There is so much information about dating and internet dating out there. Everyone is an expert. Have you noticed though most of the advice is all doom and gloom. How to avoid this disaster, how to recognise that scam. It can't be that hard, all you are doing after all is trying to meet someone.
So I am taking a different approach with this article. Instead of making it confusing, difficult or scary, I am hopefully going to remind you that dating should be simple and fun. That's it. So here are my top three tips for fun dating.
Tip 1. Make a plan. You need to understand two things before you can make your plan. You need to understand the kind of person you are looking for. You also need to be aware of the type of experience you are looking for with that person.
You will get a lot of advice from people when you start to go down this route. IGNORE them. They have all kinds of different and irrelevant motivations for giving you their advice. You are the only one who knows what is right for you right now though.
Listen to yourself, and be true to yourself. You'll be ok. Specific dates and relationships may not work, but this is your journey to have, they are your mistakes and successes to have, they are your experiences to learn from, laugh and cry about.
Tip 2. Having noted the type of person and experience you want, only go to dating sites which cater for those specifics. Ignore the general dating sites that attract every man and his dog, only join niche ones which attract the people you are looking for. That is, use the dating site itself to qualify your potential dates.
General dating sites can be very hit and miss. You may end up spending all your time filtering through inappropriate emails and therefore have none left to date the people you like. So just use the niche sites. Some examples include: Asian dating sites, if eastern culture is important to you. Religious dating sites (Ie. Christian or Jewish) if morality in a partner is important. Adult dating sites if you are looking for a fun time, as opposed to a long time. There are all manner of niche sites, you'll be amazed at their variety.
3. Always be safe. There is a natural progression with online dating. You start with the dating site, then you swap emails, then phone numbers and then arrange to meet. Your first meeting should be in a public place with lots of people and maybe some friends in the background somewhere, to keep an eye on things.
Never give anyone more than you want to give them, if there is a question in your mind about it. Don't give them your email address, don't give them your phone number, don't give them your time. Trust is something that a new person in your life has to earn. You'll know yourself when they have earned it so only progress your dating as that trust is built and you have more confidence that you trust will be honoured and nurtured.
Once you meet someone who has passed all your "online tests", have some fun with them and get to know them. Remember though, you are only starting to get to know them now. You can never really get to know someone online, so continue to apply common sense in the early stages of the relationship.
Dating should always be fun, you are finding out about yourself and others. For greatest success though remember - Safe, Specific and Simple. - 15784
So I am taking a different approach with this article. Instead of making it confusing, difficult or scary, I am hopefully going to remind you that dating should be simple and fun. That's it. So here are my top three tips for fun dating.
Tip 1. Make a plan. You need to understand two things before you can make your plan. You need to understand the kind of person you are looking for. You also need to be aware of the type of experience you are looking for with that person.
You will get a lot of advice from people when you start to go down this route. IGNORE them. They have all kinds of different and irrelevant motivations for giving you their advice. You are the only one who knows what is right for you right now though.
Listen to yourself, and be true to yourself. You'll be ok. Specific dates and relationships may not work, but this is your journey to have, they are your mistakes and successes to have, they are your experiences to learn from, laugh and cry about.
Tip 2. Having noted the type of person and experience you want, only go to dating sites which cater for those specifics. Ignore the general dating sites that attract every man and his dog, only join niche ones which attract the people you are looking for. That is, use the dating site itself to qualify your potential dates.
General dating sites can be very hit and miss. You may end up spending all your time filtering through inappropriate emails and therefore have none left to date the people you like. So just use the niche sites. Some examples include: Asian dating sites, if eastern culture is important to you. Religious dating sites (Ie. Christian or Jewish) if morality in a partner is important. Adult dating sites if you are looking for a fun time, as opposed to a long time. There are all manner of niche sites, you'll be amazed at their variety.
3. Always be safe. There is a natural progression with online dating. You start with the dating site, then you swap emails, then phone numbers and then arrange to meet. Your first meeting should be in a public place with lots of people and maybe some friends in the background somewhere, to keep an eye on things.
Never give anyone more than you want to give them, if there is a question in your mind about it. Don't give them your email address, don't give them your phone number, don't give them your time. Trust is something that a new person in your life has to earn. You'll know yourself when they have earned it so only progress your dating as that trust is built and you have more confidence that you trust will be honoured and nurtured.
Once you meet someone who has passed all your "online tests", have some fun with them and get to know them. Remember though, you are only starting to get to know them now. You can never really get to know someone online, so continue to apply common sense in the early stages of the relationship.
Dating should always be fun, you are finding out about yourself and others. For greatest success though remember - Safe, Specific and Simple. - 15784
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Jayde Johanssen has assisted many find love, by writing real dating advice and writing dating site reviews.