I've seen this happen a bunch of times - a guy approaches a girl, says something, usually a few words, and then is left with nothing to really say. The conversation is dead on the vine, before it could even start.
After a certain point, the guy didn't attract her attention and pretty much runs out of things to say. After that, the girl brushes him off and he's left scratching his head.
Whether you're meeting women at parties, coffee shops, bookstores, bars, or nightclubs, without keeping the ball rolling after approaching them, your chances of success are grim.
If you can't follow up and continue the conversation after you've approached the girl, you're destined for one failure after another. And as you can imagine, that will get pretty frustrating pretty fast!
Some guys know how to start up conversations with girls - it's easy enough to do if you have a good pick up line that actually works. But taking it BEYOND that initial conversation is always the part guys run into trouble with.
This part is riddled with boring questions, awkward silences, and desperate attempts to salvage a sinking ship. For the life of them, most guys just don't know what to talk about with women!
I wasn't blessed with any sort of gift of gab. I was like many guys in that I was editing my words before I even said them, and worry about what I had already said. The end result was that I was tongue tied and had even less to say.
And I'd suffer the same fate as many of these men - the girl would politely excuse herself from the interaction, and I'd never see her again.
But then, I made a breakthrough discovery...
Have you ever noticed that when you're talking to a girl you're NOT attracted to, how easy it is to carry on a conversation? You can just focus on having a good time, shoot the breeze, and talk about anything, no matter how silly or stupid it may seem?
The key here is not about trying to keep the girl engaged, it's about trying to make YOURSELF feel comfortable!
Once you can be relaxed and loosen up, you naturally become a more engaging guy!
But being comfortable with a girl isn't enough. You also have to be able to build sexual tension while talking to her, otherwise, there's nothing to keep her interested in you.
So the best way to quickly engage a woman, and keep her engaged, is to talk to her the same way you'd talk to a girl you already know, feel comfortable with, and think is attracted to you.
That last part is key! Believing the girl is already attracted to you (even if she isn't) helps put you in the right mindset to create the sexual tension you need to build up attraction.
Look at the subjects you talk about with women that you know. The same topics can be used with women that you've just met.
After that, pretend that you've known the woman for years, and assume that she's really crazy about you. Do this and you'll find it far easier to keep a woman engaged for as long as you like. - 15784
After a certain point, the guy didn't attract her attention and pretty much runs out of things to say. After that, the girl brushes him off and he's left scratching his head.
Whether you're meeting women at parties, coffee shops, bookstores, bars, or nightclubs, without keeping the ball rolling after approaching them, your chances of success are grim.
If you can't follow up and continue the conversation after you've approached the girl, you're destined for one failure after another. And as you can imagine, that will get pretty frustrating pretty fast!
Some guys know how to start up conversations with girls - it's easy enough to do if you have a good pick up line that actually works. But taking it BEYOND that initial conversation is always the part guys run into trouble with.
This part is riddled with boring questions, awkward silences, and desperate attempts to salvage a sinking ship. For the life of them, most guys just don't know what to talk about with women!
I wasn't blessed with any sort of gift of gab. I was like many guys in that I was editing my words before I even said them, and worry about what I had already said. The end result was that I was tongue tied and had even less to say.
And I'd suffer the same fate as many of these men - the girl would politely excuse herself from the interaction, and I'd never see her again.
But then, I made a breakthrough discovery...
Have you ever noticed that when you're talking to a girl you're NOT attracted to, how easy it is to carry on a conversation? You can just focus on having a good time, shoot the breeze, and talk about anything, no matter how silly or stupid it may seem?
The key here is not about trying to keep the girl engaged, it's about trying to make YOURSELF feel comfortable!
Once you can be relaxed and loosen up, you naturally become a more engaging guy!
But being comfortable with a girl isn't enough. You also have to be able to build sexual tension while talking to her, otherwise, there's nothing to keep her interested in you.
So the best way to quickly engage a woman, and keep her engaged, is to talk to her the same way you'd talk to a girl you already know, feel comfortable with, and think is attracted to you.
That last part is key! Believing the girl is already attracted to you (even if she isn't) helps put you in the right mindset to create the sexual tension you need to build up attraction.
Look at the subjects you talk about with women that you know. The same topics can be used with women that you've just met.
After that, pretend that you've known the woman for years, and assume that she's really crazy about you. Do this and you'll find it far easier to keep a woman engaged for as long as you like. - 15784
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