As a male, I grew up with the concept that romance simply means a nice suit, an expensive dinner and roses or chocolates. I spend some money taking my date out for a nice dinner and she says "wow" with a twinkle in her eye, thinking I am the best man for her world. This I have found, like most preconceived notions relating to love, is a fallacy.
I understand now that the dinner and flowers formula to romance was a great idea generations ago, when it was a relatively original concept requiring a deal of thought and effort. Today though, its just a tired old cop out. Its not original, it requires little thought and next to no effort.
Its funny that after so many generations, the concept of dinner and flowers is still the standard when it comes to romance. Which is quite strange when you think about it. I mean, in an age of abundance, dinner out just isn't special anymore. Its just what we do. We eat out with friends, with business associates, its a part of everyday living.
Flowers are the same, they are a common gift. We use them at funerals, to say good bye and welcome home, at births, birthdays and anniversaries. They are the gift you give when you can't be bothered thinking before you buy.
So what is romance then in today's age of abundance. To be honest, I'd argue it never has changed, to get it right, all we need to do is drop our pre-conceived ideas about it and start thinking.
Romance is about thought and effort. Its about understanding your partner and creating an experience that is just about her, one that will make her feel special. It is only in the understanding of your partner that you can create such an experience, so that's where it all starts.
Your partner for example may really enjoy long drives. So instead of taking her out to a restaurant, some thought may reveal that a drive to a country winery, where lunch and a jazz band awaits, is a much better idea. Romance isn't about the thing you do, its about the thought and intention that got you there.
So get to know your partner. Understand what makes her tick, learn the types of thing she enjoys. Then, the next time you want to do something romantic for her, create an experience that is about those things. If you do that, she'll see you've been listening to her, she'll see the effort you've made and she'll recognise the true romantic that resides within you. - 15784
I understand now that the dinner and flowers formula to romance was a great idea generations ago, when it was a relatively original concept requiring a deal of thought and effort. Today though, its just a tired old cop out. Its not original, it requires little thought and next to no effort.
Its funny that after so many generations, the concept of dinner and flowers is still the standard when it comes to romance. Which is quite strange when you think about it. I mean, in an age of abundance, dinner out just isn't special anymore. Its just what we do. We eat out with friends, with business associates, its a part of everyday living.
Flowers are the same, they are a common gift. We use them at funerals, to say good bye and welcome home, at births, birthdays and anniversaries. They are the gift you give when you can't be bothered thinking before you buy.
So what is romance then in today's age of abundance. To be honest, I'd argue it never has changed, to get it right, all we need to do is drop our pre-conceived ideas about it and start thinking.
Romance is about thought and effort. Its about understanding your partner and creating an experience that is just about her, one that will make her feel special. It is only in the understanding of your partner that you can create such an experience, so that's where it all starts.
Your partner for example may really enjoy long drives. So instead of taking her out to a restaurant, some thought may reveal that a drive to a country winery, where lunch and a jazz band awaits, is a much better idea. Romance isn't about the thing you do, its about the thought and intention that got you there.
So get to know your partner. Understand what makes her tick, learn the types of thing she enjoys. Then, the next time you want to do something romantic for her, create an experience that is about those things. If you do that, she'll see you've been listening to her, she'll see the effort you've made and she'll recognise the true romantic that resides within you. - 15784