If you want your ex back, is your plan to wait weeks or months and hope enough time has passed that they'll miss you and/or forgive you and want you back? Waiting weeks or months can cause you to lose your mate forever if they move on to someone else. Instead, try the following 3 step plan for getting your ex back in just days instead of months.
Step One: The very first thing you need to do is understand why the relationship got broke. What did you or they do that contributed to the split? What were the underlying reasons or the big problem that developed between you?
There will be one of three major reasons why it ended. You wronged them. Maybe you cheated or you were too jealous or whatever. Second is they wronged you in some major way. Third, they just weren't that into you anymore.
Admitting what went wrong is an important first step. You can't repair the relationship if you aren't clear about what got broken.
The Second Step is to have a special kind of conversation with them that focuses on how you both feel rather than on blaming and arguing. You want to make it clear in the beginning of this conversation that you aren't going to attack and blame, and they don't need to justify or explain. That you just want them to listen and be listened to. So, for example, if you cheated on them, you need to let them vent about their feelings about what you did, and you need to make them feel heard. (This step doesn't apply to Relationship Drift, you have to do something different.)
The key is for both of you to discuss your feelings about what went wrong. Not to prove who's right or wrong. The negative emotions filling your mate's heart may need to be vented and released. You do this by listening to them, not arguing with them. Once they are aired out, you start to have some room for more positive feelings about each other again.
Step Three, the final step, depends on how well Step Two went. If you feel like the bad feelings have been aired sufficiently and vented, then you can apologize (or accept their apology) and see about getting back together.
You don't need to demand or pressure your mate to get back together or make a big decision. You need to let them know you are interested in seeing them again and ask them to consider that. Leaving the ball in their court is often the best practice at this stage. There is a lot more to this, but following these three steps can begin to repair your love relationship and pave the way for reconnecting without waiting weeks and just hoping they want you back. - 15784
Step One: The very first thing you need to do is understand why the relationship got broke. What did you or they do that contributed to the split? What were the underlying reasons or the big problem that developed between you?
There will be one of three major reasons why it ended. You wronged them. Maybe you cheated or you were too jealous or whatever. Second is they wronged you in some major way. Third, they just weren't that into you anymore.
Admitting what went wrong is an important first step. You can't repair the relationship if you aren't clear about what got broken.
The Second Step is to have a special kind of conversation with them that focuses on how you both feel rather than on blaming and arguing. You want to make it clear in the beginning of this conversation that you aren't going to attack and blame, and they don't need to justify or explain. That you just want them to listen and be listened to. So, for example, if you cheated on them, you need to let them vent about their feelings about what you did, and you need to make them feel heard. (This step doesn't apply to Relationship Drift, you have to do something different.)
The key is for both of you to discuss your feelings about what went wrong. Not to prove who's right or wrong. The negative emotions filling your mate's heart may need to be vented and released. You do this by listening to them, not arguing with them. Once they are aired out, you start to have some room for more positive feelings about each other again.
Step Three, the final step, depends on how well Step Two went. If you feel like the bad feelings have been aired sufficiently and vented, then you can apologize (or accept their apology) and see about getting back together.
You don't need to demand or pressure your mate to get back together or make a big decision. You need to let them know you are interested in seeing them again and ask them to consider that. Leaving the ball in their court is often the best practice at this stage. There is a lot more to this, but following these three steps can begin to repair your love relationship and pave the way for reconnecting without waiting weeks and just hoping they want you back. - 15784
About the Author:
For a complete 7 Step Strategy to get your ex back in one day, you can get a book on Relationship Help To Get Your Ex Back. John Laney teaches relationship skills and you can get a free relationship intelligence course at Love Relationship Help.