It certainly seems cliche, the idea of meeting women in a book store. It does happen though, and probably more than you think. The key to it is being able to transition from the first "hello" to making plans for a second meeting. It can be tricky, and you certainly don't want to rush things. Here are a few ideas that can help you out.
#1. Go to a large store. The smaller stores, especially independents, might be close but they have a few drawbacks that create problems for you. They are cramped, and often times even have books lying on the ground. If it's a busy day, employees may be rushing through the tiny aisles. There's a good chance they'll get in your way. Making an approach in there can be like doing an obstacle course. I stick to the bigger stores, like a Barnes and Nobles or Borders. They have wider aisles, comfortable chairs, and great coffee. In other words, greater for making approaches.
#2. Don't try to impress women who are reading books from sections that you normally wouldn't set foot in. If you are into anime and she is reading the newest tome from Dr. Phil, you might not have much luck in finding a good conversation starter. If you look in the sections that you normally shop in, you have a built in way to start a conversation. You can either mention what you've thought about the book she's looking at or ask her if she might be able to recommend something since you can see that she reads the same books you do. Obviously you could do this in another section as well, but it is risky-especially if she asks you what other books in that section you have read.
#3. It is better to approach someone who is wandering around and looking at the shelves than it is to approach someone who is already sitting down and reading through a book. If she looks like she is very into what she is reading, it is best to leave her alone. You don't want to start the relationship by annoying her in the middle of a good book, do you? Plus, if you talk to a woman who is already browsing, you have the built in conversation starters discussed in the second tip. Of course, if stops reading to look at you, you can assume that it is okay to approach her.
#4. Move the conversation into an area better suited for conversation-the coffee shop. This is why you are in the bigger bookstore-it's coffee shop. If you have managed to strike up a conversation with an interesting woman, it is easy to move it from the book section over to the coffee shop. All you have to do is either turn like you are about to start walking to see if she will walk with you or, if you are feeling bold, simply say "I definitely want to keep talking about this, but I don't want to disturb the other shoppers. Can I buy you a cup of coffee over in the cafe?" And with that simple question you have moved from "picking up" the woman to your first date.
#5. At some point you are going to have to decide if you would like to talk to this woman again and if she doesn't ask you for your phone number or initiate plans for another get together, it is going to be up to you to get things started. It might be up to you anyway as some women still wait for the man to make the first move. If you have no coffee in your cup and are still talking, I'd ask for her number so that you can make plans to see her again.
These are just five simple tips you can keep in mind if you are trying to figure out a way to meet women at the bookstore. The best advice we can give you is to keep it simple. Just remember to be yourself because trying to be somebody that you are not can back fire on you very quickly in a bookstore setting. - 15784
#1. Go to a large store. The smaller stores, especially independents, might be close but they have a few drawbacks that create problems for you. They are cramped, and often times even have books lying on the ground. If it's a busy day, employees may be rushing through the tiny aisles. There's a good chance they'll get in your way. Making an approach in there can be like doing an obstacle course. I stick to the bigger stores, like a Barnes and Nobles or Borders. They have wider aisles, comfortable chairs, and great coffee. In other words, greater for making approaches.
#2. Don't try to impress women who are reading books from sections that you normally wouldn't set foot in. If you are into anime and she is reading the newest tome from Dr. Phil, you might not have much luck in finding a good conversation starter. If you look in the sections that you normally shop in, you have a built in way to start a conversation. You can either mention what you've thought about the book she's looking at or ask her if she might be able to recommend something since you can see that she reads the same books you do. Obviously you could do this in another section as well, but it is risky-especially if she asks you what other books in that section you have read.
#3. It is better to approach someone who is wandering around and looking at the shelves than it is to approach someone who is already sitting down and reading through a book. If she looks like she is very into what she is reading, it is best to leave her alone. You don't want to start the relationship by annoying her in the middle of a good book, do you? Plus, if you talk to a woman who is already browsing, you have the built in conversation starters discussed in the second tip. Of course, if stops reading to look at you, you can assume that it is okay to approach her.
#4. Move the conversation into an area better suited for conversation-the coffee shop. This is why you are in the bigger bookstore-it's coffee shop. If you have managed to strike up a conversation with an interesting woman, it is easy to move it from the book section over to the coffee shop. All you have to do is either turn like you are about to start walking to see if she will walk with you or, if you are feeling bold, simply say "I definitely want to keep talking about this, but I don't want to disturb the other shoppers. Can I buy you a cup of coffee over in the cafe?" And with that simple question you have moved from "picking up" the woman to your first date.
#5. At some point you are going to have to decide if you would like to talk to this woman again and if she doesn't ask you for your phone number or initiate plans for another get together, it is going to be up to you to get things started. It might be up to you anyway as some women still wait for the man to make the first move. If you have no coffee in your cup and are still talking, I'd ask for her number so that you can make plans to see her again.
These are just five simple tips you can keep in mind if you are trying to figure out a way to meet women at the bookstore. The best advice we can give you is to keep it simple. Just remember to be yourself because trying to be somebody that you are not can back fire on you very quickly in a bookstore setting. - 15784
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