Conflict can kill a marriage over time. So it pays off to learn how to reduce conflict and to learn to argue in a healthy way. Shows like Dr Phil and lots of books and courses can teach you to fight fair and to minimize the damage conflict causes to your marriage.
You really can improve the quality of your marriage by learning how to deal with conflict in positive rather than negative ways. It is worth paying attention to. However, is there a way to stop conflict before it ever begins? Is there a way to stop fighting at the source?
There is a way to minimize fighting and stop it at its source. This strategy is a secret that no one talks about even though it is staring us right in the face. The way to stop marital conflict before it starts is to PLAY more with your spouse!
Play is the secret weapon against conflict! The more play in your marriage, the less conflict. Remember at the start of your relationship? You played all the time with your partner. You had sex, went to dinner, danced, had lots of sexual activity. In the falling in love stage there was lots more playing than fighting.
But over time, we get married, have kids, have responsibilities and burdens. The play can almost disappear from our relationship. And as the play disappears, the fighting grows and increases in almost direct proportion.
So to stop fighting at the source start to play with your spouse more on purpose. Have one date night per week where you do something together you both enjoy. Find a few other times during the week to have spontaneous sex, fun or play with your mate. Add play back in with your spouse and observe what happens.
Increasing the play in your marriage will reduce the conflict. It may be difficult at first, if you've gotten out of the habit with each other, but it is fun to change that habit. So spend a little time planning to play and see for yourself how much conflict begins to diminish between you using this little secret. - 15784
You really can improve the quality of your marriage by learning how to deal with conflict in positive rather than negative ways. It is worth paying attention to. However, is there a way to stop conflict before it ever begins? Is there a way to stop fighting at the source?
There is a way to minimize fighting and stop it at its source. This strategy is a secret that no one talks about even though it is staring us right in the face. The way to stop marital conflict before it starts is to PLAY more with your spouse!
Play is the secret weapon against conflict! The more play in your marriage, the less conflict. Remember at the start of your relationship? You played all the time with your partner. You had sex, went to dinner, danced, had lots of sexual activity. In the falling in love stage there was lots more playing than fighting.
But over time, we get married, have kids, have responsibilities and burdens. The play can almost disappear from our relationship. And as the play disappears, the fighting grows and increases in almost direct proportion.
So to stop fighting at the source start to play with your spouse more on purpose. Have one date night per week where you do something together you both enjoy. Find a few other times during the week to have spontaneous sex, fun or play with your mate. Add play back in with your spouse and observe what happens.
Increasing the play in your marriage will reduce the conflict. It may be difficult at first, if you've gotten out of the habit with each other, but it is fun to change that habit. So spend a little time planning to play and see for yourself how much conflict begins to diminish between you using this little secret. - 15784
About the Author:
You can discover more marriage advice in a book about Save Your Marriage Today. Johnnie S Laney teaches courses on relationship intelligence. You can get a free course on 7 Vital Relationship Insights here at Marriage Help And Advice.