Let's face it - having to approach women is a real pain. In fact, it's so much of a pain, if you were to ask the average guy, they'd much rather the woman approach them if she's interested!
It would be easier, right? No burden, and no fear of rejection.
The truth of the matter is, very few women want to put themselves in the position of being rejected.
That's not to say the occasional assertive woman won't come up and approach a guy. But these are few and far inbetween. Not only that, if you're not her physical type, she won't approach you at all!
So being in the position of approaching women is actually preferable, because you get to pick the girl you want to approach!
The problem comes from the fact that most guys approach the wrong women. They are oblivious to what the woman is thinking and feeling, and whether or not she's opened to be approached at all.
This is the main cause of rejection when approaching.
So you need to start being aware of the signals women give off that let you know they're open to being approached by you. Sometimes these signals are obvious. Other times, they can be very subtle. But either way, you need to know how to spot them.
Understand how women work - if they like you, they're not going to come out and say it. Instead, they'll send a number of signals your way, and wait for you to approach them.
If you miss these signals, they'll just think you're not interested, even if you are! So spotting them is crucial.
Look for strong eye contact and smiles in your direction. These are subtle things. Look at if she's playing with her hair when she looks at you, or if she's tilting your head.
Some women will do other things to attract a man's attention that aren't as subtle. Maybe she'll wave at you? Wink at you? Raise an eyebrow? Make an excuse to walk past you or stand near you? Or she might strike up a conversation with one of your friends.
When you spot these signals, you MUST make your move and act on them. Don't wait around expecting her to initate the contact, because she won't. She's waiting to see if you're confident enough to approach her. If not, she'll just move on to another guy.
It's not that women CAN'T initiate a meeting. If she's not interested in you romantically, she may walk right up, shake your hand, introduce herself and get down to business.
But when it comes to romance, it's a completely different issue, and here's why.
Women associate aggressive men with strong mates. That's not to say they're looking for a juiced-up freak who won't leave them alone! But they are looking for a guy with enough confidence to take the first steps.
If you don't, you'll be written off, it's as simple as that. So instead of waiting around hoping she'll make the first move, take a chance and go after her.
Trust me, you'll get much better results! - 15784
It would be easier, right? No burden, and no fear of rejection.
The truth of the matter is, very few women want to put themselves in the position of being rejected.
That's not to say the occasional assertive woman won't come up and approach a guy. But these are few and far inbetween. Not only that, if you're not her physical type, she won't approach you at all!
So being in the position of approaching women is actually preferable, because you get to pick the girl you want to approach!
The problem comes from the fact that most guys approach the wrong women. They are oblivious to what the woman is thinking and feeling, and whether or not she's opened to be approached at all.
This is the main cause of rejection when approaching.
So you need to start being aware of the signals women give off that let you know they're open to being approached by you. Sometimes these signals are obvious. Other times, they can be very subtle. But either way, you need to know how to spot them.
Understand how women work - if they like you, they're not going to come out and say it. Instead, they'll send a number of signals your way, and wait for you to approach them.
If you miss these signals, they'll just think you're not interested, even if you are! So spotting them is crucial.
Look for strong eye contact and smiles in your direction. These are subtle things. Look at if she's playing with her hair when she looks at you, or if she's tilting your head.
Some women will do other things to attract a man's attention that aren't as subtle. Maybe she'll wave at you? Wink at you? Raise an eyebrow? Make an excuse to walk past you or stand near you? Or she might strike up a conversation with one of your friends.
When you spot these signals, you MUST make your move and act on them. Don't wait around expecting her to initate the contact, because she won't. She's waiting to see if you're confident enough to approach her. If not, she'll just move on to another guy.
It's not that women CAN'T initiate a meeting. If she's not interested in you romantically, she may walk right up, shake your hand, introduce herself and get down to business.
But when it comes to romance, it's a completely different issue, and here's why.
Women associate aggressive men with strong mates. That's not to say they're looking for a juiced-up freak who won't leave them alone! But they are looking for a guy with enough confidence to take the first steps.
If you don't, you'll be written off, it's as simple as that. So instead of waiting around hoping she'll make the first move, take a chance and go after her.
Trust me, you'll get much better results! - 15784
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Joseph Matthews has been instructing guys how to meet women since 2004, and is widely known as an authority in the field of confidence building and dating advice. If you want to discover more about how to meet women, check out his free newsletter.