We've all heard about them, sometimes its hearsay, sometimes its first hand. But dating disasters have been a part of courting since getting to know someone became a prerequisite to having a relationship with them.
The dangers of dating have existed forever. They are not new because the internet age has arrived. They exist because dating exposes you to people you don't really know yet. Its as simple as that
When you go on a date with someone incompatible, you have a pretty bad time. Its not fun. But thats the extent of the damage. It costs you one night of your life to learn someone is incompatible with you and that is it. Sometimes though you meet people who are not only incompatible, but are out to harm you for their own benefit. In these situations you could be in danger, your person or property could be at risk. It is from these occasions that dating disaster legends and myths are born.
Unfortunately, sometimes these stories are so bad (they possibly get worse through the embellishment of story telling) that they put people off looking for love. Loneliness is one of the greatest injuries a dating disaster can cause.
When internet came to dating, nothing changed in regards to the dangers of dating. If you are someone who is interested in finding love, at some stage you have to meet people in real life and spend time getting to know them. The only thing the internet changed was the method of introduction.
If you have missed the fact that internet dating is just a forum to meet people, you may make one of the following two mistakes:
1. You think internet dating is actually dating. That is, you forget you only really get to know someone once you meet them in real life and spend time with them.
2. You may blame the internet itself for your dating disasters, rather than the incompatible personalities you are spending your time with.
These mistakes are made more often in the "adult" side of the industry, where the emphasis is on getting into bed rather than getting to know someone. So please remember, internet dating isn't dating at all, its just an introduction service. You only start dating when you meet the person in real life.
An internet dating site is the same as a newspaper ad, or singles personals in a magazine, or a pre internet singles party. It is a forum where you can meet people, get their contacts, and that is all. The more you understand this, the safer your dating experiences will be and the more successful you will be in finding your partners.
At Dating Down Under, we put safety in dating first. How can you have a successful dating experience if it is not a safe dating experience? For this reason you'll find a plethora of tips and guidelines about safety and online dating throughout the website. Generally though, the following guidelines are essential:
1. Remember what datings sites are there to do. They put you in contact with other people looking to meet you, but nothing else.
2. Recognise that niche online dating sites attract the personality types they cater to. Only join the ones you think will attract the people you are interested in.
3. Use online features such as email and chat as an initial screening process only, not as a replacement for common sense.
4. Apply "blind date" safety precautions to all the dates you organise when using the internet to meet people. Your first meeting in real life, is the moment you will start getting to know that person.
5. If you are ever in doubt, get out. Put safety first with every internet arranged date.
6. When you have a bad dating experience, learn from it but don't give up. Don't forsake your long term happiness because you met one bad apple. There are plenty of good people out there. - 15784
The dangers of dating have existed forever. They are not new because the internet age has arrived. They exist because dating exposes you to people you don't really know yet. Its as simple as that
When you go on a date with someone incompatible, you have a pretty bad time. Its not fun. But thats the extent of the damage. It costs you one night of your life to learn someone is incompatible with you and that is it. Sometimes though you meet people who are not only incompatible, but are out to harm you for their own benefit. In these situations you could be in danger, your person or property could be at risk. It is from these occasions that dating disaster legends and myths are born.
Unfortunately, sometimes these stories are so bad (they possibly get worse through the embellishment of story telling) that they put people off looking for love. Loneliness is one of the greatest injuries a dating disaster can cause.
When internet came to dating, nothing changed in regards to the dangers of dating. If you are someone who is interested in finding love, at some stage you have to meet people in real life and spend time getting to know them. The only thing the internet changed was the method of introduction.
If you have missed the fact that internet dating is just a forum to meet people, you may make one of the following two mistakes:
1. You think internet dating is actually dating. That is, you forget you only really get to know someone once you meet them in real life and spend time with them.
2. You may blame the internet itself for your dating disasters, rather than the incompatible personalities you are spending your time with.
These mistakes are made more often in the "adult" side of the industry, where the emphasis is on getting into bed rather than getting to know someone. So please remember, internet dating isn't dating at all, its just an introduction service. You only start dating when you meet the person in real life.
An internet dating site is the same as a newspaper ad, or singles personals in a magazine, or a pre internet singles party. It is a forum where you can meet people, get their contacts, and that is all. The more you understand this, the safer your dating experiences will be and the more successful you will be in finding your partners.
At Dating Down Under, we put safety in dating first. How can you have a successful dating experience if it is not a safe dating experience? For this reason you'll find a plethora of tips and guidelines about safety and online dating throughout the website. Generally though, the following guidelines are essential:
1. Remember what datings sites are there to do. They put you in contact with other people looking to meet you, but nothing else.
2. Recognise that niche online dating sites attract the personality types they cater to. Only join the ones you think will attract the people you are interested in.
3. Use online features such as email and chat as an initial screening process only, not as a replacement for common sense.
4. Apply "blind date" safety precautions to all the dates you organise when using the internet to meet people. Your first meeting in real life, is the moment you will start getting to know that person.
5. If you are ever in doubt, get out. Put safety first with every internet arranged date.
6. When you have a bad dating experience, learn from it but don't give up. Don't forsake your long term happiness because you met one bad apple. There are plenty of good people out there. - 15784
About the Author:
Jayde Johanssen, worried about the emergence of online dating predators, espouses safety first with online dating, especially at adult dating sites