Most guys grin at the prospect of learning the trade of the pick-up artist. The thought of seducing a woman wherever and whenever they want might sound great up-front, but what happens when they learn everything they need and then... fall in love? It happens to all men, even the most prolific pick-up artists.
The idea of falling in love with the woman we seduce barely crosses the mind of student pick-up artists. They often view love as an impossibility or something that they will be able to control or avoid. But avoidance doesn't work. Love happens to all of us. Look at Neil Strauss, best-selling author of The Game. Look at the main character, the infamous Mystery, who goes nearly crazy... as a result of the woman he loves. See, love happens whether we want it to or not.
The challenge most men have, no matter how great they are when it comes to seducing a woman, is how hold on to the woman they love. This is particularly true for men who used the tactics they picked up in the books they have read and the courses they attended. See, the one thing these courses and books fail to teach their students is how to maintain a long-term relationship. These student pick-up artists naively buy into the idea of the alpha male personality. They don't care to know about how to appreciate their woman until it is virtually too late. Even those who do realize the importance of appreciation often don't know how to maintain the right levels of appreciation.
The thing these books and courses are great at is teaching us how to seduce. But they do little when it comes to showing us where to take a relationship beyond the initial stages. So we move from "new and exciting" and eventually reach that comfortable stage. This is where the challenges begin because we feel there is little work left to do to keep the "magic" of the relationship going. This is such a bad mistake, however. Although it's nearly impossible to uphold the same level of excitement that landed us this great catch, there more tactics we need to learn that will help our woman love us... for the long-term.
One of the most basic things we can do is appreciate her. Recognize that we are not good at appreciation. While we typically think that appreciation needs to be a big-time effort, it need not be. Simply saying thank you for a failed dinner attempt or giving her a hug and kiss for nice, random token of her love will keep the mood positive. Because once we stop showing our appreciation, she will feel neglected and may start looking elsewhere for this type of attention.
A second vital tactic is excitement. This is more difficult in the comfort stage, but remember that it need not reach the same levels or grandeur as in the initial stages of the relationship. In fact, an occasional adventure once every two or three weeks can keep the relationship fresh enough to make her want to stick around for the "next" spontaneous event.
Shifting roles from a someone who is great at seducing a woman to someone is fantastic at keeping a woman happy is never an easy one. It's like going from first gear to fourth -- not easy! The bottom line is that love makes it all worthwhile. You have no choice but to change if you want to keep the love. Remember who this woman fell in love with; an exciting, adventurous man who made her feel like the most special girl in the world. Keeping this image of yourself, the one you worked so hard to achieve, and recognizing that your tactics need to shift will help you avoid the fate that so many other pick-up artists' relationships suffer. - 15784
The idea of falling in love with the woman we seduce barely crosses the mind of student pick-up artists. They often view love as an impossibility or something that they will be able to control or avoid. But avoidance doesn't work. Love happens to all of us. Look at Neil Strauss, best-selling author of The Game. Look at the main character, the infamous Mystery, who goes nearly crazy... as a result of the woman he loves. See, love happens whether we want it to or not.
The challenge most men have, no matter how great they are when it comes to seducing a woman, is how hold on to the woman they love. This is particularly true for men who used the tactics they picked up in the books they have read and the courses they attended. See, the one thing these courses and books fail to teach their students is how to maintain a long-term relationship. These student pick-up artists naively buy into the idea of the alpha male personality. They don't care to know about how to appreciate their woman until it is virtually too late. Even those who do realize the importance of appreciation often don't know how to maintain the right levels of appreciation.
The thing these books and courses are great at is teaching us how to seduce. But they do little when it comes to showing us where to take a relationship beyond the initial stages. So we move from "new and exciting" and eventually reach that comfortable stage. This is where the challenges begin because we feel there is little work left to do to keep the "magic" of the relationship going. This is such a bad mistake, however. Although it's nearly impossible to uphold the same level of excitement that landed us this great catch, there more tactics we need to learn that will help our woman love us... for the long-term.
One of the most basic things we can do is appreciate her. Recognize that we are not good at appreciation. While we typically think that appreciation needs to be a big-time effort, it need not be. Simply saying thank you for a failed dinner attempt or giving her a hug and kiss for nice, random token of her love will keep the mood positive. Because once we stop showing our appreciation, she will feel neglected and may start looking elsewhere for this type of attention.
A second vital tactic is excitement. This is more difficult in the comfort stage, but remember that it need not reach the same levels or grandeur as in the initial stages of the relationship. In fact, an occasional adventure once every two or three weeks can keep the relationship fresh enough to make her want to stick around for the "next" spontaneous event.
Shifting roles from a someone who is great at seducing a woman to someone is fantastic at keeping a woman happy is never an easy one. It's like going from first gear to fourth -- not easy! The bottom line is that love makes it all worthwhile. You have no choice but to change if you want to keep the love. Remember who this woman fell in love with; an exciting, adventurous man who made her feel like the most special girl in the world. Keeping this image of yourself, the one you worked so hard to achieve, and recognizing that your tactics need to shift will help you avoid the fate that so many other pick-up artists' relationships suffer. - 15784
About the Author:
Daryl Duke offers a course for budding pick-up artists free of charge at SeductAnyWoman.com. His course isn't just about the pick-up. It teaches how to Find, Attract, and Keep the right woman.