When you feel an emotional pain you are experiencing it now in the present tense. Even though you may remember something from yesterday that was painful or anticipate pain from a situation in the future, you actually only feel it today.
Emotional pain felt in your body can be shown on a pain time-line. Stress describes any negative emotion that you feel in your body. Every emotion is felt by individuals at a particular level of intensity; low, medium or high. Hurt is a negative emotion that you feel in the present. Anger or resentment is a feeling generated from memory of something in the past and anxiety from a situation you think may happen in the future. All emotional pain adds to your store of stress.
Negative emotion accumulates in the body and feels like emotional constipation. The more intensely you feel a negative emotion the greater your stress level.
Deepak Chopra describes the cycle of emotions in his book, "Ageless Body, Timeless Mind". Cognitive appraisal, he explains, arouses only two impulses - pain or pleasure. "We all want to avoid pain and experience pleasure. Therefore, all the complicated emotional states we find ourselves in are because we are unable to obey these basic drives."
Chopra describes the cycle of emotions, beginning in present reality (where only pain and pleasure are felt) and ending in complex emotions centred exclusively in perceived reality (such as anxiety, guilt and depression). The cycle that is repeated over and over in our lives is as follows:
* Pain in the present is experienced as hurt.
* Pain in the past is remembered as anger.
* Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety - a lessening of mental relaxation, associated to the alert reaction.
* Unexpressed anger - redirected against yourself and held within - is called guilt.
* The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.
The cycle of emotion explains why stored hurt is something we all experience to some degree. It is this stored hurt that is responsible for emotional constipation. Chopra writes, "Buried hurt disguises itself as anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression." In order to live in the present we must learn to avoid the easy emotion of anger and confront other hurts that are more difficult to deal with. Unresolved anger simply gets worse, feeding on itself.
Sometimes another person can be hurt by something you do or say. This behavior may be intentional or not, but results in you also experiencing pain; guilt, remorse, shame, and regret - that is, stress. It is common for a person without the skills of effective communication to drag up past history in arguments to hurt their partner, having had the perception that the partner is hurting them or blaming them in some way. They use a conditioned response to ease their own (present tense) pain, not realizing that the behavior will have a physiological impact (meaning stress) on their own body.
Emotional constipation - emotional distress - is "dis-ease"; an illness of how you think. You are what you think. How you feel depends on how you think. You can use the pain time-line to help you understand emotional constipation and the stress you feel in your body. - 15784
Emotional pain felt in your body can be shown on a pain time-line. Stress describes any negative emotion that you feel in your body. Every emotion is felt by individuals at a particular level of intensity; low, medium or high. Hurt is a negative emotion that you feel in the present. Anger or resentment is a feeling generated from memory of something in the past and anxiety from a situation you think may happen in the future. All emotional pain adds to your store of stress.
Negative emotion accumulates in the body and feels like emotional constipation. The more intensely you feel a negative emotion the greater your stress level.
Deepak Chopra describes the cycle of emotions in his book, "Ageless Body, Timeless Mind". Cognitive appraisal, he explains, arouses only two impulses - pain or pleasure. "We all want to avoid pain and experience pleasure. Therefore, all the complicated emotional states we find ourselves in are because we are unable to obey these basic drives."
Chopra describes the cycle of emotions, beginning in present reality (where only pain and pleasure are felt) and ending in complex emotions centred exclusively in perceived reality (such as anxiety, guilt and depression). The cycle that is repeated over and over in our lives is as follows:
* Pain in the present is experienced as hurt.
* Pain in the past is remembered as anger.
* Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety - a lessening of mental relaxation, associated to the alert reaction.
* Unexpressed anger - redirected against yourself and held within - is called guilt.
* The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.
The cycle of emotion explains why stored hurt is something we all experience to some degree. It is this stored hurt that is responsible for emotional constipation. Chopra writes, "Buried hurt disguises itself as anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression." In order to live in the present we must learn to avoid the easy emotion of anger and confront other hurts that are more difficult to deal with. Unresolved anger simply gets worse, feeding on itself.
Sometimes another person can be hurt by something you do or say. This behavior may be intentional or not, but results in you also experiencing pain; guilt, remorse, shame, and regret - that is, stress. It is common for a person without the skills of effective communication to drag up past history in arguments to hurt their partner, having had the perception that the partner is hurting them or blaming them in some way. They use a conditioned response to ease their own (present tense) pain, not realizing that the behavior will have a physiological impact (meaning stress) on their own body.
Emotional constipation - emotional distress - is "dis-ease"; an illness of how you think. You are what you think. How you feel depends on how you think. You can use the pain time-line to help you understand emotional constipation and the stress you feel in your body. - 15784
About the Author:
More expert advice on recognizing the emotion cycle, dealing with anger and irritation and emotional constipation is available from Karen Gosling's website, which is all about surviving emotional pain.