When your wife has a chronic illness, though you may love her no matter what, it can be hard for her to get into a romantic mood. Physical pain from the actual illness to weight gain or loss, bloating, and less-than-fun symptoms of medication can all be a deterrent to some romantic moments.
Be assured that you are not alone. Nearly 1 in 2 people in the USA live with a chronic illness and so many marriages are impacted. Unfortunately, nearly seventy-five percent of them end in divorce when an illness is that "third party" in the marriage.
So! Can you get the spark back? Yes! Here are some creative romantic gift ideas and ways to say, "I love you."
Chocolate. Yes, it really can be that simple. But buy her some sugar-free chocolate that she can splurge on without the guilt. It's amazing how good it tastes! Chocolate has a chemical called phenyl ethylamine that actually produces the feeling of "being in love." Check out your local Wal-Mart or Target for their Russell Stover's chocolates that come in bags. Coconut, caramels, and pecans hmmmm you get the idea.
Hold her hand. Yes, I know. You're hoping for more than just holding hands. But if it takes a woman without an illness awhile to get in the mood, you can imagine the affection she needs in order to forget her physical pain. Rub her back carefully, use an endearing name you haven't used in five years, and don't pressure her for more. Snuggle, cuddle, snuggle as if you will never let her go.
Pour out your heart about how much you admire the strength she shows in the darkest moments. Let her know you know that living with illness is difficult and that you are blessed to be married to someone with so much character and joy. Remind her that you love her and are in it "in sickness and in health."
Give her an indulgence of something she wouldn't buy herself, especially something to lighten up her mood on days when she isn't feeling well. Get her the DVD her favorite movie from high school, or a cozy new down comforter for her bed.
Schedule a day of rest for her. Get the kids out of the house, give her a new pair of pjs, and let her know she has he day to do whatever she wants.
Hide romantic notes in places she will find them. Stick a note in the fridge that says, "I know it's hard for you to go grocery shopping. Please know how much it means to me that you keep this box stocked just for me!"
Looking for a romantic dinner idea for staying home? Buy a fondue pot and commit to dipping something in it during candlelight one evening a week while you talk about the week.
Are you having troubles starting up some romantic conversations? Buy a book about conversation starters or fill a jar with topics. Do a search online for "romantic conversation starters."
Don't forget to make a few changes in the bedroom to spark some romance. As silly as it sounds, candles, roses, and a great play list on your ipod tells her that you cared enough to set the mood for her.
There is no perfect way to romance your wife because every woman is different and needing different things. So communication is the key. Ask, "What are your biggest concerns right now? How can I help you feel more loved?"
When you make an effort to increase the romance in the relationship, chances are she will notice and appreciate the effort so much you may not get a chance to finish that book on romancing your wife, because she may be ready for some romance. And don't forget, doing the dishes or the laundry can be the best way to your wife's heart. - 15784
Be assured that you are not alone. Nearly 1 in 2 people in the USA live with a chronic illness and so many marriages are impacted. Unfortunately, nearly seventy-five percent of them end in divorce when an illness is that "third party" in the marriage.
So! Can you get the spark back? Yes! Here are some creative romantic gift ideas and ways to say, "I love you."
Chocolate. Yes, it really can be that simple. But buy her some sugar-free chocolate that she can splurge on without the guilt. It's amazing how good it tastes! Chocolate has a chemical called phenyl ethylamine that actually produces the feeling of "being in love." Check out your local Wal-Mart or Target for their Russell Stover's chocolates that come in bags. Coconut, caramels, and pecans hmmmm you get the idea.
Hold her hand. Yes, I know. You're hoping for more than just holding hands. But if it takes a woman without an illness awhile to get in the mood, you can imagine the affection she needs in order to forget her physical pain. Rub her back carefully, use an endearing name you haven't used in five years, and don't pressure her for more. Snuggle, cuddle, snuggle as if you will never let her go.
Pour out your heart about how much you admire the strength she shows in the darkest moments. Let her know you know that living with illness is difficult and that you are blessed to be married to someone with so much character and joy. Remind her that you love her and are in it "in sickness and in health."
Give her an indulgence of something she wouldn't buy herself, especially something to lighten up her mood on days when she isn't feeling well. Get her the DVD her favorite movie from high school, or a cozy new down comforter for her bed.
Schedule a day of rest for her. Get the kids out of the house, give her a new pair of pjs, and let her know she has he day to do whatever she wants.
Hide romantic notes in places she will find them. Stick a note in the fridge that says, "I know it's hard for you to go grocery shopping. Please know how much it means to me that you keep this box stocked just for me!"
Looking for a romantic dinner idea for staying home? Buy a fondue pot and commit to dipping something in it during candlelight one evening a week while you talk about the week.
Are you having troubles starting up some romantic conversations? Buy a book about conversation starters or fill a jar with topics. Do a search online for "romantic conversation starters."
Don't forget to make a few changes in the bedroom to spark some romance. As silly as it sounds, candles, roses, and a great play list on your ipod tells her that you cared enough to set the mood for her.
There is no perfect way to romance your wife because every woman is different and needing different things. So communication is the key. Ask, "What are your biggest concerns right now? How can I help you feel more loved?"
When you make an effort to increase the romance in the relationship, chances are she will notice and appreciate the effort so much you may not get a chance to finish that book on romancing your wife, because she may be ready for some romance. And don't forget, doing the dishes or the laundry can be the best way to your wife's heart. - 15784
About the Author:
Get 40 pages of Beyond Casseroles: 505 Ways to Encourage a Chronically Ill Friend by Lisa Copen when you sign up for HopeNotes chronic illness ezine at Rest Ministries. Lisa is the director of Invisible Illness Awareness Week