Are they the One? Confused about whether your partner is the person you are meant to spend the rest of your life with?
Can we make it last?
Are we meant to be together?
Can we make it through the good times and the bad?
Most of these questions come from a fear of the unknown and they are completely normal. Not knowing how your partner will react or cope with certain life issues or maybe just not knowing them really deep down can leave doubt and fear in your mind.
An estimated 83% of divorces could be avoided if the couples asked the right questions in the first place
As you began to date and get to know your partner you probably went through some of the important relationship questions such as do you want kids, would you like to get married, would you like to buy a house etc.
These discussions obviously help you understand whether you are heading in the right direction or not. What would be even better is if you really took those questions to the next level. Lets say you are having a discussion about your future and whether you would like to have children or not. These questions would be more helpful to you in the long run:
What sort of parent do you think you will be?
What do you think are the best ways to discipline a child?
What are you fears about having children?
Can you see the answers to these questions will require more than just a one word answer - a bit of thought is required - and that will help you decide whether they are the one for you or not.
Most answers will be very individual giving you much more information that the one-worded answers. More information = more informed choices and a better expectation of what your future holds together.
Whether you answer these questions together face to face or individually by writing a letter or sending an email once a day will give you more understanding about who your partner is and what they expect for their future.
The most important issues you could be discussing regarding your future are:
Home
Employment
Family and Friends Relationships
Beliefs, Ethics and Convictions
Health
Financial Matters and Money
Children and Parenting
Recreation and Hobbies
Past Experience and the Future
Pets in the Home
Marriage
Possible Conflict Issues
Religion and Spirituality
Conversation and Communicating
Sex and Expectations
Vacations
Could you marry someone if you were a saver and aimed to buy a house whilst they were a spender and didnt want to commit to a purchase so big?
Do your goals run in line with each other? If you have completely different goals in life could your relationship survive through both of you striving for something different?
Do you share the same ideas about communicating and discussing problems? What is one of you is really open and honest and the other is shy and doesn't want to share what they think or voice an opinion?
Getting more information about your partner and their future expectations will really help you make a decision about whether you should be together or not. It will help you identify any problem areas either at the moment or for the future i.e different parenting attitudes, giving you the power right now to either help work through it or decide it it maybe best to leave things. - 15784
Can we make it last?
Are we meant to be together?
Can we make it through the good times and the bad?
Most of these questions come from a fear of the unknown and they are completely normal. Not knowing how your partner will react or cope with certain life issues or maybe just not knowing them really deep down can leave doubt and fear in your mind.
An estimated 83% of divorces could be avoided if the couples asked the right questions in the first place
As you began to date and get to know your partner you probably went through some of the important relationship questions such as do you want kids, would you like to get married, would you like to buy a house etc.
These discussions obviously help you understand whether you are heading in the right direction or not. What would be even better is if you really took those questions to the next level. Lets say you are having a discussion about your future and whether you would like to have children or not. These questions would be more helpful to you in the long run:
What sort of parent do you think you will be?
What do you think are the best ways to discipline a child?
What are you fears about having children?
Can you see the answers to these questions will require more than just a one word answer - a bit of thought is required - and that will help you decide whether they are the one for you or not.
Most answers will be very individual giving you much more information that the one-worded answers. More information = more informed choices and a better expectation of what your future holds together.
Whether you answer these questions together face to face or individually by writing a letter or sending an email once a day will give you more understanding about who your partner is and what they expect for their future.
The most important issues you could be discussing regarding your future are:
Home
Employment
Family and Friends Relationships
Beliefs, Ethics and Convictions
Health
Financial Matters and Money
Children and Parenting
Recreation and Hobbies
Past Experience and the Future
Pets in the Home
Marriage
Possible Conflict Issues
Religion and Spirituality
Conversation and Communicating
Sex and Expectations
Vacations
Could you marry someone if you were a saver and aimed to buy a house whilst they were a spender and didnt want to commit to a purchase so big?
Do your goals run in line with each other? If you have completely different goals in life could your relationship survive through both of you striving for something different?
Do you share the same ideas about communicating and discussing problems? What is one of you is really open and honest and the other is shy and doesn't want to share what they think or voice an opinion?
Getting more information about your partner and their future expectations will really help you make a decision about whether you should be together or not. It will help you identify any problem areas either at the moment or for the future i.e different parenting attitudes, giving you the power right now to either help work through it or decide it it maybe best to leave things. - 15784
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Delve into all the important life topics in much more detail by visiting Questions for Couples Making the effort to answer these important of questions in a honest fashion will really help you make a decision if they are "The One?"