Monday, February 16, 2009

What Can I do To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back?

By Emett Holms

If you're wondering, Can I get my ex girlfriend back? then the breakup probably wasn't so devastating that you think the relationship cant be saved. You'll have to hope she feels the same way. If any hurt was caused during the split that you should apologize for, now is the time to say you're sorry. Being sorry and sincerely showing it is a good first step.

Of course, there's no guarantees, but the odds will shift in your favor if you are doing things the right way. Try to show her how apologetic you are and show her that you miss her. Here's a vital tip...pay attention to what she does! If your gifts or apologies do nothing but make her angry, don't just keep on doing the same things, shift tactics until you find something better.

She may think you are taking the easy way out if you depend to heavily on candy and flowers. Put yourself in her place, what would SHE like? Perhaps you could try getting a blank card and writing your own prose or poetry. there's no need for it to rhyme - in fact, it's probably more effective if it doesn't. The idea is to express your feelings, not show how great of a writer you are. Try picking a bunch of wild flowers and making your own bouquet!

A common complaint among women is that men aren't thoughtful. Were you thoughtful during the relationship? Try it, its one more step toward your goal of getting her back. Every positive thing stacks up, making it easier and easier for her to come back to you. Don't expect things to happen right away, though.

At first, she may doubt your sincerity - particularly if it's a complete turn around from the way you were before. Be patient, keep plugging away and don't try to force the issue or get frustrated and angry. The quicker you adopt the frame of mind that you are doing these things for HER and not just to get her back, the better they will work.

Can I get my ex girlfriend back by dating other women?

If its been a long time since the breakup, and you're still working on being thoughtful, a casual date seems harmless and may make her wish she was your date, but go too far and it could backfire.

Even if she appears to have moved on, you can still send her a little 'thinking of you" type card. Just keep it light and casual with no demands or expectations. Your efforts could be impressing her more than she shows to you.

The above is only the very beginning steps...

The key is to have a preplanned, step by step strategy - don't just do whatever comes to mind.

The most effective strategy I've found - even when all else seems hopeless - is laid out, step by step and almost always works. Check my signature file for the link to learn more... - 15784

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