credit card. Only join the reputable dating sites.
Also, remember the purpose your dating site is supposed to serve. Its supposed to give you the opportunity to meet people you otherwise would not have been able to. Thats all, nothing else. A dating site is not supposed to have a life of its own.
Once you have met someone on a dating website, what possible purpose can meeting the same person at another website serve. You have already met them. To move this forward you are supposed to build some trust and then go and meet them in real life. Going to another website instead is a sidewards move. It serves no purpose, so don't do it.
Our final tip is to only join 1 of these websites at a time. Give it a try, and if you are not meeting your share of real women within 1 - 2 months, women who want to develop something beyond the internet, leave this website and join another. Give the new one a similar trial. Same thing goes, if you are not getting a response from real women here, try the third.
One point about this method though, if you have joined your third reputable dating site and still not getting a level of response that is acceptable, have a look at your profile or internet manner. This is probably the issue. Dating online is a skill which can be learned, its a skill men need to learn to be successful at dating sites. So don't throw out the baby with the bath water if this is you, research, learn, improve and find success. - 15784
About the Author:
In recognising the number of scammers at adult dating sites, Jayde Johanssen encourages men to research dating sites robustly before spending their cash